Dating the King of Pentacles

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Dating the King of Pentacles

“Carnal love: a practical man’s love. A love you can see, touch, and taste if you’re kinky. If you can’t hear it, you’re probably better suited to its more abstract form.” ― Benson Bruno The King of Pentacles is the King of Practicality. He’s a no-nonsense family provider and businessman. He doesn’t waste time on dreams that can’t be turned into (profitable) reality. He can be intelligent but is usually not too imaginative. He prefers the tried and trusted to novel ideas…. Unless, of course, there is a large sum of money attached to the end of it. He’s intuitive when it comes to making a buck but doesn’t usually extend his gut instincts to serve him in other areas. Because the material realm is his domain, he can also be quite health conscious. Traditionally a Virgo male, he can even be fastidious to the point of OCD. Being male, he tends to not air his worries but tucks them in the gut where they can wreak havoc with his digestive system. His shady (reversed) aspects can be seen over at 8 Types of W*ankers. Pros: He’s responsible. Stuff matters to this guy and he takes a lot of pride in his work. This is one man you won’t have to teach how to floss. It’s more likely that he’s the one who’ll remind you daily about how flossing adds six years to your life. If you like the idea of a big garden but aren’t too keen on doing the actual gardening, he’s your man! Being quite conventional, he’s one of the safest bets if you’re looking to start a family. He takes his role as breadwinner very seriously which allows you to focus on raising the children should you so wish. Cons: Can take the whole ‘cleanliness is next to godliness’ thingy a tad too far. You shouldn’t have to worry about having a shower before sex every time on your honeymoon, should you? Nor should you have the man of the house walk behind you and check your dusting with his index finger. And god help you if you put his carefully arranged kitchen knives in the wrong order! Very careful about spending and expects the same of you, especially after the initial courtship period has ended. Be prepared to justify any purchase as useful. Not very subtle when it comes to using words in the game of seduction. The King or Knight of Wands can be blunt too but are usually better at carrying it off because they somehow manage to make you laugh at the same time. Out of all his mates, you can count on him to be the first to reach the pipe and slippers stage. Type of date he prefers: He’ll worry about how it ‘should’ be done. Traditional wining and dining is on the menu in other words. He might also try to impress...

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Codependency, Vampirism and The Devil

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Codependency, Vampirism and The Devil

Codependency is an unhealthy form of attachment where one person subordinates their needs to meet the needs of another even though the other person is abusive. Classic codependency involves substance abuse of some type, but the term is used more broadly to describe any type of relationship where one person neglects their own needs and obsesses about meeting the needs of another person. Essentially the codependent personality type has one main need of her own: to be needed. Someone who is codependent suffers from low self-esteem and usually gets their way through manipulation and passive aggression rather than being direct. They are in denial about what is happening in the relationship because they are cut off from their own power. Codependents are magnetised toward Narcissistic personality types who welcome their sacrifice and feed on their energy (emotional vampirism). Often, but not always, the codependent person was brought up by a Narcissistic parent. A codependent person tends to comply with the other person and values the opinions of the other more highly than their own opinion. They also display extreme loyalty to the person sucking them dry. They resent when others deny them to help out and they use blame/shame, charm, gifts (sometimes to the point of financial ruin) and sex (including forms of perversion and degradation) to control those whom they perceive as incapable of looking after themselves (the addict or Narcissist). When the higher self alerts the mind to the truth and the mind starts becoming aware of what is going on with the codependent ego, the ego usually defends itself in one of two ways so that it won’t have to heal: excessive aggression or going into victim mode. Medically, codependency is treated through psychotherapy, possibly together with antidepressants. There are also support group for codependents, just like there are for addicts. Energetically, healing needs to take place primarily on the third chakra (seat of personal power) level because this is where codependents tend to be corded to their partners, relinquishing their own power. Psychically, the cords look black and extraordinarily thick, taking up almost the whole diameter of the solar plexus chakra. Cord cutting is something you can attempt on your own with a bit of help from the Angels… but if you are in the process of freeing yourself from a codependent relationship, you may sometimes need a bit of help from  a local healer or in the form of a distance healing session. In the Tarot, The Devil card is often an indication of a codependent dynamic in a relationship. The Devil indicates power over another rather than the power of love represented by The Lovers. The mind influenced by The Devil is completely owned by the ego and dances at the end of the puppet strings of its fears. This mindset could represent two sides of the same coin, i.e. both the addict/Narcissist and the...

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Dating the Knight of Swords

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Dating the Knight of Swords

Anyone who doesn’t take truth seriously in small matters cannot be trusted in large ones either. ~ Albert Einstein All the Knights are on a quest for something and this one is on a quest for Truth. He has an Aquarian feel to him. If he finds something to be true, he latches on to it for dear life but if a new (and possibly completely opposed) theory makes more sense, I promise you’ll never see anyone make a quicker 180 degree turnaround and cling to this new truth more forcefully. So what if his friends or family can’t keep up? Let’s face it, they will never matter as much as The Truth to this guy. He may be a an arrogant pain in the arse sometimes (aren’t we all?) but if you know this guy and he is mostly well-meaning then please stay here. If he seems to take pleasure in proving others wrong and/or using his intellect to decimate others then please refer to 8 Types of W*ankers. Pros: If he finds a worthy cause that he believes in, he will be a staunch ally and advocate for that cause. He is not emotionally manipulative and jealousy doesn’t float his boat. He has a genuine interest in the bigger picture and doesn’t mind putting the footwork in to research things to get to the heart of the matter. Having a sharp, analytical mind, he’s often found in the IT industry where he earns a good living. The money is never what motivates him though. He’s not afraid to experiment and try new things in the bedroom. Cons: The whole dating and romance game often seems silly and like a waste of time to him. He’s also quite quick to pick faults with things… and people. So if you’re sensitive to that sort of thing, you’re probably better off with someone who’s a bit softer. Even though he often demands complete freedom for himself in the relationship, he can be oddly possessive about his partner. Sexually, he may be more interested in technique than intimacy. In his old age, you can find him pondering the evils of Christmas on ‘Grumpy Old Men.’ Type of date he prefers: The cinema (preferably SciFi) or simply a game of chess. Why complicate things? Time from your first date until you introduce him to your parents: Not until he is convinced being with you makes sense. Since love never does, you may have to wait a while… Or he may introduce you to them after the first date. Expect the unexpected! Because his heart is not always aligned with or in proportion to his mind, he often surprises himself too when the odd swell of emotions takes over. Wedding style: If walking down the aisle to the theme of Star Wars is your idea of the most romantic wedding ever, then this guy is your...

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Dating the Queen of Pentacles

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Dating the Queen of Pentacles

A Queen of Pentacles type Earth Mama is the ideal partner for someone who likes to come home to lovingly cooked meal every night. Especially if you don’t mind the cat, dog, 2 guinea pigs and 4 budgies co-habiting with you. A farmer looking for a wife should pray for the Queen of Pentacles to show up. This card usually signifies a lady with lots of Earth Element influences in her chart. If you think this might be the Queen of your dreams, then please stay here to get to know this rather lovely lady a bit better. For the shady aspects of this Queen, see B*tch Please (reversed Queens). Pros: Just being around her has a grounding and stabilising effect on you. You won’t have to wait for her to pop the kettle on and there will be extras (home-baked!) with your cuppa. She often uses food to show her love and appreciation of people. Her grounded manner extends to the work sphere too and she is more than capable of holding down a career while raising a family. She’s a hard worker. She usually holds traditional family values. She enjoys pregnancy and child-birth and is willing to go through it time and time again. Kids and pets all love her and she will quite happily feed any ‘strays’ that don’t get fed properly by their own parents or owners. Her natural sense of style has universal appeal. She prefers perennial classics to the latest trends and fashions. She is connected to nature and the land, and often well-respected by her neighbours. Cons: She is usually quite set in her ways, even at a young age. If you like to think of yourself as ‘The Real Indiana Jones’ or the kind of guy who likes to play the Devil’s advocate in an argument she probably won’t enjoy your ‘antics.’ Because she is a hard worker, she is not very tolerant of laziness in others. If you describe yourself as ‘laid back to the point of horizontal,’ you’re probably better off looking elsewhere. She can be quite judgemental of people who are prone to ‘flights of fancy.’ She often forgets to take as good care of number one as she does of everybody else. If you love her, you’ll help her with this. Type of date she prefers: If you take her out for a meal, you’ll want to make it a place where the food is rated in the Guide Michelin. Otherwise she will compare it unfavourably to her own cooking. A day out at the local farmer’s market would make a nice second date. Or maybe a hike. Just bring your antihistamines along if you’re allergic to dogs as she’ll have at least one in tow. How to seduce the Queen of Pentacles: Appeal to her sensual earthy nature and use scents and touch in particular. Token gifts of appreciation will...

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Dating the Queen of Swords

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Dating the Queen of Swords

So you have the hots for the Queen of Swords, huh? Want the lowdown and learn how to win her mind? Yes, I said mind. She often considers romantic love too cheesy to consult her heart. That’s not to say she won’t fall in love but it has to make sense to her. The Queen of Swords is usually heavy on the Element of Air in her chart. Her Sun or Rising sign is likely to be Gemini or Libra. She gets off on the subtleties of word usage but sometimes enjoys sarcasm to the point of turning into a bit of a bea-otch. If this is the case, you may find B*tch Please (reversed Queens) to be of more use to you. Pros: She is witty and holds her own in any conversation which definitely helps in a first date scenario. Less of the ‘awkward silence’ moments! She has an opinion about lots of things but is usually tactful enough to avoid coming across as arrogant. She’s too level-headed to fall head over heels in love or start planning what she’s going to name your children after the second date. She’s fair and not prone to emotional manipulation. Least likely to aim for ‘kept woman’ status. Very little reading between the lines is needed… Ah, but you still need to learn what women really mean: Cons: She might struggle with making her mind up and usually don’t mind dating (or talking to) a few guys at the same time. Develop an intelligent strategy to capture her mind if your intent is to capture her heart long-term.  If you’re insecure about your own intellectual prowess, you would do better looking elsewhere. (I.e. if you had to google the meaning of the word prowess.) Also, if you’re the type of guy who thinks a good woman should talk less and cook more, this one’s not for you! Prepare to fork out for meals out and take-aways. Don’t worry, she’ll usually offer to go dutch in the name of fairness and equality. The kitchen simply isn’t her domain, dah-ling – she has more important things to do, don’t you know! She’s not very forgiving. Type of date she prefers: First date would be somewhere quiet where you can talk and get to know each other. If you’re lucky enough to get more than one date, take her somewhere intellectually stimulating or for a hike in Nature if her mind is buzzing and she needs to ground. You probably won’t need to guess which would be the better option as she’s likely to tell you. How to seduce the Queen of Swords: Always remember that her brain is her biggest erogenous zone. She might get off on dirty talk. But make sure you get to know her very well first before you broach the topic. Foot in mouth disease is not something she forgives...

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