“The difference between sex and death is that with death you can do it alone and no one is going to make fun of you.”
― Woody Allen
Death may not seem like a card of healing but in actual fact, this card can provide some of the deepest and most transformational healing experiences and very often they occur as a form of initiation into a different paradigm because what comes after a Death experiences is so very different to what was.
Besides being connected with the concept of death and rebirth, the Death card is also connected with sexual energy through its correspondence with the Scorpio Zodiac sign. Anything usually associated with the 8th House of the Zodiac chart, also falls under the domain of this card so dealing with the possessions of others (especially inheritances), as well as sex and death, could be indicated when this card shows up.
Another area where the energy of this card comes in handy is when it comes to revealing secrets that have the potential to transform a situation. Psychic giftedness falls under the domain of this card because the process of transformation involves diving deep within the psyche and you are bound to be reborn from the depths with some kind of psychic ability.
Zodiac sign: Scorpio
Archangel: Jeremiel and Azrael
Chakra: Second chakra
Colour: Brown, black, dark red, grey, purple
Crystal: Tiger’s eye, garnet, diamond, opal, lodestone, jet, ruby
Metal: Iron, tungsten
Body: Sex drive, elimination of toxins, defecation, reproduction, haemoglobin levels
Exercise: Sat Kriya Yoga for raising sexual energy
Stance: Hero’s pose
Magickal Tool/Ingredient: Any tools/ingredients associated with psychic ability or fertility
Associated Major Arcana Cards (through numerology): The Emperor, The Fool (22)
Associated Minor Arcana Cards:
5 of Cups (Mars in Scorpio). Healing through having the courage to explore grief and pain to the outer/inner limits and to truly feel what the heart wants to feel. This is sometimes seen as the ‘5 stages of grief card’ and can be an indication that a client has unprocessed grief blocking the flow of chi/prana.
6 of Cups (Sun in Scorpio). Healing comes from connecting the dots from the past and also from letting go of the past and living in the now.
7 of Cups (Venus in Scorpio). Healing is found through sobriety and keeping a clear mind by taking a lot of fresh air as this card indicates a state of confusion and/or intoxication.
Knight of Cups – The Scorpio Knight (Air of Water) is the master of sublimation of sexual energy into artistic expression. Not a single serenade has been written without the assistance of the energy of this archetype. Allow your pain and heartache to inspire you to unashamedly open your heart in lyrical expression. Yes, you may cringe when you read it a year or even a month later… but that’s not the point. The point is to allow what is to open you up completely from the inside, for a heart that opens up is always beautiful.
Remedies to increase the energy of Death in your life
- You can make a tarot essence to harness and increase the energy of the Death card, using a card from the deck of your choice, along with any of the crystals above that you feel drawn to work with. There is plenty of information on the healing properties for each of the crystals available online
- Meditate on your moment of death and transition into the Light
- Let go by forgiving, you can only let someone go completely if you have forgiven them
- Write about 2-3 times in your life when your life changed so drastically that you became a new version of yourself. Write from a feeling perspective, without judging or analysing. You may surprised by the depth of understanding you gain!
- Think about what really turns you on, examine it in your mind without judging or acting on it. Just allow thoughts and images take you where they want to take you. If your breathing speeds up (a sign of excitement), simply slow it down and allow the excitement to subside
- Learn Tantra
- Come up with a power name for yourself, an alias you can invoke when you feel under pressure in the face of change
- Plant some holly
- Practice holding someone’s gaze until they yield
- Keep certain facts to yourself in order to have the upper hand
Balancing, grounding and banishing the influence of the Death card
- Watch a comedy
- Solve a mathematical problem
- Come clean about something you’ve kept secret out of shame
- Learn to laugh at yourself
- Practice abstinence
- Practice sobriety
- Give away some items that you hold onto out of sentimental value
- Cease all relationship power plays and game-playing while dating
Affirmation: “All change is good.”
LOVE AND RELATIONSHIPS
It has to be said that seeing the grim reaper make an appearance in a love and relationship reading rarely leads to joyous outbursts by the seeker. Still, not all Death cards focus on the actual death/ending aspect but more on the process of transformation (such as the butterfly leaving its chrysalis), which is what the Death card is all about.
Astrologically, the Death card corresponds to Scorpio and the Element of Fixed Water. Physically, Scorpio relates to the genitals so there is no denying the sexual nature of this card.
In psychological terms, Death/Scorpio is wHere eros (the sex drive) and thanatos (the death drive) meet. Nature is clever that way – She makes sure we reproduce before we pop our clogs.
Scorpio has a long memory and neither forgives nor lets go easily. However, it’s exactly letting go that is the big lesson when this card shows up. The time for change has come and resistance is futile.
It very often means the end of a relationship but sometimes it means that you have both undergone a massive transformation and are now ready to take the relationship to the next level. In the latter case, it will often be some form of cataclysmic event such as the loss of a child or the death of a close friend that has brought about the change of perception which makes a total relationship make-over possible.
It could also be something along the lines of one of you falling ill or losing your job and both of you having to adapt to your new circumstances, helping or accepting assistance from your beloved. Surrounding cards will give more information on this.
However, if the Death card is the final card in a reading it almost always means that the relationship is over. This is also true if it shows up together with the 3 or 10 of Swords inside the reading. Another indication for Death together with the 3 of Swords is jealousy, especially with the Knight of Cups in the mix. Almost nothing kills love quicker than jealousy!
To a single person, the Death card can be an indication that the past needs to be buried before it is time to move on and start dating. It is a definite ‘No’ if the original question was ‘Is now a good time to start dating?’ Emotional healing is still needed. The good news is that the next time you start dating, you won’t be repeating the same old mistakes!
If Death shows up as a suggestion for sexual play it’s time to daringly try something entirely new. The Scorpio energies of this card are extremely passionate and seductive. Learn to use your eyes to seduce and even direct your partner. Sexual power play – Dominance/submission – can be playfully explored if you are both up for it.
It also almost goes without saying that the Death card is connected with the kind of surrender to the moment necessary to achieve La Petite Mort (the little death) or orgasm.