11 Love Tarot Reading Blunders You Will Want to Avoid

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    Have you ever wondered why it is so hard to read for yourself about love and relationships? Maybe you have even had the experience of going to a couple of different Tarot readers with the same question and received wildly varying predictions? It’s pretty bad when you have a reading or two and end up more confused than you were to begin with! Whether you are getting a reading from someone else or you are doing a Love Tarot reading for yourself, there are some scenarios you will want too avoid since they potentially could render the reading null and void, wasting your time and/or money. Or worse – giving your false hope when their should be none. Maintaining objectivity is extremely hard  when reading about love… the heart wants what it wants! Read about these eleven common blunders to help rein yourself in before getting or doing a love Tarot reading. General noob blunders: Reading on the same question over and over again – This is possibly the most common mistake beginners make, mostly because they don’t trust what they get the first time around. It’s very easy to start second-guessing your interpretation, especially if the cards were less than friendly or you didn’t like the outcome. Trying advanced spreads too soon – Overreaching is another common mistake. Sticking to simple three card spreads is a good rule of thumb when you first start reading for yourself. Cards in large spreads interact with each other and understanding exactly how is a complex process better left to the more advanced reader or the professional. Reading with rose-tinted spectacles – Always choosing the most positive slant on the reading is a serious temptation when reading about a possible relationship or love interest. Try reading as if reading for someone else. Recording your voice as you do so and listening back is a quick remedy for the tendency to romanticise card meanings. Expecting whoever is reading for you to be able to mind-read – As a reader, I can’t begin to tell you how frustrating this is. When you go to a reader with your relationship question, the point is not to test them by giving them as little information about the relationship as possible to see if they are ‘genuine.’ A Tarot reader may or may not be psychic but that’s by the by. The point is that in order to give a relevant interpretation that makes sense to your particular situation and provides useful guidance for the future, the reader needs the bare bones of the back story. Also, the more specific the question, the more specific and practical the advice. Your reading really is only ever as good as your question. Reading on every little issue that crops up when you first start dating someone – It’s understandable to want to stay in control but trust me on this...

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Cupid’s Arrow Tarot Spread

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Cupid’s Arrow Tarot Spread

We all know what Cupid’s arrows can be like… a bit hit and miss! What do you do when the object of your affections hardly seems to notice you? As the saying goes: “All is fair in love and war” Mind you, I’m not suggesting you go and pinch someone else’s sweetheart but maybe you need to yank that bow and arrow out of Cupid’s tiny chubby hands and become your own Cupid just this once. The good news is that the Tarot can help uncover just what you need to do to steal his heart! 1. Is he or she shy? The reason I have this question for card one is that many people who come to me for a reading about a love interest want to know if maybe they are holding back because they are shy, so let’s see if we can rule this excuse while we pull the arrow back. In the Minor Arcana, cards that suggest shyness might be the Page of Cups, the 8 and 9 of Swords, and the 4 of Cups, while the Fire / Wands cards in general speak against the person being shy. In the Major Arcana three possibly shy cards would be the High Priestess, The Hermit, The Hanged Man and The Moon. Use your imagination and tune into the energy of any other card you pull – trust your gut! 2. What is the main reason for him or her being elusive? If another court card shows up here, you can bet your bottom dollar that they have their sights set on someone else. However, that does not necessarily mean you need to pull out of the competition. 3. What main strength do you need to draw on to get his or her attention? This card will reveal an innate gift or talent you have that will appeal to your love interest. 4. What action do you need to take? A Page, the 2 of Pentacles or the 8 of Wands here would be an indication that sending him or her a message would be a good idea. Holding off on doing anything would be indicated by the 4 of Swords, the Hanged Man and the 8 of Swords. The need for more information before proceeding to take action would be indicated by, for instance, the 7 of Swords and The Moon. 5. His or her feelings for you now. To know if yours are reciprocated, you would ideally want the 2 of Cups or The Lovers. 6. How the wind blows. This card may symbolise interference from the outside or something else you need to be aware of that may affect the aim of your arrow. 7. Where the arrow lands if you aim carefully and fire it with precision. This is the most likely long-term outcome. This is a notoriously tricky question to read on for yourself (wishful thinking tends to interfere!), so...

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11 Keys – An Advanced Love Tarot Spread

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  This advanced Tarot spread is inspired by years of reading the 9 Square intuitively, observing patterns and listening to the whispers of the cards themselves. In the past few months, I have felt a need to add two cards to the square when doing love Tarot readings… and then one day the penny dropped: each of the card positions correspond to Major Arcana 1-11, with the Hierophant as the central card and Justice as the outcome. In other words – perfection in terms of looking at long term potential with the Hierophant and Justice being two of the main marriage cards. Roughly then you get the following positional meanings: 1. House of the Magician – Expression of masculine energy in the relationship. Point of initiation. The beginning. Ability to give love. Communication. 2. House of the High Priestess – Receptivity. Intuitive guidance. What your gut is telling you about the relationship. Ability to receive love. 3. House of the Empress – The quality of nurturing inherent or lacking in this relationship. The chaos element. Mother issues (his or hers). 4. House of the Emperor – Leadership ability. Organisation. Protection. Father issues (his or hers). 5. House of the Hierophant – Long term potential is seen is this central card. How one or both feel about commitment. 6. House of the Lovers – How you connect at the level of the heart. 7. House of the Chariot – Potential power struggles. 8. House of Strength – Lust, sexual attraction and also your ability to ‘play’ together. 9. House of the Hermit – Need for (and ability to give) space/alone time 10. House of the Wheel of Fortune – The fated element. What the next turn of the Wheel is likely to bring. If one of the karmic cards are found here (Wheel, Moon, Justice, Judgement, Devil, Tower & The World), what happens next is predestined and cannot be avoided. 11. House of Justice – Most likely long term outcome for the relationship. Read together with the card in the House of the Hierophant to see if marriage/settling down together is a likely outcome. Each card becomes a key that unlocks the full meaning of the house in the context of the relationship you are reading on. SAMPLE READING A few sample interpretations from this reading: Temperance in the House of the Empress is a good sign that the relationship brings healing with regards to mother issues for one or both people in this relationship. 3 of Swords in the House of the Emperor indicates that one of the main challenges in this relationship is father issues, which seems to interfere and bring an element of emotional distance to these lovers. However, the awareness of this can bring healing. The Chariot in the House of the Hierophant together with the 9 of Cups in the House of Justice tells us...

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Why your ex gets in touch just when you’ve found someone new and how to know what he is after

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This post was inspired by a question from a reader. She wanted to know why her ex’s always seemed to get back in touch every time she had found someone new. My reply was: Oh, it is simple. They feel the energetic connection fading and they want to know why – on a subconscious level of course… but they’ll still act on it! If you stayed emotionally attached to your ex and found it hard to let go after the break-up, it is likely you had a push-you-pull-me relationship varying from slightly to highly co-dependent where he was in an avoidance pattern (expressed as commitment phobia) and you were in pattern of neediness (often based on abandonment issues). Energetically, the push-you-pull-me pattern would continue after the break-up until both of you consciously decided to move on or cut the cords. But it’s not always as simple as your ex being curious about what is going on with you when the energetic pull/grip is lessened: He may still have genuine feelings of love for you, he could be ‘fishing’ or it could be about ownership (testosterone is funny that way!)… Very little in love (and life) is black or white. So how can you know what he’s after when he gets in touch? This is where the Tarot comes in handy. 1. Get your cards out. Ground and centre. 2. Shuffle and cut as usual. 3. Keep pulling cards off the top until you get to the first Major Arcana card look for the main (subconscious) motivating factor for him getting back in touch in the list below. 4. Pull the next four cards off the top of the remaining cards and placed them around the Major Arcana card according to the  layout in the picture below: Central Major Arcana card – a subconscious, archetypal energy magnetising him toward you 1. What is currently on his mind about his connection with you 2. How he is currently fixed relationship-wise (Is he seeing someone new?) 3. How things ended between you (From his point of view) 4. His most likely course of action (or lack of action) LIST OF MAJOR ARCANA MEANINGS FOR THIS PARTICULAR SPREAD The Fool – He has no clue why he’s getting in touch but will have sensed the energy flow being cut off abruptly. The Magician – He wants to see you really badly… but beware! This trickster may have an agenda. He’s used to getting his own way. The High Priestess – You are his ideal woman and a living representation of his anima. Because he has idealised you something rotten in the past, you may now suffer the consequences of his madonna/whore complex. He’s not likely to be emotionally stable. The Empress – He misses being looked after. Did you mother him by any chance? The Emperor – You’re still one of his possessions...

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Dating the Knight of Cups

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Looking to date an über romantic guy? Need your man to compose his own love poems for you? The Knight of Cups is the guy for you! This is the man who as a young boy used to include a handwritten poem in the Mother’s Day card. He is the one who used to get scolded for daydreaming by his teachers, but who stunned the very same teachers with his imaginative art, writing or musical composition. Often quite shy with the opposite sex, he’s a later bloomer when it comes to dating and getting to any sort of ‘base.’ However, once he gets a handle on lurve, he’s firmly stuck on romance. He’ll never be single for any longer period of time after that. And if he does have singledom enforced on him, he’s constantly yearning for and jonesing after the ever-elusive ‘One.’ Because of his obsession with escaping reality, he may sometimes turn to drugs for relief from the scourge of day-to-day living. If you’re dealing with the addicted Knight of Cups, you may want to look at  8 Types of W*ankers instead. Pros: He loves romance and won’t spare any trick in the book to woo you. He is creative and may well inspire you to become more creative too. He is passionate and this extends to the bedroom. Very, very steamy sessions ahead with this guy! He is usually faithful. Cons: Can be emotionally obsessed with the object of his desire. Jealousy can be a very real problem with this guy. His escapist tendencies and artistic temperament can make it difficult for him to hold down a job. If he’s not up, he’s down and if he’s not down, he’s up. There’s very little middle ground and this is something you could potentially find emotionally draining. Type of date he prefers: A moonlit beach. He’s brought his guitar, of course. Time from your first date until you introduce him to your parents: About a week if you’re ‘The One.’ He’s probably already moved in by then too. And yes, he’ll be the one moving in with you – straight from his mum’s (no matter what age he is). Wedding style: Careful. This one could turn into a bit of a groomzilla. He’ll want full control of all the artistic elements of the wedding! Type of dad he would make: A natural bard and storyteller, your children will find him absolutely fascinating. Nobody but nobody tells a better bedtime story! Just don’t count on him to remember everything on the list when he goes shopping. He probably left the list itself on the dresser rummaging around for his car keys. It’s a bummer if he forgets to buy nappies but the kids will survive. His best match: The Queen of Pentacles as a) she keeps him grounded and b) already bought an extra pack of nappies on a buy-one-get-one-free offer the week before. His worst match: The Queen of...

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