Why your ex gets in touch just when you’ve found someone new and how to know what he is after

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This post was inspired by a question from a reader. She wanted to know why her ex’s always seemed to get back in touch every time she had found someone new. My reply was: Oh, it is simple. They feel the energetic connection fading and they want to know why – on a subconscious level of course… but they’ll still act on it! If you stayed emotionally attached to your ex and found it hard to let go after the break-up, it is likely you had a push-you-pull-me relationship varying from slightly to highly co-dependent where he was in an avoidance pattern (expressed as commitment phobia) and you were in pattern of neediness (often based on abandonment issues). Energetically, the push-you-pull-me pattern would continue after the break-up until both of you consciously decided to move on or cut the cords. But it’s not always as simple as your ex being curious about what is going on with you when the energetic pull/grip is lessened: He may still have genuine feelings of love for you, he could be ‘fishing’ or it could be about ownership (testosterone is funny that way!)… Very little in love (and life) is black or white. So how can you know what he’s after when he gets in touch? This is where the Tarot comes in handy. 1. Get your cards out. Ground and centre. 2. Shuffle and cut as usual. 3. Keep pulling cards off the top until you get to the first Major Arcana card look for the main (subconscious) motivating factor for him getting back in touch in the list below. 4. Pull the next four cards off the top of the remaining cards and placed them around the Major Arcana card according to the  layout in the picture below: Central Major Arcana card – a subconscious, archetypal energy magnetising him toward you 1. What is currently on his mind about his connection with you 2. How he is currently fixed relationship-wise (Is he seeing someone new?) 3. How things ended between you (From his point of view) 4. His most likely course of action (or lack of action) LIST OF MAJOR ARCANA MEANINGS FOR THIS PARTICULAR SPREAD The Fool – He has no clue why he’s getting in touch but will have sensed the energy flow being cut off abruptly. The Magician – He wants to see you really badly… but beware! This trickster may have an agenda. He’s used to getting his own way. The High Priestess – You are his ideal woman and a living representation of his anima. Because he has idealised you something rotten in the past, you may now suffer the consequences of his madonna/whore complex. He’s not likely to be emotionally stable. The Empress – He misses being looked after. Did you mother him by any chance? The Emperor – You’re still one of his possessions...

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