The Major and Minor Arcana in Love and Relationship Tarot Readings

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The Major and Minor Arcana in Love and Relationship Tarot Readings

  Today I thought we would break the structure of the Tarot deck down in a way that gives you the bigger picture in love and relationship readings. It is always useful to look at the bigger picture first when analysing a Tarot spread, before delving into specific card/positional and combination meanings. You may already know that the Major Arcana deals primarily with the main spiritual lessons in life and that we all embark on the same Fool’s (or Hero’s) journey, meeting with the Major Arcana archetypes at various stages in life. This typically happens in a non-linear fashion, even though most of us obviously encounter the Mother/Father archetypes early on in life in shape of the Empress and Emperor etc. Here are some useful hints about the Majors to bear in mind when you first take in an overview of your love Tarot spread layout: * If there are many Majors (3 or more, or more than half in a larger spread), the relationship typically has a fated element which to some extent will limit your freedom of choice. To understand if this harks back to a past life connection/lesson, you want to look out specifically for the Karmic Cards. * When a Major Arcana card shows up in a position that describes a current or future lover, this is or will be a key player in your life. * A Major Arcana card as the outcome card makes the outcome of the relationship more fixed. However, choice about how you relate to this outcome is never taken from you and will determine how you progress from there. * A Major Arcana card signifying you means that you are learning an important life lesson through the relationship. * Understanding a bit about the anima/animus is very helpful and will give you instant insights about the meaning of the presence of the High Priestess and the Magician in a Tarot spread. In a nutshell it means a greater risk of projection of desired qualities onto your partner. * The Empress/Emperor often indicates parental issues contributing to an unhealthy pattern of relating. * The Lovers does not always mean the perfect relationship but can often indicate a choice situation and a lesson about not moving forward until your heart and mind are aligned. * Not even Majors should be read in isolation from other cards. They act as individual glyphs in a Tarot spread. Together with other Major or Minor Arcana glyphs, the sentence spelled by the cards can change drastically. As an example, The Sun with the 5 of Wands (Saturn in Leo) can indicate that ego battles are destroying your chances of relationship happiness rather than the sunny outcome you might expect. Now, let us shift our focus to the Minor Arcana… Looking at a spread containing many Minors, you will instantly get a picture of where the emphasis lies in any particular relationship...

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11 Love Tarot Reading Blunders You Will Want to Avoid

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    Have you ever wondered why it is so hard to read for yourself about love and relationships? Maybe you have even had the experience of going to a couple of different Tarot readers with the same question and received wildly varying predictions? It’s pretty bad when you have a reading or two and end up more confused than you were to begin with! Whether you are getting a reading from someone else or you are doing a Love Tarot reading for yourself, there are some scenarios you will want too avoid since they potentially could render the reading null and void, wasting your time and/or money. Or worse – giving your false hope when their should be none. Maintaining objectivity is extremely hard  when reading about love… the heart wants what it wants! Read about these eleven common blunders to help rein yourself in before getting or doing a love Tarot reading. General noob blunders: Reading on the same question over and over again – This is possibly the most common mistake beginners make, mostly because they don’t trust what they get the first time around. It’s very easy to start second-guessing your interpretation, especially if the cards were less than friendly or you didn’t like the outcome. Trying advanced spreads too soon – Overreaching is another common mistake. Sticking to simple three card spreads is a good rule of thumb when you first start reading for yourself. Cards in large spreads interact with each other and understanding exactly how is a complex process better left to the more advanced reader or the professional. Reading with rose-tinted spectacles – Always choosing the most positive slant on the reading is a serious temptation when reading about a possible relationship or love interest. Try reading as if reading for someone else. Recording your voice as you do so and listening back is a quick remedy for the tendency to romanticise card meanings. Expecting whoever is reading for you to be able to mind-read – As a reader, I can’t begin to tell you how frustrating this is. When you go to a reader with your relationship question, the point is not to test them by giving them as little information about the relationship as possible to see if they are ‘genuine.’ A Tarot reader may or may not be psychic but that’s by the by. The point is that in order to give a relevant interpretation that makes sense to your particular situation and provides useful guidance for the future, the reader needs the bare bones of the back story. Also, the more specific the question, the more specific and practical the advice. Your reading really is only ever as good as your question. Reading on every little issue that crops up when you first start dating someone – It’s understandable to want to stay in control but trust me on this...

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7 Tips for DIY Love Tarot Readings

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7 Tips for DIY Love Tarot Readings

If you’ve done more than half a dozen readings for yourself, you probably know by now that Love Tarot readings are the most difficult ones to do. Any time at all that we are attached to the outcome, it gets trickier because we tend to see what we want to see… either that or we catostrophise! When the reading is about the one we love (or lust after!), we would have to reach the spiritual maturity of a Zen Master to not be at least a wee bit attached to outcome. I’m still working on that one, in case you were wondering. So I guess this really begs the question if it is possible to read for yourself about love at all? Good news: Yes! And especially if you follow the steps below: 1. Create sacred space. This includes turning off any electrical equipment which may cause disruption and letting anyone else who lives with you know that you need some alone time. You may also wish to light a candle, some incense, take out your favourite crystals and play some soft background music but this is all optional. What’s important is that you make sure you are grounded and centred before you begin. 2. Write your question down. Not only the actual question but the date so that you can keep track of your readings. Not only does this improve objectivity but it also serves as a learning tool. The mind is a slippery so-and-so… It can even trick you into believing that your original question has changed because of the cards laid out before! 3. Write down how you feel about the whole situation as well. There is a therapeutic element in this and it clears some of the mental debris before the reading. Also, it might be a good idea to take a stab at on which side you may err. Most of us err on the side of not taking our rose-tinted glasses off before the reading but if you know that you tend to be cynical about your prospects, be honest with yourself and write this down too. 4. Choose a spread appropriate for your level of learning. There is no point in going for advanced Tarot spreads when you have barely learned the basic card meanings. Try a one card draw or a simple Past-Present-Future 3 card spread to begin with. 5. Write the spread down and document it with a diagram/picture. This is absolutely crucial because it will give you a whole different experience compared to just allowing your thoughts to whir in your head. Also, don’t be afraid to pick up a Tarot book if you get stuck. If there is a companion book that comes with the deck, I often use the card meanings included in that when I read for myself. Yes, even professional Tarot readers need a nudge in the...

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Tarot Card Combinations for Marriage

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Other than ‘Will he come back?,’ the most popular question I get asked is ‘When will I meet The One?’… as in the one you marry, settle down and start a family with. So I thought we would look at some card combinations that show the intent to truly commit. The card combinations below show various combinations of cards that indicate that this is the person you will settle down with, either by moving in together or getting married. This is by no means comprehensive but it does cover all the main cards indicating long-term love, settling down and tying the knot. Some of you may wonder about the choice of the Ace of Swords here. The Ace of Swords is traditionally associated with the Element of Air and intellectual pursuits as well as communication. However, there is also a long tradition of using this card as an indicator for proposals because of the similarity between the crown and a ring! And when you think about it… there would be no wedding unless the intent to wed was communicated through the proposal! “Will you marry me?” is one of the biggest questions a person could ask of another person. Feel free to add your own suggestions in the comments section below! A classic proposal Another version of a traditional wedding proposal Great love that leads to moving in together New love leads to moving in together and then tying the knot A passionate/sexual connection leads to deeper emotions and marriage An arranged marriage A happy wedding with continued married bliss (and yes, you still have to work at it!) A soulmate relationship ending in marriage Hope you enjoyed this post and find the suggestions here helpful when reading for self and others. Would love to hear your thoughts so please comment! Wishing everyone a wonderful weekend! Angel Starlight Blessings, ☆ Lisa Frideborg ☆...

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4 Myths and 7 Truths about Soul Mate Relationships

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  As a tarot reader, I often get asked if the person a client is dating is their soul mate. There is nothing odd about having an intuitive feeling of being deeply connected to someone you have just met – Most of the time, the cards verify this gut feeling and he or she do indeed turn out to be a soul mate. What many people don’t realise is that meeting a soul mate does not automatically equal ‘happily ever after.’ The Wikipedia definition of soul mate only helps cement the myth that your soul mate is always a life long partner: A soulmate (or soul mate) is a lifelong partner that is predetermined by God. Believed by some to be the person with whom one has a feeling of deep or natural affinity, similarity, love, sex, intimacy, sexuality, spirituality, or compatibility. By the way, in my experience, not even a Twin Flame (which is our other soul half) is always predetermined to be our lifelong companion – but that’s a story for another time. Let’s dispel some of the most common myths and set the record straight! Top 4 myths about soul mates and soul mate relationships When you meet your soul mate, you will end up marrying him or her You only have one soul mate and he or she is your ideal lover Soul mate relationships are always blissfully happy because you have finally met ‘The One’ You can’t feel complete until you have met your soul mate So what is a soul mate really and why do they come into our lives…? 7 truths about soul mate relationships A soul mate is a member of your soul group Here on earth, they can be a family member, friend or even colleague You have a sense of instant recognition (or, in case of family members, a deeper bond than with the rest of the family) You can often sense your soul mate through time and space, even when physically separated Important life lessons are always attached to soul mate relationships Soul mate relationships are rarely easy Feeling like you are somehow incomplete usually has nothing to do with not being in a soul mate relationship – It’s and indication that you need to learn to love yourself. Your soul family A soul mate is someone from your soul group or soul family – a group of souls that you have contracts with to learn certain lessons. Many of you will incarnate at the same time so that you can work out karmic issues and learn lessons set out in your soul contracts. Your soul mate can be your brother, sister, father, uncle, grandmother, cousin, best friend, first boyfriend, the woman you settle down with, your grandson etc etc ad infitum. How to tell if someone is your soul mate So how do you know that they are a soul mate? You will have an instant and permanent bond which...

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