Sex – The Most Overlooked Key to Healing

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“Everything in the world is about sex except sex. Sex is about power.” ~ Oscar Wilde What is man’s primary motivation after survival? To reproduce. This drive is so strong that it completely overrides reasoning. If mankind was ruled by reasoning rather than its sex drive, we wouldn’t have an overpopulated planet. Simples. And anyone who was physically unable to reproduce would opt for adoption rather than IVF 100 times out of 100. Our sex drive gives us vitality, a sense of wellbeing and power when it is unfettered. The latter this is precisely why those in power sought to fetter it… so that they would be able to control us through fear (first chakra/masculine sexuality) and guilt (second chakra/female sexuality). The simple truth is you cannot be completely healed unless you are emotionally free and you cannot be emotionally free when your sexuality is enslaved/subjected to fear and guilt. So how can we liberate ourselves sexually? By understanding that… * Your body is yours and as long you do not hurt/harm another being, nobody can impose restrictions on how or with whom you express yourself sexually * All religion is inherently flawed precisely because it disempowers people sexually * You need to have sex regularly (sex with self counts too!) for your immune system to remain fully functioning * Sexuality as portrayed by most porn is heavily flavoured with the fear and guilt mentioned above * Tantra (sacred union) is the way forward for total healing and wellbeing * There is nothing shameful about our naked bodies * We need to teach our children to love and respect their bodies and stop talking about sex or certain body parts (bits? WTF?!) as dirty/naughty * In Victorian times a woman who enjoyed sex was labeled clinically insane (this is only a few generations back, people!), so women are still especially prone to shaming (slut shaming, anyone?) if they happen to be healthy and actually really love to fuck * We are moving away from a binary view of sexuality… You are not either male or female, straight or gay… there are a multitude of flavours out there and they are all OK Do you struggle with loving your body and its drives/urges? You have probably been programmed to believe this is life-long struggle. You have been lied to. You can let go of the shame and guilt right here, right now. You can revisit past memories which make you blush with a new, compassionate understanding that you reacted a certain way to certain circumstances only because you were disempowered and now that you know better you can do better… and begin to simply ENJOY! When I was a Physiotherapy student at the Karolinska University of Stockholm, Sweden, I had the pleasure of sitting through a lecture about our immune system. Apparently, research proves that people who have sex frequently have 30% higher immunoglobin levels than...

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Understanding Sexual Energy Through the Chakras and Tarot

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The Tarot cards have many uses and as a holistic healer, I have enjoyed exploring the connection between the Tarot cards and the chakras for many years now. The Root chakra is where the kundalini (life force) energy lies dormant until all blocks to this highly sexual energy is cleared in the upper chakras. Once all blocks have been cleared, you have easy access to sexual bliss every time you make love because there is nothing blocking the horizontal connection with the Beloved OR the vertical connection with Source. Each chakra represents a growth stage and its associated lessons. Some spiritual teachers associate the development of a specific chakra with an age range but I don’t necessarily agree with this limited linear approach. Growth often happens in fits and starts, can be circular (or spiral) rather than linear and it is entirely possible to regress, especially with drug or alcohol abuse. The Root chakra develops first  and the lessons associated with it help us feel safe, grounded and secure. The genitals are associated with this chakra. An overactive Root chakra could manifest in sexual promiscuity and an underactive one in frigidity and impotence. The Tarot cards associated with the Root chakra are The Emperor, The Devil, The World and also The Tower. The Sacral chakra usually develops next and the lessons associated with it helps us to relate to others in healthy and meaningful ways. The ability to enjoy sensual pleasures is associated with this chakra. The Shadow aspects belonging to this energy centre are jealousy, emotional manipulation and neediness. Healthy interdependence becomes impossible when this chakra is underactive (withdrawal) or in overdrive (various forms of manipulative behaviour). The Tarot corresponding Tarot cards for the Sacral Chakra are The Empress, The Hanged Man and The High Priestess. The Solar Plexus chakra develops when we are ready to gain greater understanding about our personal power and boundaries. Anger issues are associated with this chakra, as is dominance and submission. Sexual power play (BDSM) can be used in healing ways (conscious kink) to work through these issues in awareness. Corresponding Major Arcana cards for the Solar Plexus chakra are The Sun and The Chariot, and also The Tower. The Heart chakra developing healthily depends on our ability to empathise and love self as well as others unconditionally. This is the chakra where we unite with our Beloved as well as the Divine in love-making. If this chakra is well balanced and in harmony, the other chakras usually follow suit. The Tarot Majors that are associated with the Heart chakra are The Lovers, Justice, Strength and Temperance. The Troat chakra is a centre for (artistic) self-expression as well as expression of will. A well-developed throat chakra increases a person’s mojo exponentially making them appear more charismatic and with better leadership abilities than your average person. However, an overactive throat chakra could easily make you come...

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Lenormand Meanings for Love & Relationships

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Lenormand Meanings for Love & Relationships

The Lenormand system of divination based on playing cards keeps gaining popularity so it seems timely to introduce these cards here, with meanings that are specific to love & relationships. If there is an interest in studying the Lenormand cards, please let me know in the comments below. I’m quite happy to add Lenormand card meanings and combinations to our vast and ever-expanding metaphysical online library. The following keywords relating specifically to love and relationships are meant as additions to the standard nouns and adjectives for each card (2-3 of each), so if you haven’t sorted out what those are yet, I suggest you do so first.  There are quite a few free Lenormand learning resources you can Google if you do not wish to invest in a book.   I recommend downloading Sandy Cristels FREE Interactive Lenormand for learning purposes. For those of you looking for something to hold in your hands, I recommend The Enchanted Lenormand kit which includes a phenomenal introduction to the Lenormand by one of the main authorities on card divination, Caitlín Matthews, as well as a pretty and easy-to-read-with Lenormand deck. Please bear in mind that the Lenormand cards are always read together with other cards. Each card is a ‘cipher’ with different possible meanings and gains its precise meaning in synthesis with other cards. The cards also operate on the near vs. far principle and the meanings change accordingly. It is a complex system to learn so be patient with yourself and allow your learning to take as long as it takes. It’s all good as long as you’re having fun! LENORMAND KEYWORDS FOR LOVE & RELATIONSHIP READINGS 1. RIDER (9 of Hearts) – a young & energetic lover, flirtatious young man, news related to a lover 2. CLOVER (6 of Diamonds) – getting lucky (pulling, one night stand), taking a chance on someone new 3. SHIP (10 of Spades) – yearning for love, overseas lover, love cruise (honeymoon on water) 4. HOUSE (King of Hearts) – a feeling of ‘coming home,’ settling down, stability in love 5. TREE (7 of Hearts) – love prospers, healthy connection, lasting love, rooted love, lover is a healer 6. CLOUDS (King of Clubs) – depression threatens love, misunderstandings, pessimism about romance 7. SNAKE (Queen of Clubs) – a narcissistic or deceptive lover, cheating, playing mind-games, jealousy 8. COFFIN (9 of Diamonds) – end of a love affair/relationship, stagnancy, death of a lover 9. BOUQUET (Queen of Spades) – the importance of gift giving in love, reciprocal and enjoyable connection, beauty 10. SCYTHE (Jack of Diamonds) – sudden (unexpected) break-up, angry or mean-spirited lover, being on a break 11. WHIP (Jack of Clubs) – sexual intercourse, BDSM, healthy libido, physical abuse 12. BIRDS (7 of Diamonds) – internet dating, sexting, phone sex, romantic text messages, a chatty couple 13. CHILD (Jack of Spades) – innocence, virginity, puppy love, naïve lover 14. FOX (9...

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78 Tarot Journaling Prompts – Part 2

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78 Tarot Journaling Prompts – Part 2

  Continued from Part 1 (Major Arcana). Wands – Work, sex and life purpose prompts:Ace of Wands – When were you last really horny and what triggered it. Don’t be shy this is an ideal exercise for shedding any inhibitions.2 of Wands – Describe the most irritating colleague you have ever had the displeasure of working with.3 of Wands – Write about the last time someone flirted shamelessly with you (or your ideal flirting scenario).4 of Wands – What sort of bed would you prefer to make love in? Have you ever made love in a really noisy/creaky bed? What happened?5 of Wands – Talk about the last time you were forced to resist a temptation due to outside influences or the environment.6 of Wands – Describe a time when you got promoted or recognised for an achievement at work/school.7 of Wands – When was the last time you felt that you had to defend yourself?8 of Wands – Write about the last time your received surprising/shocking news regarding someone’s sexual conduct.9 of Wands – Write about someone at work who broke your trust and how you dealt with it.10 of Wands – How are you at delegating work. Give an example of a time when you delegated work? How happy were people to help?Page of Wands – When was the last time you did something really impulsive in terms of sex? What happened?Knight of Wands – What’s your seduction style?Queen of Wands – If you had your own business, what would you sell and who would you employ?King of Wands – You are the boss of one of the largest corporations in the world – describe your office.   Cups – Relationships, emotions and psychic development prompts: Ace of Cups – Describe your first kiss.2 of Cups – Who was the first person to ask you out?3 of Cups – Who was your first love rival.4 of Cups – Write about the last time you cried.5 of Cups – Describe the last time you experienced a deep sense of loss (does not have to be a person).6 of Cups – What are your thoughts on soul mate love?7 of Cups – When was the last time you were really confused?8 of Cups – Talk about a time when you dumped someone or ended a friendship.9 of Cups – The last time you laughed so hard your stomach hurt. Who has this effect on you?10 of Cups – How psychotic is your family?Page of Cups – Describe your happiest dream – a dream that made you so happy that you tried to repeat it the following night.Knight of Cups – How romantic are you? Talk about how you express romance in your life.Queen of Cups – Are you psychic? Talk about how you discovered it and/or how you would like to develop psychically.King of Cups – Who is the...

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Power dynamics and D/s – Mars in the Tarot cards

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Which cards will reveal that what you think of as romance or even true love, is really a thinly veiled power dynamic with all the trappings of a passionate love affair? Before asking the cards, you will have probably already experienced the push-me-pull-you dynamic present in any relationship with power as a core theme. It could even be less subtle, in which case you would probably refer to this is a love/hate relationship. Before looking at individual cards, I want to make clear that all relationship dynamics serve a purpose and hence there is no judgement associated with any of them. They exist to teach us valuable lessons and have been created by subconscious portions of the self, looking for an expression in order to be brought to the light and healed. In the Tarot, cards indicating a (sexual) power dynamic often relate to the Mars cards. Mars is the masculine expression of the sexual energy and is found in both genders but to a higher degree in men since it is directly related to blood testosterone levels. The Mars cards are: The Tower (Planetary trump of Mars), 2 of Wands (Mars in Aries), 3 of Pentacles (Mars in Capricorn), 5 of Cups (Mars in Scorpio), 7 of Wands (Mars in Leo), 9 of Swords (Mars in Gemini), 10 of Cups (Mars in Pisces) In terms of dominance and submission, The Tower itself is pure dominance and the most submissive of the Mars cards is the 10 of Cups. Mars in Pisces is prone to lack (healthy) boundaries and very eager to please. Tower sex is focused on sexual gratification for the sake of sexual gratification and it will take what it wants when it wants it. If you’re in the mood to be ravaged, you have nothing to fear but if you are looking for a more delicate and romantic expression in love-making, you will want to steer clear of the Tower. 10 of Cups only cares about the needs of the Other. The biggest turn-ons for a 10 of Cups type of person would be being told what to do and to be made to feel as if they are of service. This applies regardless of gender. However, the 10 of Cups usually does not usually feel the need to express their submissive tendencies overtly and is highly adaptable in a sexual relationship. It is only when they meet a sexually dominant partner who coaxes them on that they are likely to start experimenting. In and of itself, the 2 of Wands can describe a relationship based on a power dynamic. However, this need not always be a negative thing. Properly channelled and provided there are other redeeming qualities, the tension between these two partners can be used creatively and in positive ‘competition’ where both parties spark off each other and want to be the best they can...

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