Top 10 Tarot Cards & Combinations for Reconciliation

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Tarot of Vampyres Two of Grails and The Lovers

Someone asked me on Twitter the other day what the main cards for reconciliation were. When doing a reading to see if reconciliation with an ex will be possible, the following cards and combinations usually indicate success:

tarot card imageThe 2 of Cups, is always a good sign of reconciliation, especially together with The Lovers, The Sun or The World (very ‘happily ever after’). This is the ultimate ‘love
reciprocation’ card.

 

 

 

 

tarot card imageThe 3 of Cups means ‘happy days’ again – especially together with the 2 of Cups. However, watch out for more 3’s in the same spread, as this could indicate that he will be back but you will not be his only love interest. Although not a commitment card in its own right, together with The Hierophant, it can indicate marriage.

 

 

 

 

Tarot card imageThe 6 of Cups can indicate the return of a soul mate lover, especially together with the Ace of Cups (in which case it will either be first time you meet in this incarnation or you get a chance to have fresh new start), 2 of Cups, the 4 of Wands, The Sun and The World.

 

 

 

 

tarot card imageThe 10 of Cups as the outcome is a sure sign that you will settle down and bring up a family together, especially together with the 4 of Wands and the 10 of Pentacles. This is a case of your lover returning because he realises he really wants a future with you.

 

 

 

 

 

tarot card imageThe 4 of Wands is the ‘moving in together card’ and therefore it is likely that your reconciliation leads to settling down together, or one of you moving back to be with the other person. This is especially true with any of the Cups cards mentioned above.

 

 

 

 

 

tarot card imageThe Hierophant is a card of commitment so if you’ve been dating a commitment-phobic and this card shows up in the future, surrounded by other cards indication reciprocal love and partnership, you will win his heart for good in the end.

 

 

 

 

 

tarot card imageThe Lovers can indicate that he chooses to come back. Look for the Hierophant in the same reading to indicate that he also chooses to finally commit. The Lovers together with two or more 3’s indicates a continuation of a love triangle.

 

 

 

 

 

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Justice together with Temperance and the 2 of Cups can indicate that a marriage heading toward divorce will be restored. If Justice is found in the future position, together with The Hierophant and/or the 3 of Cups, wedding bells will chime even though it may seem it would take a miracle (they do happen, you know!).

 

 

 

 

tarot card imageTemperance can indicate a lover returning after healing of emotional wounds. If the 3 of Swords is present in the past and Temperance is found in the present of the future, all the bad news brought by the 3 of Swords will be erased.

 

 

 

 

 

tarot card imageThe Sun in the future position shows a return of good times in general and can be a strong indication of reconciliation if found together with the 2 of Cups or even the 2 of Wands. A relationship signified by the 2 of Wands shows two headstrong lovers who may have been driven apart by pride and willfulness. When the Sun shows up, it could indicate that they have  learned to compromise. Granted, this will never be an easy relationship but neither will it be dull or boring.

 

 

 

 

tarot card imageBonus card: The 9 of Cups indicates that your wish (any wish) will come true. However, if this card shows up in a position signifying your hopes, it does not indicate that your wish will come true – only that you wish for something to happen with all your heart. Be careful to weigh the 9 of Cups as the outcome against the original question. If your question was will he come back, the 9 of Cups is a ‘yes’ but it doesn’t give you much detail about under what circumstances or for how long.

Please be aware that these are not the only indicators of a reconciliation but they are the ‘usual suspects’ based on my own experience. Feel free to suggest other cards and combinations in the comments section below!

 

 

This post was illustrated with images from the Morgan Greer Tarot – a great deck for beginners.

☆ Lisa Frideborg

 

    82 Comments

  1. Hi Lisa,
    My spirit guides have a way of getting my attention by flickering my lights whenever there’s news about my ex (I know that’s odd), but I asked the Tarot if there was a message from spirit for me and I pulled, Ace of cups (shadow/base card) 2 of cups, 6 of swords, 10 of cups, and 6 of cups (to clarify 6of swords). (Rider Waite deck, btw)

    I think I’m being told that my ex will return to finish what we started – that he is now emotionally available and is sorry.

    In your opinion and experience, does tarot speak to you without asking something specific? I mean I was thinking about my ex but I didn’t specifically ask if we would reconcile.

    Thanks!

    • Hi Nimat, in my experience when this sort of thing happens it is more often than not a reflection of wishful thinking. I think it is paramount when reading for self to write a specific question down before we begin the reading – it is all too easy otherwise for the cards and our thoughts to ‘drift’… Time will tell. Blessings

      • Thanks for responding, Lisa. I agree that only time will tell. It’s just funny that I got this reading once I finally accepted our separation.

        And when a reading does indicate a reconciliation, how can you tell if the person in question is simply ‘thinking’ of reconciling as opposed to actually taking action – a call, text, or a visit?

        • It depends on what spread you are using… but pretty much always the outcome card will tell you if he will act on his thoughts.

          • Thanks again and blessings to you!

      • Hey Lisa, I have an update. As I was reading through my notes on this reading – I wrote down a dream I had 2 days later. In the dream my ex returned and we were cuddled up just like old times so I guess spirit wanted to inform me of an upcoming dream concerning my desires – hence the 10 of cups, lol! I’m still praying for a real reconciliation one day as I feel he really is my true love. You’re advice is always on point!

        • Thanks for the update! Blessings

  2. Hey Lisa!
    What tarot card spread should be used for this reading? Also, can the ‘3 of Wands’ be a reconciliation card as well? Can it represent an old lover coming back?

      • Thanks a lot! :)
        Which card positions in the above spread should we hope to get reconciliation cards in? As in, getting a card indicative of reconciliation would be most potent in which position between Card #1 to Card #10?

        • The strongest indication is a group of three of the reconciliation cards… no matter where in the spread they are found.

          • Thank you so much! Sending your way much love and cheer :)

          • Hi Lisa, great tutorial. Thanks so much for this! If three of these cards can appear in any position does that also include the past? I got 10 cups in past position with 4 wands as answer and 9 cups as outcome. However I also got Death as the energy surrounding the question of reconciliation. Do you still see this as a positive sign? I’m not using CC but a much simpler one and drew the following: past:10 cups, present: 3 pentacles, future: judgement, surrounding energy: death, hopes/fears: queen pentacles, answer: 4 wands and outcome: 9 cups. I know you’ve highlighted 3 pentacles as possible triangle which is a new way of reading that card for me, usually I get 3 cups to signify that. Queen pentacles usually represents me. What do you think of this reading? I’m trying to be objective but not sure if I’m projecting my own desires, so please, your thoughts are very welcome!! ☺️

          • Thanks Rosa. Yes, because the past obviously influences the future… but the outcome card still has more weight of course. 4 of Wands and 9 of Cups as answer/outcome can only mean that you get your wish. Unless, you’ve been reading on this a lot and the cards have started taking the piss, of course. That can totally happen. Blessings

          • Hi Lisa, thanks so much for taking the time to reply. Yes, you could be right about the cards playing with me!

  3. Ok thanks a lot Lisa, l just feel like we have unfinished business, we ended the relationship because of misunderstandings. So the world as the outcome, which usually means completions, kind of confused me

  4. Oh ok, I’m happy he is happy, but I guess if he is happy then he is definitely not coming back?

    • An outside influences card doesn’t necessarily tell you how someone FEELS.

  5. Sorry, that’s what I meant, outside influence, I find it hard to see the sun as outside influence. So my question was is the sun a bad omen for reconciliation in this position?

    • Neither bad or good. It just means happy circumstances affecting your ex.

  6. Even if I got the sun as outside interference? I used the ultimate will he come back tarot spread you posted

    • Even what? Sorry, what’s the question? The position is ‘outside influence’ not ‘interference’ 😀

  7. Oh I know, but I got those 4 cards together from the first time I asked

    • That all sounds great… However, the cards do start taking the piss after a while of reading repeatedly on the same question.

  8. Hi Lisa,

    I was wondering what are your thoughts on The World as the outcome in a reconciliation? Everytime I do a reading on my ex coming back I get the world as the outcome card.

    • I usually see it more as a completion of the lessons you were meant to learn, unless there are other cards indicating rekindled romance.

      • Thanks for your quick reply, I usually get the sun and 6 of cups with the world, but we haven’t really talked in a while

  9. I just got the Temperance card for the final outcome of my relationship along with the 3 of swords somewhere 5 cards behind. I pulled two cards though for the final outcome that was the 4 of cups and the Temperance cards.

    • Which time frame did you read for and is the 3 of Swords past/now/future? Is there a question in there somewhere or are you just sharing?

      • I believe it was now. I am asking for any help I can get. I don’t remember asking for the past but only the present and the future. I am getting several swords cards in my readings and its making me anxious thinking this person I love is involved with someone else. Suddenly he has started ignoring my phone calls and avoided me for the past two weeks. He will answer sometimes but not without being angry with me. He will not give me a straight answer.

        • Sounds like you are better off without. Why are you chasing after someone who is angry with you?

          • I’m not sure anymore cause I love him I guess and I don’t think he’d care if I left. He just disappears and doesn’t think he needs to explain why to me. He gets angry with me for no reason but lately my cards say nothing but deceit and lying from him. Maybe this was never meant to work from the start. He is ten years older and very bossy and controlling.

          • Please do not waste any more of your energy on this man. He does not deserve your tears.

  10. So this would not point to a reconciliation?

    Cards for present situation are the devil and ace of cups, was a bit confused by this one!

    Thanks! :-)

      • I’ve been told that before. Does that mean its doomed then? Ha. From cards can you see it working out at all?

        Thanks for your help :-)

        • From the info given here, I can’t give an answer one way or another. I’m happy to do you an in-depth reading on this though. It’s worth doing when it’s karmic as objectivity may be lacking.

  11. Hello!

    I pulled the lovers and temperance for the future between myself an another.
    Not currently together at the moment after separation… What would you say about this combo?

    Thanks!

    • It depends on other cards present but probably means you will be able to reach a peaceful solution and remain friends – especially important if you have children together.

  12. Hello, Lisa. What about Judgement card?
    I did a Past/Present/Future Tarot spread, and I got The High Priestess, The Star and Judgement.

    • Judgement means a final choice will have to be made with regards to this situation. I would see this three card combo as inconclusive with regards to possible reconciliation. The final decision will be made once the full truth is revealed.

  13. Hi Lisa I asked the question “what is the probability of man x and I having romantic relationship in the future” Problem is he is married & I don’t cheat. I had a very specific dream about being in his home about to consumate our feelings when his wife walked in (she had apparently not been in the picture, but she was happy to see me & called me by my name). I felt confused. I have psychic dreams often about significant things in my life. Anyway, that is why i asked the question. The cards were the lovers, the sun, the 6 of cups, and the ace of cups. I always use upright cards. I felt “led” to use four cards. Any insights? Thanks!

  14. Hey I did a 3 card spread and we recently went through a separation that was very short and he has been saying he wants to marry me anyway for how he feels I pulled the sun upright temperance upright and the hierophant upright? Could this be backing up his talk about marriage?

  15. I did. A spread and obstacle was Lovers, recent past was temperance and recent future is Justice with an outcome of ace of swords.

    • How do you interpret this, Angela? Are these all the cards you pulled? Which spread did you use?

  16. Hey Lisa so I did another reading and these are the cards I got;
    6 of cups. (Reversed)
    7 wands
    Lovers
    Queen on wands reversed
    The high priestess
    4 wands and 4 of pentacles

    From the reading it looks like he’s my soul mate and we’re going to move in together? The only thing that confuses me is the reversed cards. Should I read them reversed or did I read it properly considering there are good cards around it?
    Thank again for your help :)

    • Oh dear, I can’t possibly comment about how to read the reversals if you haven’t made your mind up on how to read them before you laid them out. Also… which spread are you using? I will say this though, I wouldn’t book the removals van quite yet with the reversed Queen of Wands next to The Lovers…

      • I just asked a question and pulled some cards.. I decided to read the cards the way they would be upright.. I didn’t get any bad vibes from my gut while doing the reading so I didn’t think anything of it, the queen. So does that mean things won’t progress between us because of the queen or that he will move on with the queen?

      • Well I didn’t think it was another woman haha.. While reading it I did think it was me because I didn’t feel any other energy but mine and his .. I hope I’m making sense

        • I hate to tell you this, but unless she is always you in readings, this is more likely to be another woman. Then again, I wouldn’t count this reading as you didn’t decide beforehand whether to read with reversals or not. That is a pretty basic requirement for an accurate reading.

          • Well I wasn’t sure at first whether I’d not to read the reversals but as I kept looking at the cards that fell around the reversals I decided to read them as upright cards.. And I’ve gotten the queen before.. I never got any bad vibes and I didn’t think anything of it.. But I will keep that in mind when I do a future reading thank u :)

            By the way, I had a question, what do I make of a reading similar to this only difference is my girl friend is single and she is mingling but she asked a general question about a guy she met once. Since I’m not a professional we just did it for fun and I told her to make nothing if it.. But she got good cards like the 6 if cups, hierophant , lovers, 9 of cups. The way I interpreted her reading is that things might actually work out for this random person she met :)

          • Cynthia, considering the fact that you haven’t mastered the basics of Tarot yet, you’re probably best off waiting a while and studying up before doing readings for friends.

            You need to be clear on how you read reversals and also the meanings of the court cards.

      • If it helps usually when I ask about him and me the chariot card pops up a lot.. Frequently almost.. The only thing I take from that is that we’ll overcome obstacles together.. It sounds like he’s a keeper but I’m not going to base my judgement solely through tarot. I’ve been cheated on before so I do tarot every now and then to make sure it’s not happening again .. Thanks for being so prompt with your responses truly helpful :)

        • The Chariot has very little ‘togetherness’ about it. While it is a card of successfully moving forward, it is more a card of the self, as it relates to the third chakra and the will centre.

  17. Was just wondering if you wanted to know about a woman cheating will you be looking at the High Priestress?

    • Not on her own. She does keep secrets though… so perhaps in combination with the 3 of Cups and The Devil or the 7 of Swords.

  18. I would add the reversed Five of Cups… seeing that you have made a mistake by separating, and then deciding to recommit to the relationship. It may be more driven by missing your partner, though, and you would want to see some positive change cards in the reading to ensure this was sustainable.

    • Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this, Brigit. In a combination where someone returns due to regret, this could be seen by the upright 5 of Cups followed by the 6 of Cups if you don’t read with reversals.

      Sadly, there are many people who go through cycles of break-ups and re-unions, without doing much (if any) work on themselves in between… The Devil is often present in readings for such a couple, representing a sort of destructive, yet indelible bond.

      In a reading where there has been true regret and repentance (perhaps not a word we should throw on the scrap heap quite yet), you would expect to see cards such as The Star or The Sun following the 5 of Cups.

      • Hey guys i did the spread mentioned earlier called “how he really thinks” i almost got excited but then i saw that it was telling me he has moved on with a new younger woman because i got the tower in 1st position 6 cups in 2nd. i got an ace of cups but its in the 5th position with the page of wands as the outcome. Am i right?

  19. Hello Lisa, First of all, It’s great to know that I can post now 😀 Hurray ! And second, Thanks a tonne for the post. I love your posts as they make it so easy for me to understand Tarot and inspire me to further explore it :) Keep up the good work !

      • On that note, I had a small request to make. Often when people come for a reading, I have noticed they want to know more about the feelings of the person in question. For eg. Let’s say Shantell had an argument with Mark, she is now curious to know what Mark feels for her. Would love to see a post on card combinations & spreads that can highlight this subject :) Just a few thoughts !

        Have a lovely Sunday !

      • You’re Awesome ! Thanks a lot Lisa 😀 There’s a plethora of valuable information on this blog and It’s easy to miss out information. I will check it out.

        Love & light xx

  20. Thanks Jordan, really enjoyed your post – tweeted it! :) Have a great weekend!

  21. Love this post. You can read about my adventures with my tarot card reader on my blog.

  22. when asking if my ex would return i have gotten these cards in the outcome position, nine of cups,three of pentacles,the lovers, seven of pentacles…and he did return :)

    • That’s great, Naomi – thanks for sharing. What do you feel the 7 of Pentacles represented?

  23. Thanks Lisa,

    Always excited when receiving your wonderful posts! xx

    • Can someone please shed some light on this reading 6 card spread will my ex return. How my exs love life is going at the moment judgement reversed what my ex is thinking about me the hierophant how my ex is feeling about me the sun what my ex is thinking will happen between us the king of wands is their a potential the queen of pentacles and outcome how things are going to turn out is their any advice king of pentacles.

      • What is your intuitive feel about all these Court Cards? Do you recognise them as people? Also, the final card… How can it be both ‘outcome’ AND ‘any advice’?

      • Sorry lisa i meant just the outcome not advice and i have always struggled to interpret the court cards x

        • Perhaps you should read with a deck like the Psychic Tarot Oracle for the Heart which doesn’t have any court cards until you have mastered them…? In general, when half of the cards are court cards, the general message is that the outcome depends on other people’s involvement.

          • Thanks lisa for your help would you say that he has any feelings for me anymore as i dont know what to think about the devil i do get the feeling that hes trying to hide his feelings x

          • It’s always best to get an objective reading by a third party in cases like this.

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