In the Tarot 3s, we see the birth of something new as a result of the union of two opposing forces. Hence, the threes symbolise synthesis, creativity, fulfilment and growth.
In love and relationship readings, they indicate a phase of growth and rapid development.
3 of Wands
In love, the 3 of Wands stands for a dynamic relationship where both parties are free to express themselves. There is mutual respect and a lot of outward-directed energy and creativity in this dynamic duo.
You are encouraged to speak your mind and share yourself with others freely. If you’re thinking of asking someone out, this signifies a green light as you’re likely to have a really fun time together.
For a single person, this card indicates that getting yourself out there and networking could lead to developments in your personal life (depending on surrounding cards).
Reversed or ill-dignified, the 3 of Wands could be an indication of a lack of mutual respect and support. It could mean it’s time to move on.
On an intimate level, this is a wonderful card for fun and frolics – no room for kink or getting too experimental.
3 of Cups
The 3 of Cups is the card you want to show up if you have planned a romantic getaway. This is a sweet energy that tends to get raunchier if fuelled by drink.
If you’re single and want to date, you really can’t afford to turn down party invitations when this card shows up.
It’s a card of whispering sweet nothings and making the other person blush. It’s a card of dancing the night away and sharing breakfast together the next morning. With The Lovers and/or The Hierophant you could expect wedding bells eventually if you keep having breakfast together.
However, if it shows up reversed or ill-dignified, it could be a sign that your lover is sharing himself this way with more than one person. Monogamy might not be their forte.
Under the duvet, this card is a promise of a mutually satisfying time. Crank Barry White up and get down!
3 of Swords
“Uh-oh”. That’s usually the reaction I get when I see this card in a relationship reading. The very best possible interpretation of this sorrowful card is a forced, temporary situation. Perhaps he’s been stationed abroad.
But usually, it just means rejection, separation, loss and utter hopelessness. You don’t just feel that you are being unfairly treated – you are being unfairly treated. You have to find a way of changing the balance in your favour. Or you have to when you have stopped crying.
You can’t affect the other person or their decisions but you can heal your own heart and make sure that things are different the next time. The truth hurts sometimes. You usually come away from a 3 of Swords lesson realising that you have some self-improvement work to do in order to manifest lasting love.
For recently single people, this card usually indicates that now is not a good time to start dating again. Much healing is needed first.
There is no intimacy or change of meanings with reversals for this card. The tarot wouldn’t reflect life if it sugar-coated everything, now would it?
3 of Disks
The 3 of Disks (or Pentacles) indicates too much work and maybe not enough play. You probably look good in public. Stuff like that is important to both of you… but how much fun are you having?
All relationships go through phases. This is a phase when one or both of you is focusing on getting the work done. You could be involved in a taxing project. You could be feeling as if your spouse is ‘married to work.’
To single people, this card combined with the 2 of Cups or the Knight of Cups could indicate that you’ll meet someone through work.
Reversed or ill-dignified, the 3 of Disks could signify that someone has taken advantage of you sexually and/or financially.
On an intimate level, this card could indicate a ménage à trois.
The Cheating Tarot 3s
All of the 3s could potentially indicate the involvement of a third party. Look for proximity to The Devil or the 7 of Swords in the spread.
Hi Lisa. How would you interpret the 3 of wands relating to the question how and where will I meet my future lover? I did a one card draw. Would it indicate some sort of online dating?
Usually, Swords show up for Internet dating. I tend to see the 3 of Wands as meeting through one’s personal network. So network some more in the New Year 😉
Thanks! That’s good because I really don’t like internet dating. I’ve really enjoyed reading your blogs and have learned a lot from your site.
your interpretation of 3 of wands is so different than the ones on other sites. At least as far as relationships go. 3 of wnad relationship is always described as one partner stringing along the other one and waiting for something better to come along…which is the opposite of what you wrote?Thanks
I have never heard ‘stringing someone along’ as a fit for the 3 of Wands.
I found that on Aeclectic forum,and I had a reading from a professional who interpreted the card in the similar way…that’s why I am confused.
OK. There is an inherent frankness associated with the 3 of Wands with its Sun in Aries correspondence that is not really compatible with stringing someone along. That said, how a reader interprets ANY card, of course depends on surrounding cards.
The question was ”how would a relationship with certain someone look like” one card,and the interpretation was ”this person would always be looking for something better”…
I asked a question what i can do to help this guy come out of his past? His failed relationship is probably ruining my chances of having a future with him. I got 3 of Cups. I gather the card tells me to be there as a friend & he will learn to rely on me. Read this here & i will definitely try to take him out more often. Thank you
Had a relationship reading done recently and the cards were 10 of wands, 3 of wands reversed and the devil. The reader thought there was a future for us, though it might not be easy. After reading this page I am not so sure. How would you interpret these cards.
Hi there, I have a rule: I never comment on a reading done by a third party.
Fair enough 🙂
Love your interpretations, Lisa! I’ll never forget long ago during one of my earliest readings, I pulled the 3 of Cups about a relationship. I sort of hesitated, then said, “You know… this could suggest that he is seeing someone else…” The client said, “Oh, I know he is. And I know who it is, too!” LOL
I have never NOT had confirmation when I see a third party involved, so the cards never hold back on that and neither should we… but it’s very good to phrase it the way you did – it leaves room for denial if it’s too much for the client at the time 😉
Great description of the 3 of swords. What do you seen when you see a 3 of swords and a lovers card in a spread? Thanks!
Thanks Vera, Typically that combo would mean a relationship on the fritz due to third party involvement… but it can also mean separation enforced from the outside. It kinda depends on the question and other cards too 🙂 Hope this helps!
I absolutely love your descriptions