Stages of the Twin Flame Relationship Tarot Spread

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Many people yearn for and/or struggle with Twin Flame relationships right now. More Twin Flame relationships than ever are being activated as we near Earth’s ascension threshold. It is good to know that there are some clearly recognisable stages on the path to perfected Twin Flame love, and that we are not alone in our struggles.

Does everyone have to pass through every stage? No. The key is surrender to love at every turn. But you cannot surrender on behalf of your Twin Flame and no matter how surrendered you are, they may still have a while to go before they are ready.

The only thing left to do then is to accept this and to channel the love and passion you have in your heart into creative pursuits and divine service.

stages of the twin flame relationship

The spread above is one I was inspired to create upon watching the video below. I pulled one card each from the Sirian Starseed Tarot, for myself and my Twin Flame, for each of the 7 stages outlined in this video:

1. Recognition and Temporary Spiritual Awakening
2. Testing
3. Crisis
4. Runner dynamic
5. Surrender
6. Radiance
7. Harmonising

The card on the left is mine and the card on the right is my Twin Flame’s. I immediately recognised a clear pattern for my Twin Flame’s journey to the Harmonising stage… Can you see what it is? To me, it is pretty clear that it’s not meant to be in this incarnation. Oh well, haha!

Blessed be!

Lisa Frideborg

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  1. Hi Lisa,

    I’ve been looking over your spread trying to further my own tarot education and thinking about your question, “Can you see what it is?” (Your TF’s clear pattern). I was curious if it was the frequency of Page cards…Page’s are still kind of in a learning phase, right? Or the frequency of cup cards? Anything you care to share is much appreciated. I enjoy reading your interpretations 🙂


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      Hi Emily, It’s Sages, not Pages… and the Sages correspond with Queens in the Sirian Starseed Tarot. Yes, that was probably what I had in mind at the time… integrating feminine energy, which could be true for the energy of the feminine, watery Cups suit too 🙂 To be quite honest, I don’t think much about TF’s these days. Blessings, Lisa

  2. I just did this spread for me and my twin and it came out like this.

    1) The Hierophant, The Tower
    2) Judgment, Ace of Swords
    3) Queen of Wands, Strength
    4) King of Pentacles, Eight of Pentacles
    5) Page of Wands, Ten of Cups
    6) Eight of Cups, Seven of Swords
    7) Ace of Wands, Ten of Pentacles

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      Hi Justine, Thanks for sharing. Did you want to ask a question? If you are looking for help with interpreting the spread, you need to provied your own interpretation first. Cheers 🙂

  3. Thought I’d share: my spread was as follows- 1) eight of wands R, 2 of swords 2)five of swords, Nine of cups R 3) seven of swords, 8 of Pentacles. 4) ten of wands R, Seven of Pentacles R, 5)Six of Swords R, the magician R 6)Ace of Cups, Six of cups. 7) Prince of Swords, Princess of Cups

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      1. I typically enjoy reading without reversals. Out of sheer curiosity why do you not read reversed? Just a typical preference? Or do you feel it limits an individual’s reading?

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  4. My spread went as follows: 1) eight of wands, two of swords. 2) Five of swords, Nine of Cups. 3) Seven of Swords, eight of Pinnacles. 4) Ten of Wands, seven of Pentacles. 5) Six of Swords, The Magician. 6) Ace of Cups, Six of Cups. 7) Princess of Cups, Prince of Pinnacles

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  5. I have a strange connection with a guy from work. Its not just a physical attraction but it feels spiritually emotional too. I find it so easy to talk to him, like a familarity almost like a brotherly sisterly bond. But this is only when he lets me in. He’s currently in the runner dynamic stage but occasionally fluctuates in a surrender way.

    The thing is that both if us come from different religious backgrounds so i wouldn’t know how this would work? I only wish that this connection i have with him can remain as a close friendship. Have twin flames ever remained close friends or is there always an urge to merge together?

    I admit sometimes i have this urge to be connected to him but most of the time i just want to be his friend. Since last year i’ve started to dream about him more and the more i’m becoming aware of this attraction the more i just can’t stop thinking about him.

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      Hi Glittergirl, sorry for the mega late reply. For some reason, I missed your comment and only saw it after moving websites/republishing this post. Twin Flames are about being reunited for the purpose of divine service. If you have not transcended religion yet, you are not ready to come together for this purpose yet. Twin Flames can definitely be platonic because it’s not about love in the romantic sense – it’s about union on a much higher plane. It sounds more like strong chemistry than a possible TF.

  6. Hi Lisa, loved the video, the music was awesum and the guidance too….. felt like its my story, not sure what the outcome wld be! huh…
    few doubts, seeking your guidance 🙂
    Everyone meets his/her twin-flame and reaches the harmonizing stage in every birth? Also, can a person have more than one twin-flame?
    regards, annu

  7. Would an Emporer and Empress in the Harmonising stage indicate a physical reunion in this incarnation? Im assuming so. We have recently come together again after a long “break.” Its going…. Im not not sure what stage we are in, But I am ready to shit or get off the pot…pardon my french. 🙂

    1. I suppose it could do – are you sure the reading is about the one you just got back with… I mean, really REALLY sure? 😀 Because if you are, it wouldn’t take you long to figure out what stage you are at.

  8. Hello Lisa 🙂

    I was wondering if there is a spread out there that can tell you if you have already met the man you will marry? Or “the one”? That would be interesting 🙂

    1. You can use pretty much any general purpose spread for that, Mar. Simply look to the ‘outcome’ card for your answer… or use a simple yes/no one card draw. The Ace of Cups is yes, of course. The ‘maybe’ cards will show you if it is still in the balance, etc…

      Steer clear of the temptation of asking more than once though – the cards don’t take kindly to that!

        1. I don’t think it could ever start out as anything ‘casual’ because of the inner knowing that this is something ‘more than’ and ‘other than’ anything you have ever experienced before. That said there are some extraordinary friendships where both parties know they have come together to serve… and I don’t see why a TF relationship couldn’t start this way.

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