Sex – The Most Overlooked Key to Healing

“Everything in the world is about sex except sex. Sex is about power.”
~ Oscar Wilde

What is man’s primary motivation after survival? To reproduce. This drive is so strong that it completely overrides reasoning. If mankind was ruled by reasoning rather than its sex drive, we wouldn’t have an overpopulated planet. Simples. And anyone who was physically unable to reproduce would opt for adoption rather than IVF 100 times out of 100.

Our sex drive gives us vitality, a sense of wellbeing and power when it is unfettered. The latter this is precisely why those in power sought to fetter it… so that they would be able to control us through fear (first chakra/masculine sexuality) and guilt (second chakra/female sexuality).

The simple truth is you cannot be completely healed unless you are emotionally free and you cannot be emotionally free when your sexuality is enslaved/subjected to fear and guilt.

So how can we liberate ourselves sexually? By understanding that…

* Your body is yours and as long you do not hurt/harm another being, nobody can impose restrictions on how or with whom you express yourself sexually
* All religion is inherently flawed precisely because it disempowers people sexually
* You need to have sex regularly (sex with self counts too!) for your immune system to remain fully functioning
* Sexuality as portrayed by most porn is heavily flavoured with the fear and guilt mentioned above
* Tantra (sacred union) is the way forward for total healing and wellbeing
* There is nothing shameful about our naked bodies
* We need to teach our children to love and respect their bodies and stop talking about sex or certain body parts (bits? WTF?!) as dirty/naughty
* In Victorian times a woman who enjoyed sex was labeled clinically insane (this is only a few generations back, people!), so women are still especially prone to shaming (slut shaming, anyone?) if they happen to be healthy and actually really love to fuck
* We are moving away from a binary view of sexuality… You are not either male or female, straight or gay… there are a multitude of flavours out there and they are all OK

Do you struggle with loving your body and its drives/urges? You have probably been programmed to believe this is life-long struggle. You have been lied to. You can let go of the shame and guilt right here, right now. You can revisit past memories which make you blush with a new, compassionate understanding that you reacted a certain way to certain circumstances only because you were disempowered and now that you know better you can do better… and begin to simply ENJOY!

When I was a Physiotherapy student at the Karolinska University of Stockholm, Sweden, I had the pleasure of sitting through a lecture about our immune system. Apparently, research proves that people who have sex frequently have 30% higher immunoglobin levels than those who don’t. Our female Russian guest lecturer ended the the lecture with a smile, telling us all to go home and have a good orgasm.

We live in a day and age when we no longer need to worry about unwanted pregnancies or STI’s, provided the right precautions are taken… Welcome to the New ***Sexually Liberated*** Age!

And whatever you do, don’t believe a New Age prophet who doesn’t dance or who claims that being celibate/sexually abstinent ‘raises your vibration’!


~ Lisa


Comments 13

  1. Way to carry the flame, Lisa. 🙂 I am starting to wonder if the role of sex is not related to the environment more than our vibration. What I mean is that if we are living in a passionate place (like a city) or plugged into a passionate social network (sharing a passionate consciousness through various media) we may in fact require more sexual activity in order to bring ourselves into balance. Whereas, for example, older people have tended to drop off in their desires for sex as they age, we now have the facility and instigation for altering the norms of human behavior such that older people desire more sex and are able to have it (due to technology). I don’t feel that the demand preceded the supply, per se. The market was created by the influence of media on mass consciousness. What I might call the Peter Pan effect of materialism in the wake of the industrial and now especially the information age. If a couple is able to arrange there environment and interactions in a such a way that there is less passionate influence, perhaps the mode of goodness (sattva) compared to the modes of passion (rajas) and ignorance (tamas) would prevail, and thereby sex would be less necessary or desired. That’s why I feel that your other topics that touch on making love not simply for the orgasm are so important and I find that this is where I want to see myself and humanity evolve towards. That being said, we have to start with an appreciation for the orgasm and its benefits. Agreed. 🙂
    -Enoc Ananda

    1. Interesting thoughts, Ananda. I can only speak for myself. Nature Herself brings out the sex drive in me to a much higher degree than media influence or social connections could ever do. So is ‘sattva’ more elevated than nature?

      1. Well, my limited understanding is that sattva is a mode of nature. The normal mode is the middle one (rajas) characterized by passions or activity. The mode of goodness (sattva) is merely one of less activity or passionate influence. I am interested to understand how modern life is amping up the passionate influences and changing the so-called natural course of physiological and psychological growth.

        I like Erik Erikson’s work on the 8 stages of psychological development.

        We are all different of course and have varying needs. Being that I feel that I am actually loving for the first time (ever), I am now facing these imbalances that require accommodation and calibration (without actual compromise…) in order for peaceful progress to be possible. It is fascinating to experience that even our own capacity to love is not fulfilled unless we are in a fully reciprocal relationship. Allowing the other (beloved) to grow into new vistas of consciousness within the mutually beneficial companionship of the intimate relationship is a real growth opportunity. It stretches authenticity, sincerity, vulnerability, humility and compassion to new levels.

        So, within the environment of the relationship, I postulate that we cannot actually compromise. Instead, we have to become fully honest and loving through acceptance. If the spark of love that made the match happen is cared for, trusted and honored, then the couple will never need to compromise. Instead, the giving impulse will lead the way, because there will already be a balance of individual and cooperative activity. The individual activities only have integrity if they are considerate of the cooperative reality. The cooperative activities only have integrity if they are considerate of the individual reality. Consideration promotes coordination which then enables cooperation.

        This is very important because we all have a tendency to want to find “the” solutions for living and stick to them, but is not holistic living about perpetual adaptation and reconfiguration in consideration that our environment is complex and changing, including our aging bodies? So, I am pointing to the possibility that filtering and purifying our streams of consciousness may be a big factor in being able to achieve that mode of goodness (sattva) eventually (if not in this life, then future lives as karma carries forward). We need the fire of passion to get things done, but at least from my reading of how the wheel of incarnations operates, we eventually are aiming to transcend our attachment for the material world by being less engaged in what attaches us to it, which is passion. On the other hand, I have met people who simply want to get better at passion in successive lives. One step at a time, and whatever floats your boat! 🙂

        1. That seems to be a rather ‘intellectual’ concept of Mother Nature – for someone like me, who is focused more on experience, it fails to make sense. Experiencing nature in spring time for instance, means being part of one big fornication fest. There is a natural rhythm to everything but part of that natural rhythm, you will find passion waxing and waning.

          I wish you had made your answer a bit more succinct – That way, someone like me might have actually had a chance of understanding what you are getting at.

      2. I was connecting the dot from experience of the seasons of life (as reflected by stages / ages of life). I now experience nature in its seasons and my own nature in a seeming parallel to Mother Nature’s own seasons as well. You seem to be referring to that. The solstice festivals tend to bring this out naturally, yes? What I feel and see is that our time here is also operating in seasons through the process of aging. The philosophy I have connected to also speaks of a larger and smaller cycles (seasons) of the individual human body, the spirit soul, and of Earth and of the Cosmos, for example. So, within the scope of time, we are subject to so many correlations that everything is effectively in flux. Wherever we focus our attention (to engage and experience) is where we attach our consciousness relatively. Time demands and commands our attention through the seasons of life.

        I am basically saying that a holistic approach to all of the topics of health, including sex, would benefit from emphasizing and perhaps categorizing their relative scope of application. Is this for the micro scope of the individual’s specific time, place and circumstance (stage of life development and age within it), the macro scope of the individual’s character (that broadly applies all life activity) or to the meta scope of the individual’s relationship to its environment outside the scope of time (within eternity). Spirituality can be experienced within each of these scopes and various myths light our path within various scopes. I would love to see the dots connected between these three scopes of application regarding the role of sexuality in our experience and expression as spiritual beings for the benefit of our healing into integrity at all three of these levels. My feeling is that this healing is taking place lifetime after lifetime until as they say, “kingdom come.” You are providing a valuable service, Lisa. Radhe Shyam!

        1. I consider the cycles of man’s ages (and reincarnation) too (when I’m guided to do so)… but you can’t help people by trying to give them everything in one go. I go into overwhelm when I read what you write here. Sorry, but it is too much information. I wasn’t trying to cover all bases here nor will I do that in the future, event though some of my articles are more ‘Meta’ (in that they provide an overview) than this one. My pragmatic nature guides me to give people information that they can use and apply in the moment without having to build a whole philosophical construct (or adopt one!). To be frank, that’s not my job, nor does it even remotely interest me.

      3. Sorry for any confusion. Your post got me thinking about how the topic of sex and sexual health could be used for weaving a master narrative (myth) that would connect the micro, macro and meta scopes of experience and existence. I am currently examining the power of myth and how to harness it as a means of healing and influencing consciousness. I want to become a story teller, which to me is the natural progression of a mastery of connecting the dots.

      4. Oh, but back to the point of causality. I am suggesting that our streams of consciousness may in fact comprise or influence our fluid nature more than we realize. An interesting thing to consider is the chakra point that serves as the entry point for particular incoming streams of consciousness (or media). Certainly, the advertising industry is making use of manipulation techniques via media in order to produce a desired effect. Propaganda is used to alter or appropriate our natures. Of course, a soul who can be considered to be a sovereign integral has no need and quite likely no interest in anything more than the pragmatic aspects of human behavior. I suppose it depends on what type of service to humanity suits their personality best.

      5. Generally, I agree, but I am not so sure that it is binary. Kind of how environmental noise (even white noise) can permanently damage hearing. My feeling is that there are various layers or levels of awakening, just as there are chakra levels of consciousness that people attain. My best guess is that the matrix of illusion accommodates a fairly rich set of sophistication. So, it is possible to still be asleep while believing ourselves to be awake. Dreams within dreams within dreams… Humility and compassion increases as one penetrates the veils more deeply. Something like that.

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