3 Reasons Why It’s Better to NOT Manifest a Soul Mate Relationship


If you are single and even remotely interested in spirituality, it is likely that you have been encouraged somewhere along the line to ‘call in your Soul Mate.’  There are a few problems with this however. The most obvious, beside most people not having a clue what a soul mate actually is, is that none of the available singles from your soul group may be ready for the forever love you happen to be ready for.

So what is a soul mate? It is someone you have spent at least one past life with and on the other side you are in the same ‘year’ (aka Soul Group) as the other person. The connection may or may not have been romantic in nature in your most recent past life. You may or may not have a contract with the other person to get together in this life-time, for the purpose of learning or clearing karmic debt. However, there is a myth that we need to bust right here and right now: You are not obliged to clear a karmic debt with a specific person. You both still has free will. Think about it; How are you supposed to clear karma with someone who chooses not to be in your life?

What you really should be manifesting if you want to meet your forever love is someone who is your vibrational match and who is capable of long-term commitment. If you are in the process of ascending into 5th dimensional living (as I know many of my readers are), your vibrational match will be found among any of those on the same spiritual path, regardless of soul group origin.

Here are the top three reasons why it is often better to find someone entirely new to play with:

  • You start with a clean slate. There are no weird undercurrents or button-pushing that originated in a past life. Having to contend with psychological patterns created in this lifetime is often more than enough.
  • You won’t feel bound to stay with the other person after the love has fizzled and the lessons have been learned. These kind of karmic bonds which can feel impossible to break free from are often found in Saturn Squares and Oppositions in your synastry chart.
  • You have an infinitely larger number of potential suitors to choose from. Sure, it’s nice (some say priceless) to have a feeling of instant familiarity with someone… but come on!  Ever heard the saying,‘ Life Begins Where Your Comfort Zone Ends’? Seeking the comfort of a soul mate connection is a bit like going through your phone list, looking for available ex’s as soon as a relationship ends. Wouldn’t meeting someone new be more fun?

I can hear a lot of ‘buts’ out there… Let’s deal with some of the most common ones.

But what if I am fated to clear karmic debt with someone?

Good news! As we collectively ascend into the 5th dimension, karmic bonds are becoming considerably looser. This is because the more conscious and aware we become of the true nature of reality and our own existence, the easier it becomes to resolve any lingering karma instantly. You can do this on your own, right here and now — No need to wait for your next long-term relationship so that you can both drag each other down into some karmic debt hell. That scenario is soooo 3D.

But this psychic told me that I would meet my soul mate next spring and we are going to be married with 2.4 children!

Guess what? You still have free will! What is more important than meeting your soul mate is that the person you have children by is a good person. Yes, you could meet your soul mate and fall in love before you find out that he is an alcoholic. Slow down and don’t live your life by the dictates of some psychic who may or may not be genuinely gifted.

But I truly feel that my soul mate and I are fated to stay together. He’s abusive but I must have been abusive to him in a past life.

This may or may not be a soul mate connection (It’s just as likely that you have matching psychological patterns). But you are never obliged to stay with someone who abuses you. If you are not strong enough to leave on your own, please seek help!

But nothing beats the feeling of instant recognition on a first date (or sometimes even as you connect through the ether) – It truly is priceless.

Then suit yourself. But don’t assume you know the other person just because you shared a past life together. You may have focused on spiritual growth in this lifetime, whereas the other person has made, shall we say ‘less edifying’ choices. Read the article Soul Mates, Schmoul Mates which illustrates this point perfectly.

Any more buts? I’m happy to answer any of your questions about this in the comments section below.

Blessed be!