9 of Cups As Feelings (with a Ritual and Tarot Spread) ⋆ Angelorum Tarot

9 of cups as feelings in a love and relationship tarot reading

The 9 of Cups, often referred to as the “wish card,” represents emotional fulfilment, contentment, and material happiness. Ruled by Jupiter in Pisces, this card embodies the expansive, benevolent energy of Jupiter combined with the deep, intuitive waters of Pisces. It symbolises a state of joy, satisfaction, and the manifestation of one’s desires, particularly in the realm of emotions and relationships. Hence, it is no surprise that the 9 of Cups as feelings is the ideal card to show up in a reading about how your love interest feels about you.

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9 of Cups as Feelings of a Love Interest (Upright)

When the 9 of Cups appears upright in a love reading, it suggests that your love interest is experiencing a profound sense of emotional satisfaction and happiness in relation to you. They may feel as though their emotional cup is overflowing with positive feelings, indicating a deep connection and sense of fulfilment.

This card can also represent:

A feeling of having found “the one”
Emotional abundance and generosity
A desire to share joy and good fortune with you
A sense of pride in the relationship
Feelings of gratitude and contentment

In the context of Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love, the 9 of Cups aligns closely with the concept of consummate love, where passion, intimacy, and commitment are all present in high degrees.

9 of Cups as Feelings when Reversed or Ill-dignified

When reversed or ill-dignified, the 9 of Cups can indicate emotional dissatisfaction or unfulfilled wishes in the context of a relationship. Your love interest may be experiencing:

A sense of emotional emptiness despite outward appearances
Disappointment or disillusionment in the relationship
Feelings of taking the relationship for granted
Emotional overindulgence, addiction or escapism
A disconnect between material success and emotional fulfilment

The energy of disappointment or feeling taken for granted might relate to the equity imbalance in Social Exchange Theory, where one partner feels they are giving more than they are receiving emotionally.

9 of Cups When You Are Single and Looking

For singles, the 9 of Cups is a positive omen. It suggests that you are in a good place emotionally and ready to attract love. This card encourages you to:

Focus on self-love and personal contentment
Cultivate a positive, optimistic outlook on love
Trust that your emotional desires will be fulfilled
Enjoy the process of dating and meeting new people
Be open to receiving love and affection

The Jupiterian energy of the 9 of Cups aligns with the concept of self-expansion in relationship theories, where personal growth and satisfaction create a fertile ground for new connections.

9 of Cups As Your Attachment Style in the Relationship

The 9 of Cups as your attachment style suggests a secure and confident approach to love. You likely:

Feel emotionally fulfilled and self-assured
Are comfortable with intimacy and expressing affection
Have a positive view of yourself and your partner
Can maintain a healthy balance between independence and closeness
Are able to give and receive love freely

This secure attachment style is associated with higher relationship satisfaction and longevity, according to attachment theory research.

9 of Cups As the Attachment Style of Your Love Interest

If the 9 of Cups represents your love interest’s attachment style, it indicates that they:

Feel emotionally secure and content in the relationship
Are likely to be generous with their affection and support
Have a positive outlook on the relationship’s future
Are comfortable with both giving and receiving love
May sometimes struggle with complacency or take the relationship for granted

9 of Cups As the Energetic Connection

As a representation of the energetic connection between you and your love interest, the 9 of Cups suggests:

A harmonious and fulfilling emotional bond
Mutual satisfaction and contentment in the relationship
A sense of emotional abundance and generosity between partners
Shared joy and celebration of each other’s successes
A deep sense of gratitude for the relationship

This connection resonates with the high levels of commitment and satisfaction described in Rusbult’s Investment Model and with Agape Love in Lee’s Colour Wheel Theory of Love.

9 of Cups As the Potential Outcome

As a potential outcome, the 9 of Cups is highly auspicious. It suggests:

Emotional fulfilment and happiness in the relationship
The manifestation of shared wishes and desires
A sense of having “arrived” at a place of contentment together
Potential for long-term satisfaction and commitment
A relationship that brings joy and abundance to both partners

This outcome aligns with the concept of relationship rewards outweighing costs.

9 of Cups in a Relationship Breakdown

In the context of a relationship breakdown, the 9 of Cups might indicate:

One partner holding onto an idealised version of the relationship
Difficulty accepting that emotional fulfilment has waned
Potential for reconciliation if both partners can reconnect with their emotional needs
A need to find contentment and emotional fulfilment independently
The importance of gratitude for the positive aspects of the relationship, even as it ends

This perspective relates to the intrapsychic phase where individuals reassess their emotional needs and satisfaction.

Tarot Ritual for New Love with Archangel Gabriel

To perform this ritual, you will need:

The 9 of Cups tarot card
A white candle
A quiet, comfortable space

Begin by creating a sacred space. Light the white candle (a tea light is fine), symbolising new beginnings and pure intentions.
Hold the 9 of Cups card in your hands, focusing on its energy of emotional fulfilment and abundance.
Call upon Archangel Gabriel, ruler of the Element of Water and the Moon, saying: “Archangel Gabriel, I invite your presence and guidance in attracting a compatible and loving partner into my life.”
Visualise yourself surrounded by a pure silver-white lunar light of perfect love and contentment.
Affirm: “I am worthy of receiving love and happiness in my life. I attract a partner who brings emotional fulfilment and mutual enjoyment.”
Spend a few moments in meditation, imagining yourself enjoying dating experiences filled with laughter, connection, and mutual understanding.
Close the ritual by thanking Archangel Gabriel and allow the candle to burn out safely.

Perform this ritual regularly to maintain a positive, open energy towards love and dating. Remember, the 9 of Cups encourages you to enjoy the journey and trust in the abundance of love available to you.

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The 9 of Cups-Inspired Joyful Dating Tarot Spread

While this 9 of Cups-inspired Tarot spread for a joyful dating experience was created primarily for those single and looking, there is nothing to stop coupled individuals from using it. Hopefully, you’re still going out and having fun together!