The 7 of Wands as Feelings in Love and Relationships
The 7 of Wands symbolises perseverance, standing one’s ground, and overcoming challenges. Corresponding with Mars in Leo, this card embodies the fiery determination to defend one’s beliefs, desires, or personal space. In relationships, it often indicates someone feeling the need to protect their heart, assert their boundaries, or prove their worth. While this can stem from confidence, it may also reveal insecurity or a fear of vulnerability.
Archangel Michael is the angel corresponding with the suit of Wands and the Element of Fire.
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7 of Wands as Feelings of a Love Interest (Upright)
When the 7 of Wands appears upright in a love reading, it often signifies that the person in question is deeply passionate but also defensive. They may feel the need to fight for your attention or prove their commitment, particularly if they believe external pressures or rivals threaten the connection.
The passion component is heightened but commitment and intimacy may fluctuate depending on external stressors. The person may love intensely but struggle with trust, needing constant reassurance that their place in your life is secure.
This card can signal that they perceive an imbalance—perhaps they feel they are putting in more effort than they are receiving. This could lead them to test your loyalty or set firm boundaries to ensure fairness.
7 of Wands as Feelings When Reversed or Ill-dignified
A reversed 7 of Wands suggests exhaustion, defensiveness crumbling into self-doubt, or a reluctance to fight for the relationship. They may feel overwhelmed by conflict and question whether the connection is worth the struggle.
According to Rusbult’s Investment Model, this happens when high emotional costs outweigh perceived rewards, leading one partner to withdraw. If the relationship has a history of inequity, this card reversal may indicate burnout—one person may no longer see the benefit of standing their ground or defending their position.
Alternatively, the person may feel vulnerable and unable to assert themselves, especially if their attachment style leans towards anxious or fearful-avoidant tendencies. Rather than fighting, they may retreat or submit to avoid further tension.
7 of Wands When You Are Single and Looking
If you are single and draw the 7 of Wands, you might feel guarded or hesitant to open up to new romantic opportunities. This could stem from past betrayals, personal insecurities, or a strong need for independence.
The card advises holding firm to your standards but not becoming so closed off that you miss a genuine connection.
You might resonate with the ‘Manik’ (possessive, intense–spelt with a k to avoid being penalised for using “non-inclusive language”) or ‘Ludic’ (game-playing) love styles, either pushing too hard or keeping others at a distance.
You may need to work through trust issues before fully embracing a new relationship.
7 of Wands As Your Attachment Style
The 7 of Wands as an attachment style suggests a defensive attachment pattern—you may have an anxious-avoidant tendency, fearing both rejection and intimacy. While you may desire deep connection, you instinctively guard yourself to prevent emotional pain. You likely struggle with emotional vulnerability and prefer to maintain control over the relationship dynamic.
7 of Wands As the Attachment Style of Your Love Interest
If your love interest embodies the 7 of Wands, they may resist emotional closeness while fiercely protecting their autonomy. Their defensiveness can stem from past wounds, making them quick to react when they perceive a threat to their independence. If not handled with care, their walls may hinder relationship growth, making communication essential.
7 of Wands As the Energetic Connection
The energy between you and your lover may feel charged, filled with both passion and tension. If one person always feels the need to prove themselves or compete for attention, this can lead to power struggles. This dynamic is defined in Equity Theory as a situation where an imbalance in emotional effort leads to resentment.
7 of Wands As the Potential Outcome
As a potential outcome, the 7 of Wands signifies perseverance—if both partners are willing to stand by each other, the relationship can endure despite challenges. However, if the connection is built on constant conflict, the effort required to maintain it may become unsustainable over time.
7 of Wands in a Relationship Breakdown
In light of Duck’s Phase Model of Relationship Breakdown, the 7 of Wands most closely represents the ‘Dyadic Phase,’ where partners confront issues and try to justify their positions. If neither is willing to back down, the relationship may escalate towards dissolution. However, if handled constructively, this stage can lead to necessary changes and renewed commitment.
Angelic Love Tarot Ritual for Passion and Courage
You Will Need:
- 7 of Wands Tarot card
- A red or white tea candle (a tea light candle is fine)
- A quiet space for meditation
Invocation of Archangel Michael:
“Archangel Michael, guardian of the flame, grant me strength to love without fear. Help me stand in my truth, heart wide open. May passion burn bright, yet never consume. Guide my steps towards love that uplifts and endures.”
Light the candle and meditate on the 7 of Wands, visualising yourself embodying both courage and vulnerability in love. Focus on releasing fear while courageously expressing your desires. Make a journal entry about what comes up for you during the meditation.
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A 7 of Wands-inspired Love Tarot Spread for Passionate Love
This 7 of Wands-inspired Tarot spread helps you reclaim your passion and assertiveness in love. It reveals your innate strengths, uncovers hidden blocks, and guides you toward confident self-expression. By exploring what a balanced, passionate relationship looks like and the steps needed to manifest it, you can align with a love that fuels both heart and soul.
- What innate strength can I draw on in love relationships?
- What is blocking my passion?
- How can I express my desires more confidently?
- What does a balanced, passionate relationship look like for me?
- What steps should I take to manifest a reciprocal and passionate relationship?
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