Queen of Swords

Queen of Swords Frideborg Tarot

Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved.
~ Helen Keller

The Queen of Swords is nobody’s fool, nor does she suffer fools gladly. In fact, gladness is not a major characteristic of hers at all. She is well read, well spoken and has experienced many of life’s sorrows first hand.

She is the the spinster or widow who enjoys being single and would rather spend her free time in the library than at a social event. She is the career woman who values learning and a career advancement over motherhood. She can be judgemental.

In love and romance, she tends to follow her head rather than her heart and she can be notoriously picky. Is there anybody good enough for her out there? Maybe, but he’d better qualify for MENSA – dumbasses need not bother!

Her divine role is to nurture others with hard won words of wisdom. Only when she allows her emotions to soften and tears to fall and mingle with the love that she is trying so desperately to hide away in her heart will she blossom into the fullness of her queenhood and rule as a fair sovereign of her own mind and heart.

To live is to suffer, to survive is to find some meaning in the suffering.
~ Friedrich Nietzsche

 

Affirmation: “I manifest abundance with ease. Paying attention to detail, I lovingly share with those in my care.”

 

Queen of Swords Prayer

Dear Mother-Father God (or whichever higher power you acknowledge), thank you for the wisdom brought by sorrow and separation. Help me integrate it with the wisdom of the heart so that I may nurture those who suffer with my words. So mote it be!

 

Correspondences for the Queen of Swords

Zodiac Sign: Libra (first two decans) and Virgo (final decan)

Element: Water of Air

Archangel: Raphael (Ruler of the Element of Air) and Jophiel (angel of Libra)

Gemstone: Green calcite, jade and watermelon tourmaline

Scent: Watermelon, geranium and bergamot

 

The Queen of Swords in Love and Relationships

So you have the hots for the Queen of Swords, huh? Want the lowdown and learn how to win her mind? Yes, I said mind. She often considers romantic love too cheesy to consult her heart. That’s not to say she won’t fall in love but it has to make sense to her.

The Queen of Swords is usually heavy on the Element of Air in her chart. Her Sun or Rising sign is likely to be Gemini or Libra. She gets off on the subtleties of word usage but sometimes enjoys sarcasm to the point of turning into a bit of a beeotch.

Pros: She is witty and holds her own in any conversation which definitely helps in a first date scenario. Less of the ‘awkward silence’ moments! She has an opinion about lots of things but is usually tactful enough to avoid coming across as arrogant.

She’s too level-headed to fall head over heels in love or start planning what she’s going to name your children after the second date.

She’s fair and not prone to emotional manipulation.

Least likely to aim for ‘kept woman’ status.

Very little reading between the lines is needed… Ah, but you still need to learn what women really mean:

Cons: She might struggle with making her mind up and usually don’t mind dating (or talking to) a few guys at the same time. Develop an intelligent strategy to capture her mind if your intent is to capture her heart long-term.  If you’re insecure about your own intellectual prowess, you would do better looking elsewhere. (I.e. if you had to google the meaning of the word prowess.)

Also, if you’re the type of guy who thinks a good woman should talk less and cook more, this one’s not for you! Prepare to fork out for meals out and take-aways. Don’t worry, she’ll usually offer to go dutch in the name of fairness and equality. The kitchen simply isn’t her domain, dah-ling – she has more important things to do, don’t you know!

She’s not very forgiving.

Type of date she prefers: First date would be somewhere quiet where you can talk and get to know each other. If you’re lucky enough to get more than one date, take her somewhere intellectually stimulating or for a hike in Nature if her mind is buzzing and she needs to ground. You probably won’t need to guess which would be the better option as she’s likely to tell you.

How to seduce the Queen of Swords: Always remember that her brain is her biggest erogenous zone. She might get off on dirty talk. But make sure you get to know her very well first before you broach the topic. Foot in mouth disease is not something she forgives in a hurry.

Her best match: The King of Wands, because a) visionary men (yes, plural) tickle her mind and b) she’s not too attached to her homeland to go roaming the world with him.

Her worst match: The Knight of Cups as a) she might to try to diagnose him with bipolar disorder because of his emotional ups and downs and b) because his love poems leave her cold.

 

Queen of Swords as Situation, Challenge, Opportunity and Action Advice

Situation: Criticism (warranted or unwarranted) makes up this situation

Challenge: Avoid harsh criticism, try the ‘shit sandwich method’ and remember that a spoonful of sugar makes the medicine go down

Opportunity: A chance to nurture with words, a literary project

Action Advice: Focus on creating harmony with your words