
The Hermit, corresponding with the zodiac sign Virgo, is a Major Arcana card that symbolises introspection, solitude, and inner wisdom. In relationships, this card often represents a period of self-reflection and spiritual growth. The Hermit encourages us to look within for answers and to seek a deeper understanding of ourselves and our connections with others. The corresponding archangel is Raziel. Click on the link below to go to an angelic Love Tarot Ritual with Archangel Raziel.
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The Hermit as Feelings of a Love Interest (Upright)
When The Hermit appears upright in a reading about a love interest’s feelings, it suggests that they are in a phase of introspection and self-discovery. They may be taking time to reflect on their emotions and desires, seeking clarity before fully committing to a relationship. This aligns with the concept of self-expansion in relationships, where individuals seek personal growth alongside romantic connection.
Self-expansion is positive in general as it tends to lead to happier and healthier relationships. However, if they withdraw without communicating their intentions or explaining what’s going on for them, it’s usually not a good sign.
The Hermit as Feelings when Reversed or Ill-dignified
The Hermit reversed can indicate feelings of loneliness or isolation within a relationship. Your love interest may be struggling with communication or feeling disconnected. This reversal might point to an imbalance in the relationship, where one partner feels neglected or misunderstood. It’s important to open up to communicate in a way that makes both partners feel seen and heard.
The Hermit When You Are Single and Looking
When you are single, The Hermit suggests a period of self-discovery and personal growth before entering a new relationship. This time of solitude can be beneficial, allowing you to develop a stronger sense of self and clarify your desires in a partner. It encourages a focus on self-love and independence, which are crucial foundations for healthy relationships.
The Hermit as Your Attachment Style in the Relationship
The Hermit can represent a secure attachment style, where you are comfortable with both intimacy and independence. You value your personal space and growth while still being able to form deep connections. This balanced approach aligns with the concept of healthy interdependence in relationships.
The Hermit As the Attachment Style of Your Love Interest
If The Hermit represents your love interest’s attachment style, it may indicate that they value their independence and need for personal space. They might be slow to open up emotionally but are likely to form deep and meaningful connections once they do. This style can be related more to the storge than the eros style of loving, in terms of Lee’s 6 Styles of Love.
The Hermit As the Energetic Connection
The Hermit in this position suggests a connection based on mutual respect for each other’s individuality and personal growth. Your relationship may have a strong spiritual or intellectual component, with both partners supporting each other’s journey of self-discovery.
The Hermit as the Potential Outcome
While The Hermit can indicate a relationship that allows for personal growth and spiritual development, I usually find that this card in the outcome position of a love and relationship Tarot spread points to time apart. It may not be the end of the relationship but one or both of you need time to reassess how much you are willing to invest in the relationship. Alternatively, it may suggest a partnership where both individuals maintain their independence and live apart while supporting each other’s journeys.
The Hermit in a Relationship Breakdown
In the context of a relationship breakdown, The Hermit can represent a necessary period of reflection and healing. It may indicate that time apart is needed for both partners to gain perspective and work on personal issues. If you are thinking about leaving your partner, The Hermit can also signify that this is the right choice for you at this point–You’ll be better off on your own!
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The Hermit Angelic Love Tarot Ritual with AA Raziel

Materials needed:
- The Hermit Tarot card
- A purple candle
- A quiet, comfortable space
Steps:
- Create sacred space by clearing the area and lighting the purple candle.
- Hold The Hermit card in your hands and take a few deep breaths to centre yourself.
- Invoke Archangel Raziel by saying: “Archangel Raziel, guardian of mysteries and divine wisdom, I call upon your guidance in my journey of love and self-discovery.”
- Meditate on The Hermit card, focusing on its imagery and symbolism. Reflect on how its energy relates to your current relationship situation or desires.
- Ask Archangel Raziel for insights on maintaining healthy interdependence in relationships while honouring your individual growth.
- Journal any insights or messages you receive during this meditation.
- Close the ritual by thanking Archangel Raziel and extinguishing the candle or allowing the candle to burn out safely.
This ritual combines the wisdom of The Hermit with angelic guidance to foster a balanced approach to love and relationships, promoting both personal growth and meaningful connections.
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