The raging fire which urged us on was scorching us; it would have burned us had we tried to restrain it.
~ Giacomo Casanova
The Knight of Cups is the lyrical and passionate lover archetype. He is the tormented soul who stays up all night, drinking wine and composing a poem for his beloved. The only problem is that he may not love the object of his desires as much as he loves being in love.
Nevertheless, his deep passion often propels him to create exquisite art and for this we thank him. It takes the maturity, empathy and compassion of the King of Cups to create stickability in love and the Knight may often find that he forms a lasting bond only with his own passion and addictions.
The steady influence of Earth can help ground him enough to remember to pay his bills and raising his Fire, gradually taking on more leadership responsibility, helps him ascend to the status of the King of Cups.
This is the Knight who loves to lose himself in a mist of passionate love-making as per the poem below:
Speechless, we made love
In mist and clouds.
~ Lan Ling
This is truly a gift and anyone who has had the pleasure of this Knight’s company for even just one embrace is likely to thirst for more of the same. Musically speaking, this is the ballad that brings tears of desire and yearning to your eyes.
The Knight of Cups has the gift to make us feel truly alive… truly on fire with passion. This in turn, takes us through to the deeper layers of the psyche and hidden emotions may surface for healing. He (or she) makes an excellent art therapist if he does his work in awareness rather in a wine-induced haze.
Affirmation: “I allow myself to feel deeply and joyfully channel those feelings into creative pursuits.”
Knight of Cups Prayer
Dear Mother-Father God (or whichever higher power you acknowledge), thank you for creative inspiration and for the lessons brought by passionate relationships. Help me be mindful of how my desires impact the hearts of others. So mote it be!
Correspondences for the Knight of Cups
Zodiac Sign: First two decans of Scorpio and third decan of Libra
Element: Air of Water
Archangel: Raphael, ruler of the Air Element and Gabriel, ruler of the Water Element
Gemstone: Green jade
Scent: Nutmeg and rosewood
The Knight of Cups in Love and Relationships
Looking to date an über-romantic guy? Need your man to compose his own love poems for you? The Knight of Cups is the guy for you!
This is the man who as a young boy used to include a handwritten poem in the Mother’s Day card. He is the one who used to get scolded for daydreaming by his teachers, but who stunned the very same teachers with his imaginative art, writing or musical composition.
Often quite shy with the opposite sex, he’s a later bloomer when it comes to dating and getting to any sort of ‘base.’ However, once he gets a handle on lurve, he’s firmly stuck on romance. He’ll never be single for any longer period of time after that. And if he does have singledom enforced on him, he’s constantly yearning for and jonesing after the ever-elusive ‘One.’
Pros: He loves romance and won’t spare any trick in the book to woo you.
He is creative and may well inspire you to become more creative too.
He is passionate and this extends to the bedroom. Very, very steamy sessions ahead with this guy!
He is usually faithful.
Cons: Can be emotionally obsessed with the object of his desire.
Jealousy can be a very real problem with this guy.
His escapist tendencies and artistic temperament can make it difficult for him to hold down a job.
If he’s not up, he’s down and if he’s not down, he’s up. There’s very little middle ground and this is something you could potentially find emotionally draining.
Type of date he prefers: A moonlit beach. He’s brought his guitar, of course.
Time from your first date until you introduce him to your parents:About a week if you’re ‘The One.’ He’s probably already moved in by then too. And yes, he’ll be the one moving in with you – straight from his mum’s (no matter what age he is).
Wedding style: Careful. This one could turn into a bit of a groomzilla. He’ll want full control of all the artistic elements of the wedding!
Type of dad he would make: A natural bard and storyteller, your children will find him absolutely fascinating. Nobody but nobody tells a better bedtime story! Just don’t count on him to remember everything on the list when he goes shopping. He probably left the list itself on the dresser rummaging around for his car keys. It’s a bummer if he forgets to buy nappies but the kids will survive.
His best match: The Queen of Pentacles as a) she keeps him grounded and b) already bought an extra pack of nappies on a buy-one-get-one-free offer the week before. His worst match: The Queen of Swords because she a) would think that he’s a waste of space and b) would spare no effort in letting him know how she feels.
Knight of Cups as Situation, Challenge, Opportunity and Action Advice
Situation: Creativity is in focus for this reading
Challenge: Check any addictive tendencies
Opportunity: A good chance of romance and if not, at the very least a smashing poem/lyrics/painting etc
Action Advice: Allow your emotions creative expression through the fine arts
The card image is from my own Frideborg Tarot deck (OOP).