Walking his Talk

How They Really Feel Tarot Spread

Apparently, a lot of men don’t like to talk about their feelings. I wish someone would have told me this growing up – It would have saved me a lot of hassle. You may argue it’s just a sexist cliché but as clichés go, I’ve found it to be mostly true. Many men get angry and shut down when we suggest dialogue as a way of problem solving. If I’d had a penny for every time this happened to me, I’d be a rich woman by now.

Perhaps women even developed their intuitive skills in order to gain insights into the mysterious minds of men. That’s as good a theory as any when it comes to the legendary female intuition.

Thank heaven for the gifts of second sight and divination! Here’s a little tool I developed to help you see if they will walk their talk and what is really going on in their heart and mind… And yes, this spread can definitely be used to see how SHE feels too… Women can be less than frank about their feelings too, of course, and perhaps I shouldn’t generalise. No offense intended!

How they really feel tarot spread


1. His story – What he’s telling you
2. What he’s really thinking
3. How he feels about you deep down
4. How he’s walking his talk
5. Outside influences on his walk
6. How he will be walking his talk within 6-8 weeks

So is there an alternative to ‘psychic spying’ when it comes to understanding men (or women) who are not willing to open up in dialogue? Well, you can try giving the other person some space and ask them to let you know when they are ready to talk. In my own experience, if they have an established pattern of getting angry when asked to clarify something, that time sill be ‘never.’

If that is indeed the case, you are better off finding a more communicative partner. I know I have generalised a fair bit in this article but there are plenty of good men out there that are perfectly willing to reach an understanding between you – especially if given some time to mull things over first.

Love and Blessings


PS. If you feel you ‘have’ to use this spread time and time again, chances are, you are NOT with the right person. There IS a better way. Do the work on yourself until you are ready to not settle for less than the person who would be willing to ‘go there’ in dialogue about their feelings and the relationship dynamic you have.


Comments 236

  1. Hello could you please help. We work together.
    1. King of cups–he is telling me he is stable, caring w strong family values
    2. Ace of cups–he thinks I’m holding back? Is that correct.
    3. Wheel–he feels opportunistic and will take it if I come around. Am I right here?
    4. 3 of cup–he walk his talk by flirting and teasing me all the time.
    5. Ace of Wands–not sure what does it mean for outside influence. He has someone he hooks up with?
    6. Hanging man–I really don’t know. He will be passive/do nothing?

  2. Hello Miss,
    Could you please help me in deciphering the meaning of the cards related to my ex boyfriend?
    1.Ace of Pentacles- Reversed
    2.Two of Swords Upright
    3.The Sun – Reversed
    4. Queen of Pentacles Reversed
    5. Seven of Pentacles – Upright
    6. 5 of cups – upright

  3. Could you please help me to understand this spread better.

    1. 7 of Cups. He is telling me he is thinking about me? Right? What does exactly the first card show?
    2. 9 of swords. He thinks very negative about me? He is disappointed?
    3. Princess of cups. He likes me.
    4. Tower. He takes breaks? What does walking his talk mean? How does he treat me?
    5. The Moon. He is a psycho/crazy???!!
    6. Princess of Wands. He’ll be interested in talking/seeing me?


    1. Hi Ana, the first card indicates confusion. One or both of you could be sending mixed signals. The card in position 5 signifies an outside influence, not what he is. Why would you read The Moon as someone being a psycho?

  4. Hello. I’m getting back into tarot and wanted to get some practice so I used an ex and i’ s situation. So here is what I have:
    1. 4 of pentacles
    2. Strength
    3. King of pentacles
    4. Judgement
    5.10 of cups
    6. 3 of cups

    Do they hate me or is this just one big pile of confusion of not knowing what to think of me? Are they not over me or are they according to this?

    1. Hi and welcome to Angelorum 🙂 How it works here is that you provide your own interpretation of the spread and then ask specific questions about any card you may be stuck on. Blessings, Lisa

  5. Hello
    Here is what I found:
    1. Hanged man (what he is telling): he is waiting for me or undecided?
    2. two of cups (what he is thinking) he is thinking about a new phase in the relationship) of love and being together
    3. page of wands (how he feels inside) he wants to tell me how he is feeling. he sees me as someone who inspires his passion, he is attracted. He sees me as being a little unsure sometimes, a little impulsive.
    4. temperance (how he is walking his walk) he is balanced and trying to remain balanced : watching?
    5. eight of wands (outside influences) there is some sort of pressure on him.
    6. king of pentacles (how he will be walking his stalk in next 6 weeks) he is going to take charge and move things along successfully

    Hello there I would appreciate your input on this,, The person I am reading about and I are not yet together in a “normal” relationship. I came to know about him a couple of years ago. Somehow that was all that was needed to really connect and over time I have come to notice an undeniable connection telepathically and in synchronicity, We are both pretty gifted that way. I keep getting notions to make further contact but have some fear which is not necessarily based on him or the situation just some old lingering fear. I have received some hidden messages recently coming to my work and email about this. Including hints of Australia and a rendezvous. I am learning to trust, but know better then to be blind. Any thoughts on the above take on things? Much appreciated!


    1. Hi Sarah, I don’t really have much to add unless you have a specific question about any of the cards. Temperance could mean moving away from the passive Hanged Man space by adding more Fire… which would fit with travel. Blessings, Lisa

  6. Could you please help me to clarify on post breakup situation initiated by me. Did I get anything wrong?
    1. Knight of Swords–he is lying to me?
    2. Justice–he thinks it’s better to go separate ways?
    3. Magician–he feels he can still get something out of me
    4. Queens of wands–he tries to be charming and appear desirable by others
    5. Lovers–he has another woman or he is looking for love
    6. Emperor–he will try to reconnect?

    1. If he does try reconnecting it would be on his terms with the Emperor as the outcome. The Knight of Swords is not necessarily an indication of lies. Quite apart from there not being any cards here that speak of his love for you… listen to your heart – Is this what LOVE looks like? You know the answer.

  7. 1-Queen of cups(upright)
    3-Queen of wands(upright)
    4-Knight of cups(upright)
    5-Nine of cups (upright)
    6-Ace of cups(upright)

      1. Hi Sarah, welcome to Angelorum. How it works here is you provide your own interpretation and ask specific questions on any card you may be stuck on. Cheers 🙂

  8. This was obviously was a relationship that confused me. I’m also new to tarot so bear with me.

    1. The moon. Lies
    2. The tower. Feelings may have changed?
    3. Page of swords. Stubborn possibly
    4. 4 pentacles. Whatever he feels now he’s sticking to it
    5. Queen wands. the other women
    6. 5 cup. Obviously no happy ending between us but he totally butthurt and I move on and live happily ever after lol jkidding..

    1. Hi Michelle, The Tower corresponds with Mars so if it symbolises his thoughts, chances are that his thoughts are angry/aggressive or highly sexually charged. And yeah, not much there for you with the 5 of Cups as the outcome… Blessings, Lisa

  9. Hi Lisa,

    I’ve just met a man and I’ve got a good vibe off of him. I haven’t dated in a couple of years, but have been doing a lot of inner growth during that time. We connected at a course and enjoyed each other’s company.

    1 – Star – he is making a recovery after burning out a bit at work (he’s a healer, so it was giving too much)

    2 – Sun – he thinks I am funny and gregarious – he even told me that (I also have lots of Leo in my chart!)

    3 – Ace of Pentacles – hmmm, not sure about this one..maybe he feels that I am the real deal (we talked a bit about how hard it is to meet friends/people where we live, a lot of fakes and flakes lol) Or perhaps the feeling is more physical (chemistry).

    4 – Knight of Wands – we exchanged contact information and he didn’t waste any time contacting me. He is eager to meet up again. Interestingly, he seemed shy there but he’s definitely taking the bull by the horns.

    5 – 2 of Swords – I know he has both his work and his creative pursuit. I have no idea if he is
    trying to make a decision between the two or if they take up much of his life.

    6 – Ace of Cups – new emotional beginning, perhaps romance

    I have a question about the ace of cups. First of all, I’m not sure if in this case it means with me or anyone else, since the ace is about new beginnings (we’re both mid life and fairly solitary, though I am a chatty and outgoing person). Also in the spirit of reconnecting, I’m not sure if it’s just friendship alone or potentially anything more. We’ll be meeting up this weekend but I don’t want to put any emotional investment into someone if we’re not on the same page. A friendship would be nice but he is definitely my type and I do like him.

    I’m not sure if the ace of pentacles (physical, maybe a wait and see approach) becomes emotional?

    Thanks for any help Lisa 🙂

    1. Hi Raven, it could start as something more physical and blossom into romance. I definitely don’t see it as only friendship since we have the Knight of Wands here – he wouldn’t be hanging out here unless there was some spark on the menu 😉 Blessings, Lisa ps. I’d say the Star means he’s feeling hopeful about his chances with you!

      1. I thought I’d post an update – I read comments and often wonder “what happened”??

        Chalk and cheese. Absolutely no chemistry whatsoever between us. Not even enough intellectual chemistry to consider friendship. No contact after from either of us.

        I realize the above reading was just potential at that time.

        I did the same spread again yesterday, just out of curiousity and got 1. 6 of wands 2. hermit 3. 4 of cups 5. ace of pentacles 6. 10 of pentacles 7. 6 of swords

        Guess he wasn’t too impressed either! Perhaps he thinks I am as boring as I think he is. lol How would he know, he didn’t ask me one thing about myself (red flag!!) while I asked a lot about him. I’m not sure if he was weaving in some embellishments in there as well.

        (or…not sure if he could feel my disinterest – 4 cups – and hence the retreat in the 6 of swords)

        I tend to give people the benefit of the doubt; people can be nervous, for example, or take time to open up but I’m fine with letting this one go. And by the 6 of swords, looks like he is too.

        Ah well, you never know if you don’t try. Next! 🙂

  10. Hello :),

    1. The fool: this is his persona. He often talks about himself as a wanderer, no home, living everyday as it comes.

    2.) knight of wands: he’s thinking of me sexually? He’s impatient to get in my pants? This ones unclear to me.

    3.) the lovers: he sees me as his lover, his soulmate? I really do feel we have a soulmate connection, and I have pulled this card in other readings about our relationship 3 times in the past year.

    4.) eight of wands: he keeps himself busy.

    5.) ace of wands: not too sure on this one, he has a lot of mental energy.

    6.) four of cups: I can easily see this as him being indecisive about the offer (of love) I’m giving him. He’s been hurt in the past and expressive to me about his hesitation to open up again.

    1. Hi Beth, the Knight of Wands is probably saying what you think it is and also tells us that he knows intellectually he does not have much else to offer. The Lovers shows doubt about choosing a relationship with you, probably because of the aforementioned reasons. The Ace of Wands is not his thoughts or mental energy but represents an outside influence. It could be an invitation to hook up sexually or to start a new creative endeavour. Blessings, Lisa

    2. I see sex sex sex. I honestly don’t see more than that there. The fool as in he likes to be footloose and fancy free. Knight of wands he is a bit of a player, he likes the physical aspect. The lovers – well lovers don’t have to be connected with ‘love’. 8 of wands literally for action. And Ace of wands – when in these cards it’s relatively self explanatory in a physical sense. 4 of cups imo speaks of him not noticing what you want him to. I could easily be miles off the mark as people see different cards in different ways but if I was reading for someone that is what I would see there…very plainly a physical situation with not much more to be gleaned from it

      1. I would agree with you totally except I know this guy is not a player, but as Lisa said above, I agree he probably thinks sex is all he can offer. I think this ties in directly to the fool, and the way he presents himself/chooses to live. Really interesting interpretation because we’ve only had sex once (almost 6 months ago), but I can tell the interest is still there. He’s pretty aware of my feelings for him however, so it would also make sense the lovers is indecisiveness, which would also confirm the four of cups (I don’t think he’s going to make up his mind for quite a while, but I’m sure he’s all for hooking up again).

        Thanks guys!

  11. I did this reading for how my long term polyamorous lover feels, and I’ve also just recently started dating a woman (They plan to both meet up soon as we’re all out in the open).

    1) Strength
    2) 2 Cups
    3) Hierophant
    4) The Star
    5) The Chariot
    6) Q of Wands

    I love the 2cups, and I think he feels empowered (Strength) and hopeful for the future dynamic (The star) while he’s also busy doing his own stuff (the Chariot)

    However the two cards I question are the Hierophant, as I don’t see that as much of a feeling card? And court cards ! Is the Q of Wands the lady in question? Another woman in his life, or me… I feel it to be her, it even looks just like her 🙂 but I continue to struggle with court cards..

    1. The Hierophant is a card of stability rather than great passion at the level of the heart. He’s not going anywhere and his thoughts of you are loving as shown by the 2 of Cups so nothing to worry about as far as his feelings for you are concerned… However, The Chariot followed by the Queen of Wands shows her moving in with great force and taking up a lot of space in this relationship. You may not end up feeling as comfortable as he does. Blessings, Lisa

      1. She is a great force ! I missed the chariot connection there… I feel it’s heading towards a Triad in which case I’d be the more beta of the two, so all makes sense.

        Thank you for your feedback Lisa, I adore they way you interpret the cards.

  12. I got
    1) his story- 7 cups – he’s confused surrounded by bad influences
    2) what he really is thinking- 2 swords- he’s indesive, not letting emotions or in out can’t see what’s infront of him
    3) how he feels deep down – magician- hiding feelings
    4) how he walks his talk- page of swords- acts immature
    5)outside influences – 6 cups – thinking about our past break up maybe he’s doubting trying again
    6) how will it be in 6-8 weeks – 10 wands- it’s not going to be easy but we will do it

    Help please 🙂

    1. Hi Dana, which card are you stuck on? You seem to have it figured out… although, I don’t see the 10 of Wands as things ultimately working out but continued struggles if you go down this path (not saying they will never work out but for the next couple of months, it’s not likely). The 6 of Cups is not his thoughts but actual outside influences… It could be you or someone else coming back into his life. Blessings

  13. So I got
    1- 3 of cups: he’s in a good place and happy with his situation
    2-10 of pents: maybe our dynamic is something that brings a well rounded and stable feeling
    3-the devil: he doesn’t think he wants to be with me. Thinks i will keep him tied down
    4-4 of wands: he’s open to the idea of being with me? Odd placement since I’m the she devil lol
    5-7 of cups: he is at a point where he needs to make a decision and hasn’t yet. He is wary or imagining too much
    6-the star: there’s something to look forward to. Whether it be forward movement into a relationship or not, it will be positive.

    To me, the star stands as a wish card. I’m just a bit thrown off by the 3rd card. All the others seemed very positive. Some input would be amazing

    1. Hi Jessica, the Devil represents his feelings, not his thoughts… at the level of the heart it means that he is not available for true love, no matter what the other cards say… this really is the key card as it shows his true intent: in love, the heart rules the ultimate outcome. The 7 of Cups is not about where he is at as it represents an outside influence… and as such would be someone who confuses or tempts him. Blessings, Lisa

  14. I got:

    1- Ace of Wands: He has a lot going for him right now. He is confident in what he wants in his life at this moment.

    2- 5 of Pentacles: Maybe he’s worried about making ends meet.

    3- Queen of Swords: He sees me as someone with my heart caged up. Maybe a bit cold. Someone guarding myself from being hurt.

    4-10 of Wands: I guess to go along with the Ace hes keeping himself busy.

    5- 3 of cups: I take this as either there is a friend influencing the mind set. Or maybe he is happy where he is in his everyday life.

    6- The Tower: This means that there will be a shift of sorts in his life.

    All together maybe I am more trouble than I am worth. He has his own things he is prioritizing and maybe love isn’t one of them. Maybe his perception of me and/or what he is seeking from life may change. Maybe the 3 indicates a friendship growing and an opening up leading to the Tower? Maybe it all goes to shit in the end.

    I guess confused with the first two. Is his story and what he’s thinking what is going on in his life/mind all together or as it pertains to you and your current relationship with them? Nevermind the fact it’s been months since I’ve picked up my deck. I feel like I’m starting from scratch.

    1. Yeah, this one’s not worth the trouble – very clear reading. The card in position 3 must be read as how he FEELS about you – the Queen of Swords there is a very cold card… No love lost here! The 3 of Cups as an outside influence probably means another woman on the scene too… Blessings, Lisa

  15. 1. 2 of cups – he is showing love
    2. The World clarified by 6 of cups – for him it’s already over and in the past
    3. Justice clarified by Knight of Cups – could it be that he still feels for me and is trying to make a decision?
    4. King of pentacles – he is really taking his time
    5. 10 of cups clarified by 7 of wands – he is happy as he is and does not want a relationship. Maybe he is in a relationship already?
    6. Ace of cups clarified by empress – seems pretty obvious – he will fall in love with another woman

    Could there be some more positive interpretations? I’m new to tarot and perhaps don’t get things right yet…

    1. Hi Diana, I see you commented on three different spreads asking for clarification. The problem is that you are reading on the same situation and the cards WILL invariably start messing with you – changing spreads won’t prevent that. I suggest putting the cards to one side for at least a couple of weeks and then choosing the spread that best answers your most burning questions. At least, you’ve had a practice go now with three different spreads so it wasn’t a total waste of time 🙂 Blessings, Lisa

  16. I absolutely adore your website and will be getting the ebooks 😉

    I did this spread on a guy I worked with recently full time over the summer. He’s back full time at his other job, so I won’t be seeing him as much. Our chemistry is mind blowing, the kind everyone sees even when you’re not talking. He has hinted but hasn’t made a move yet. *Back story*

    Please help =)

    1)4 of pentacles- I feel like he’said withholding, or just being plain stubborn about how he feels.

    2)Strength- I tame him. He always matches my energy. He’s several years older than me and I didn’t realize until the other day that he does every thing I ask him to- even when I’m joking.

    3)Wheel of Fortune- That it’should destiny from the day we met. I just moved across the country and we never would have met under normal circumstances.

    4)10 of pentacles- He’s in the process of buying a house and establishing himself to have something significant to offer.

    5) Ace of Swords- I think his head is in line with his heart

    6)The Empress- maybe that’s the time to harvest love??

    1. Hmm.. I’m unsure as to why my comment is being ignored and everyone else that asks gets a response in a day or less. Was my question rude or unworthy of an answer?

      1. Hi Rogue, I have been away on holiday and can assure you it is nothing personal. 5 – Ace of Swords as an outside influence feels like a test of some kind. It could very well reflect a distracting influence that demands a lot of communication. 6 – The Empress… Are you sure you are the ONLY woman he is flirting with right now? Blessings, Lisa

  17. I’m fairly new at reading so when I done this spread I got
    1.) 8 of Pentacles:I’m going to have to work for anything I want with him romantically
    2.) King of Cups (reversed): Hes not thinking about love where I am involved or he is torn emotionally
    3.)7 of Wands: not romantically
    4.)Ace of Swords: he is looking for a relationship
    5.)Empress revered: indecisiveness
    6.)Justice: he will have made a decision one way or the other
    My question really is am I even close to interpreting these cards correctly? 3, 4 and 6 really threw me any input would be apprecited.

  18. I just did this spread about a guy I dated for the last 8 months and the results are as follows:
    1) His Story – 4 of Swords
    2) What he is thinking – 10 of Wands
    3) How he really feels about me – 3 of cups
    4) How he is walking his talk – 6 of pentacles
    5) Outside influences – 8 of cups
    6) How will he walk his talk in 6-8 weeks – Knight of cups

    We had just split up but were very happy together. The reason for the split… We will both move to separate continents and ain’t sure of our real feelings for one another. I personally feel that love is too soon for such a short period. It grows but I really really like him. Please advise.

  19. Hello I recently tried your spread, initially using it for my feelings first so I didn’t project.

    We haven’t spoken in awhile but have gotten word he has asked about me and was curious as to what was there…I pulled for him

    1. What he is telling me: 6 of cups – he is/was remembering the past, he looks at it fondly? Perhaps the door is still open if I chose to walk through.
    2. What he is thinking: King of cups – does he have tender thoughts towards me or does he think I am being too passive and wants me to act?
    3. What he is feeling: Moon, I think he sees me in his dreams sometimes, we used to be very psychically connected, perhaps he is unclear of me/what I want where I am? I pulled a qualifier which was the magician — he sees me as magic, mystery?
    4. How he is walking his talk: page of swords – he doesn’t want to talk about the past, even though he is saying he has thought about it.
    5. outside influences: High Priestess – I am assuming I am that outside influence as I am the high priestess, perhaps waiting to see what springs up is the message, maybe in the past I told him I would come when I was ready?
    6. How he will be walking his talk 6-8 weeks: Reversed King of Pentacles – he will not call or contact, will continue going about his business

    Thoughts? Please.

    Thank you


  20. This spread is super interesting to me. Thank you for posting it. I’m working with the Deviant Moon deck for this reading:

    1. 2 of Swords: Indecision, choices, stalemate
    Making a difficult decision, or refusal/inability to make one. I initially thought this might be an indication that he was in a relationship, but in our conversation the day after I did this reading, he referred to the person I thought he was dating as ‘a friend.’ We also work together, technically I’m his superior, so the difficult decision might be whether or not something between us would be worthwhile. I don’t know this person well, so I don’t know much of ‘his story.’ Judging by it’s placement next to 5 of cups, it could also be indecision about starting something new.
    2. 5 of Cups (reversed): New relationships, return of a past friend
    He’s thinking that he’s ready to pick up the two remaining cups and move on. He’s ready to engage with the world again after disappointment.
    3. Judgement (reversed): Guilty feelings, worry, delay
    Self-doubt and self-judgement; Feeling the need to slow down and not jump to conclusions; Fear of the unknown; Re-living the past. Perhaps he feels that he can’t (or isn’t ready to) move on. His past is still present in his life and he’s struggling to deal with it.
    4. The World (reversed): Frustration, incomplete endeavors
    Lack of closure; Perhaps things didn’t end well in his last relationship and he is feeling guilty or frustrated (given that judgement is directly before). Indecision about what he wants (next to 2 of Swords).
    5. The Lovers: Love, romance, union
    There is a relationship (or partnership) that is influencing his decision making. Contemplating a choice between partners; new love interest; looking for a union or partnership. Perhaps he had a strong connection to someone in the past and is looking for that again.
    6. Queen of Wands: Sincere, confidence (I’ve always identified with this card, both in the upright and reversed positions)
    Fire; Leo (which I am); I feel like the proximity to The Lovers in this reading it telling me that those characteristics of the Queen of Wands are more foretelling of the partnership (The Lovers) than a person. Or maybe it’s an outcome position in the sense that he may feel more confident, etc. after making a decision.

    Side note: Isn’t The World, The Lovers and Queen of Wands a recipe for amazing sex? 😉

    This reading feels much different today than when I first looked at it. At first it felt like all positives and I think I was just looking at the points that I wanted to be true. This time it seems much more about choices (which I either ,didn’t see before or ignored). Of course, I’m still very new to interpreting,so I could be way off base here. Either way, it looks like he has a lot on his mind even if it isn’t about me.

    1. Hi Tiffany, I can’t quite see The World, The Lovers and the Queen of Wands as amazing sex here based on his energy and the fact that he is most likely in a relationship with someone else. I don’t read with reversals. Here is why: http://angelorum.co/topics/divination/top-5-reasons-why-i-dont-read-with-reversals/ It is more important to read the cards in context of each other. If you look at the column representing this guy you can clearly see someone who is not ready to move forward. The Queen of Wands (I have her as Aries, btw) may end up forcing the issue.

  21. Hi Lisa, great site. Your article on tarot 9’s was what led me here. I did your spread for “how the really feel”. I got following cards1) queen of pentacles 2)five of cups 3)Devil 4)Ace of wands 5)Devil 6)Empress. My understanding is that he finds me earthy and sensual but regrets not being able to reach out to me (don’t know why!!). He is obsessed with my thoughts and wants a physical relationship with me. Empress is the outcome here. It sounds to me that it means he will either have a relationship with me or just that he feels that I am like the Empress.He has not shared his feelings with me yet. Does the Empress mean that he will share his feelings with me or does it mean that he will have a relationship with me? Please guide.


      1. Hi Lisa, I don’t know if he is in a relationship. So is he thinking of me as the other woman (he might be a player) or could it be that the spread is pointing out that he is considering relationship with someone else. He has given me signs that he is interested.


        1. You really need to find out if he is in a relationship before you progress this. Whether or not he is interested is not really important if he is in a committed relationship. I always recommend using common sense to find the facts out before you do this type of reading. Like I said, it looks very much like he is spoken for.

          1. Thank you Lisa for your guidance and for sharing your insight. I am still new to Tarot and try to use these situations in my life as a way to increase my knowledge as well.


  22. 1. 6 of cups- he is really thinking about his past and people in it. Good and bad and is reflecting on it all
    2. Hermit- closed off, going though something hard, sad, doesn’t wanna talk about it. Refecting his past decisions. Possibly confused
    3. 9 cups everything he has ever wanted? A dream come true, perfect for him? He wishes to be with me. He thinks we would be good together but possibly afraid or confused or not ready
    Maybe because he is hurt from the recent breakup
    4. Chariot- he just left for a trip. He needed to get away from town for a little while maybe to think and heal. Maybe because he isn’t ready to do anything.
    5. King cups- help advice from a friend or family, guidance. Help him decide or feel better about any issue
    6. 7 of wands- idk is he too stubborn to make a move or will never make up his mind or get the courage to make a move finally and make a move.
    -7 wands as outcome is weird. Idk if that is good or bad really

    1. Hi Katie, I find that in the case of doing this reading about a male person, the card about where their head is at really sets the tone since many men do let their head rule their heart. I have yet to see a case where the Hermit showed up in this position and there was the hoped for outcome. He has decided to withdraw and if the 6 of Cups (Sun in Scorpio) is anything to go about, he can be very stubborn. The 7 of Wands also tells us that there is no romance on the cards here… although if you persist in being in touch, there may be arguments (pride is the issue). Blessings, Lisa

  23. Hi lisa,
    I really cant interpret my reading well.

    1) 10 the wheel
    2) 16 the tower
    3) 7 the chariot
    4) strength
    5) knight of wands
    6) page of cups

    Thanks 🙂

    1. Hi Danielle, you need to at least try. I’m happy to help on any card or combo you are a bit stuck on once you have provided your own interpretation. This is not a free reading service. Cheers

  24. Hi Lisa ,

    Great Spread : 1) The Emperor 2) Judgement 3) 9 of swords 4) 2 of Pents 5) 6 of cups 6) 10 of cups

    He could be feeling stressed or having anxiety about deep feelings( or developing) in gen. Weighing his options on love and work which is more important or maybe having trouble balancing the two in his life. 6 of cups outside his daughter could be a strong influence on where he stands on having time for us I’m confused? 10 of cups Family over everything? I’m stumped by this if a positive ending for us and walking his talk in 6-8 weeks ?

    Overall and I on the right track Lisa?

    1. You need to step back from reading about this relationship for a while. You’re obsessing about it and you asked about the same relationship under another spread so I know for a fact that you’re seeking confirmation about the same relationship from the cards… only with a different spread this time. Asking about the same relationship over and over when you are attached to the outcome is NOT helpful. You will get confusing and ever more contradicting answers from the cards. Put the cards away and work on communicating with your man instead. Next week will probably be easier as Mercury goes direct on Sunday. Blessings, Lisa

  25. Hi,

    I did your spread a few days ago to see where it was going with myself and a work friend of mine. We have liked eachother and been speaking for a while now, and have recently become intimate, but I know he isn’t the relationship type and likes to be solitary, and I’m not really looking for a friend with benefits since I have feelings for him.

    1. His story – What he’s telling you/how things appear now – PAGE WANDS. I took this to mean that we have a lot of fun together, and things are easy with us. I certainly think so; we get along so well. He’s like my soulmate.

    2. What he’s really thinking -9 CUPS. I took this to mean that he enjoys our time together again. I have gotten this card for him before also. I read it can be perceived as sexual pleasure also, so could also mean he wants it to stay strictly as a friends with benefits thing.

    3. How he feels about you deep down – WHEEL OF FORTUNE – does this mean his feelings constantly change, and go from high to low intensity? They’re very changeable and fleeting?

    4. How he walks his talk – 3 SWORDS – this one confused me. I usually see this as heartbreak or betrayal. For how he walks his talk I didn’t see how he could feel that way as we’ve never argued and have been spending time together more. I figure it may mean a love triangle and a decision that he needs to make? I know there is another girl interested in him. Or that he isn’t ready for a relationship due to past pain.

    5. Outside influences on how he walks his talk – THE TOWER – a fear of change? Unexpected factors are at play? This one puzzled me.

    6. How he will be walking his talk within 6-8 weeks – KNIGHT WANDS – fleeting energy again? Sex and nothing more? Movement being made? A man not ready for a relationship? Romantic relationships blossom with the promise of an exciting sex life.

    I also pulled another card to see whether we’ll get into a relationship.

    7. Will we get into a relationship? I pulled the hermit and the King cups was directly under it and came out too. This is the most confusing as they contrast so strongly to me. Does it mean that he will not be with me because he needs to find himself and heal from a past relationship, or that we will be together because he is mature and knows what he feels, and may become hermit like in the way in which we spend time together? I also read that the hermit could represent a long distance relationship or agreed celibacy, which could be relevant as I’m going travelling all summer and will be away for nearly 3 months at some point.

    Am I on the right track? A spread I did on him before we got intimate told me he would be serious if he ever did get with me, but he was just unaware of me being interested to him – then when I made it clear he instigated. Is it a good idea to pursue him? I don’t want to chase him wanting a relationship if he doesn’t want one at all.

    1. The Page and Knight of Wands speak of a man who is very happy indeed to continue along the no strings, friends-with-benefits only path. The Wheel often shows an opportunistic (I’ll take whatever is on offer) attitude. But more than that… Please use common sense and learn from this if you are looking for love. Once you give the milk away for free, a guy will never pay for it. Sorry if I sound unevolved by stating this old cliché but I have very little evidence to support it isn’t actually true… Have some boundaries in love. Know your worth. Blessed Be!

      1. Thanks for your reply. I can see what you are saying.

        I was just wondering what your take was of position 4, 5, 6 and 7, as well, as those have really stumped me.


          1. Hello again.

            I got the page of pentacles for the best way forward for myself in the situation. I took it as a need to slow down, be practical, see things as they are, and let nature take its course/be still and ready.

            Am I on the right track?

  26. Hi, I am very new to tarot and am struggling with how to interpret this spread, however I will try my best.
    I have performed this spread about an ex (who I am still crazily in love with) who moves away for a few months in a matter of days. He has told me that when he gets back we should see how it goes, but I find myself second guessing everything.
    I will try and interpret this in my own way, but if you feel that I am interpreting wrong, much help would be appreciated!
    1. 9 Cups (That this is a great time of stress for him and he feels that currently we are unable to give our relationship a shot at this current time?)
    2. 9 Swords (Perhaps that this current life change will bring new opportunities for him that may not include me?)
    3. 9 Pentacles (Perhaps that deep down he seeks my company, and thinks that when he is settled we could give our relationship another try?)
    4. Five Cups Reversed (May feel that one of us needs to move on – I have absolutely no idea how to take this card)
    5. The Hermit (He perhaps needs time to be alone and reflect on his life and job before he can commit to me?)
    6. The Hierophant (Perhaps that over the coming weeks he may feel in a better place to be able to commit to a relationship with me?)
    As I say I am a complete newbie when it comes to tarot and I could be completely wrong! Any help would be greatly appreciated.
    Thank you so much!!

    1. Why would you want to be with a guy who keeps you second-guessing? Draw a line under the past when he moves away. Start over and find someone who wants to be with you as much as you want to be with them. Don’t use the Tarot to overrule common sense.

  27. Please help recently talked to a boy from recentl past. He’s seeing a therapist now and says he wants to work on us ect
    1- 7 pentecles lots of thinking and prossessing msybe also working hard in school
    2. Ace cups fresh start. New hope. Beliving in us. New beginning
    3. Temperance- more of a balance in emotions between us,joining together, healing past issues between us
    4 . 3 wand. Maybe thinking? Working? Nervous? Avoiding ?idk
    5. 9 pentacles idk somethings to do with charity work or maybe his family? The therapist?
    6. Treating me better the before, kind, more emotionally available, caring, ect
    I’m do confused about the 3 of wands and9 pentecles?

    1. If he says he wants to work on it the 7 of Pentacles confirms he wants to work on the relationship and that he wants to take things slowly. Work with him by taking it slowly together. If you are to read on this, read on what YOU can do to make it work… that would be way more beneficial to both of you at this stage.

  28. I tried to spread and the cards coming out

    1 – Death
    2 – the lovers
    3 – the sun
    4 – five of swords
    5 – queen of pentacles
    6 – queen of cups

    Could you please help me read the cards? Thank you

    1. Hi Jannie, welcome to Angelorum! This is how it works here if you need a hand with interpreting a reading: 1) Provide your own interpretation 2) Ask for specific advice on any card(s) you are stuck on. Cheers, Lisa

      1. 1 – the Death . He told me his feelings for me has ended, and he has someone else
        2 – The lovers – the beak up is inevitable
        3 – The sun – he feels warm with me
        4 – five of swords – learning from his past and move on
        5 – queen of pentacles – maybe indicate his new gf
        6 – queen of cups – he totally moves on

        Hi Lisa, this spread is about my past love. I actually did another spread of four cards and asked how i feel , how he feel, what happens next and the final outcome. It happens more than twice the two cards what happens next and final is the strenght and knight of cups. First time i draw, it was the lovers on th cards.
        I dont know if we have a chance again.

        Thank you.

        1. Hi,

          Again, i am stuck with the death card because i dont understand why i draw out this one.

          The second card is the queen of cups. The queens of cups indicate a queen have all things and now kist enjoy her life. Does this mean that he truly move on totally and enjoy with other girl?

          Thank you.

  29. hey I need help please on a man who i recently had a weird breakup with.

    1- 6 pentacles ( maybe he feels like he is doing me a favor, or he might feel self pitty)
    2- lovers- (he feels something, but does not know for sure what it really is, might be scared, maybe someone else)
    3-hermit- ( shut off, avoiding his true feelings, needs to be alone and way to figure it all out)
    4- 3 swords – (hurt from his past, scared, lonely, sad about love in general)
    5- sun- (growing, learning about himself and what he wants, good roll models, good friends, healing)
    6- magician-( finally having everything he needs and has grown, is ready to communicate, brave, has everything he needs and wants to be back together maybe slowly because of hermit)

      1. Hi Sasha, your interpretation seems pretty spot on. The Hermit is a sign that he is finding it difficult to connect with others emotionally. He could be an introvert and prefer his own company/comfort zone. The Lovers + the 6 of Pentacles tells us that he his thoughts are very much about whether or not he can ‘afford’ this relationship – not necessarily from a financial point of view but in terms of energy expenditure. He’s hurting now and his skies are grey (3 of Swords)… but the sun will soon shine again from clear skies, as the outside circumstances tell us. The Magician then means that he will be ready to communicate again. I always suggest setting a time frame for this spread of no more than 6-8 weeks. Blessings

  30. I did this spread on someone I’m just starting to get to know;
    1) What he’s showing me – four of swords, he’s taking a break from relationships and working on himself..
    2) What he’s really thinking – five of wands, he’s conflicted about what he wants, or there is a lot of things going on in his life that are stressful..
    3) What he feels about me deep down – nine of wands, he’s defensive and on guard about me
    4) How he’s walking his talk – four of cups, same as the four of swords, not in the frame of mind for relationships…
    5) Outside influences on his walk – king of pentacles, this is his court card, or it could represent the new business he’s taking over which is pretty stressful
    6) How he will be walking his talk in 6-8 weeks – ten of cups this one has me confused… ? Things will change for the better, his attitude and feelings will change?

  31. 1) The King of Wands he’s telling me he’s passionate and driven. 2) the strength card he wants to tame the situation or have his ego stroked. 3) the world he feels like I’m closed off and unattainable. 4) 6 of cups he’s thinking of the past. 5) five of cups outside influences.. Disappointments with people? 6) six of words he’s going to move on from this situation.

    1. Okay so I thought about this a little more.. 1) king of wands is what he’s telling me. I keep getting the feeling of him wanting to be in charge. Like he wants everything in order.. That he’s out trying to handle business I’m guessing. 2) the strength card what he’s really thinking. At first I wasn’t sure if i was suppose to be the lion or he was. lol so I looked at the king of wands and realize he has the lion in his background so I figured he was the lion. The strength shows the woman caressing the lion. It doesn’t seem sexual but more like calming. She seems like she’s nurturing to him. 3) the world how he really feels.. I keep getting the feeling from the card that he’s trying to get in but he can’t. Like I’m out of reach. 4) the 6 of cups as him walking his talk.. He’s being immature, he’s relying on me. I’m actually not too sure about this one. 5) the 5 of cups.. There has been many disappointments along the way. He’s not seeing the bigger picture, just what he lost along the way. 6) the 6 of swords I still see him leaving.

  32. Let’s see I got position 1. Chariot 2. Two of swords 3. Temperance 4. King of swords 5. Hermit reversed 6. 9 of swords. My interpretation? Don’t bother, there’s not a chance in sight. Am I right?

  33. What he’s telling me – Ace of pentacles, he’s a grounded, realistic and practical person with a lot of opportunities on the rise.
    What he’s really thinking – Strength ? This one stumps me.. It could be he’s either trying to push back feelings of love with practical thoughts or he’s trying to hold back being impatient or angry with me? Not sure..
    How he really feels – Three of pentacles, he enjoys being with me and thinks we’re building something worthwhile?
    How he’s walking his talk – Five of wands, he is vying for my attention?
    Outside influences – Knight of pentacles, maybe someone just as practical as he is, is giving him advice on me. Or could be that he was raised to be cautious, slow moving and school oriented?

    Not too sure I interpreted these cards right… What are your thoughts, especially on the three of pentacles as his feelings?

  34. Hi

    I did this and got :-

    1. 5 of Penacles
    2. 9 of Cups
    3. Page of Wands
    4. 6 of Cups
    5. 8 of Swords
    6. The Star

    I really am confused how he feels . Any insights I would be so grateful.

    K x

    1. Hi Kerri, welcome to Angelorum. This is how it works, you give us your interpretation of the spread and then ask questions about any card you are stuck on. Cheers 🙂

      1. Hi

        Ah sorry thanks for letting me know .

        I am new to tarot so here goes :-
        1. What he is telling you- 5 of Penacles
        I am unsure what to make of this as suggests feeling left out in the cold. As if he is troubled in some way but unclear why . I am not with this guy he is committed to someone else so maybe he is not happy in his relationship.
        2. What he is really thinking – 9 of Cups
        I think cups suit relates to emotions suggesting that he is happy with the situation he is in . I did message him and he was polite and said ‘his girlfriend would not be happy’. I can tell he likes me but maybe I am getting the wrong signals . So no idea what he would be thinking.
        3. How he feels deep down- Page of Wands
        I always thought the page represented a child or a messenger. I am thinking maybe he is immature feels nervous about me.
        4. How he is walking his talk – 6 of Cups
        I thought this card indicated a soulmate relationship so could be he has found his soulmate . Looking at meanings seems to relate to thoughts but cannot pinpoint how with regards to myself. Or maybe he is not thinking of me at all.
        5. Outside influences – 8 of Swords
        I do not see this as a very positive card since since the woman is bound and blindfolded . Feeling trapped and not knowing which way to go .
        6. How he will be walking his talk in 6-8 weeks- The Star
        I think he is physically attracted to me but does not see me as a potential girlfriend . I would add that I am usually really good with my instincts and I really felt a chemistry between us. I just must have misinterpreted this as more than what it is. Time to move from the situation I think x

        1. The fact that he is in committed relationship is surely enough to move along? I won’t even comment on the reading. It’s against my reader’s ethics to read on a situation where either party is in a committed monogamous relationship with someone else.

  35. Hello Lisa and Good Morning to you!! :-)) I’ve done the spread you suggested above and I believe I got the insight I need. However, I just want to know your thoughts. By the way, this reading is on my ex and I.

    1. His story – What he’s telling you (The Star) He’s telling me that he wants to mend the relationship and grow together (start fresh).

    2. What he’s really thinking (Four of Wands) Intimacy?

    3. How he feels about you deep down (Ace of Cups) Deep down he’s in love with me and would like a fresh start.

    4. How he’s walking his talk (Six of Swords) Honestly, he isn’t walking any talk. Out of nowhere he stop contacting me, so I see this card as abandonment. He has issues which do not let him act on his true feelings. Need of space? Or could this mean something else?

    5. Outside influences on his walk (Nine of Pentacles) His focus is on work related than on the relationship?

    6. How he will be walking his talk within 6-8 weeks (The Sun) Maybe a reconciliation in the next 6-8 weeks?

    1. Hi Dezarae, the 6 of Swords could mean that he is trying to friend-zone you and the lack of communication could be because he doesn’t know how to do that. It could also mean that he is trying very hard to let his head rule his heart… But yeah, the Sun should be a positive sign for reconciliation in the end. Blessings

          1. Thank you. Even though he said I was time after time in the past I did not want to read the four of wands that way. Funny thing is, at first I did read it the same exact way you did but I said “nah, the way things are now it’s impossible”. What I learned about Tarot is that it will tell you what you already know and what you don’t know and it’s never written in stone. I use the cards as clarity and they never stir me wrong. Thank you again Lisa and I appreciate the help!! Keep helping people, because little do you might know… It’s a very huge thing. Thank you again, Love and Blessings.

  36. Hi lisa! Nice spread 🙂 I’m still trying to learn how to read my cards. This is good practice for me. Here are my cards..

    1. Knight of wands
    2. Ten of wands
    3. Nine of swords
    4. Six of swords
    5. Ace of swords
    6. Ten of cups

    It’s hard to imagine good ol 10 of cups being his “walk of the talk” action..lol I am curious about 1 card though.. Nine of swords (how he feels about me deep down) Is he feeling stressed about me? What is your thoughts?

  37. Hi thank you for this may I please ask for your thoughts on this spread?

    1. Three of cups – we had a really fun time for 7/8 months
    2. Lovers – was slightly tilted backward but not reversed (I use a round deck)
    3. Queen wands – fun and nurturing
    4. Queen pentacles – he’s practical but also homely
    5. 5 wands – clearly reversed… Competition? My ex from three years ago is calling me often
    6. Judgement – which has appeared as the outcome in another recent spread as my annual new year reading … This isong of your top three cards for reconciliation

    Context- I broke up with him suddenly as he became unsure about moving in with me …

    Any input is welcomed. Thanks

    1. Three of Cups, Lovers and the 2 Queens tells me you are not the only female in the picture. Judgement means outcome is still in the balance. Position 5 speaks of HIS surrounding influences, not yours.

      1. Thanks for your reply … Five wands reversed is over burdened by the situation he now finds himself in …chasing an ideal eg queen pentacles… While losing the lovely left hand axis of 3 cups lovers and queen wands? There isn’t another woman… we have mutual friends…I think I was just different to what he imagined his next partner would be like but we got on so well he couldn’t stay away… Could you read this then as overburden by chasing an ideal that he has an ephiany and chooses reality? Eg judgement

          1. I don’t read with reversals but the 5 of Wands is not about you here… it’s HIS outside circumstances. Why would your ex calling you have any bearing on this unless you are telling him to try to get him to be jealous…? The 5 of Wands indicates other entanglements, other people draining him of energy. It could be you, of course, but not in the way you think. Not sure why you want my opinion really. I already told you what I see here and you went ‘nah’ lol

  38. Hi – I met a guy just over a year ago online. We clicked immediately, but due to some baggage on my side (ex husband) I cooled things down before we even had a chance to meet. When we met it was clear we were going down the “friends with benefits” route… due to lack of time, busy lives, etc.
    When we met up we had an amazing time – always at his place… which was a sanctuary for me.
    I feel that we’ve frog-leaped our feelings for each other all year… he asked me if I’d consider him as a bf, I pretty much ignored that… I asked him the same type of question months later, he freaked (gently, but still OTT reaction)… we bumped into each other a couple of times since… I have been manifesting for love (with him in mind too), and low and behold he texted out of the blue last night. He is intimating that he really just wants a FWB thing… but I sense more. I am rational and not looking for signs, but there have been quite a few things coming up… this reading was pretty good for me to stumble across today. Here are my cards and my interpretations. I’d love any input you may have as some of these cards came up for the first time in a love reading for me.

    1) King of Cups
    Displaying someone who is stable, not risky. Reliable and sincere. He is emotionally stable and knows what he wants – and doesn’t want. He’s open and honest – tells it like it is, without fear of hurting the other person. He has a routine that he sticks to.
    He has been badly hurt – and whilst he shrugged this off, he isn’t committing to anyone else for the moment. He is faithful and will never cheat – so a FWB relationship will end as soon as his “mrs” turns up… but so far she never has.
    2) Ace of Pentacles
    He loves the open and honest approach that we’ve taken with each other – he cannot find that anywhere else and when we’re not “connected” he feels it deep down and is sad and confused. He loves that we can discuss sex and what we like / dislike and have similar appetites – he can’t find that with another (yet) so keeps returning to me and “us”. He feels grounded with me. He likes it. But is confused about how he really feels. He insists that for him it really is just “sex” and nothing more.
    3) The Chariot
    He is nervous and terrified to look too deeply into how he may feel about me. But he knows that he is drawn to me time and again. When I sit back and leave him be, give him time and space, he returns. In an astro psychology reading I had last month it was coming through clearly that I needed to have a cancerian influence in my next romantic encounter so that I could feel the sensitivities and vulnerabilities that a cancerian person could bring. This is interesting that this card has come up in this reading as “how he feels about me deep down”… I would say that he is keeping his emotions in check as he has no real idea about how he feels about me.
    4) The Tower (Rev)
    He isn’t walking the talk! His actions (getting back in touch after a couple of month) telling me he’s been thinking about us, would like to resurrect a FWB relationship, really likes me, tells me “you’re really nice!”, and is keen to build bridges as he doesn’t like tricky or complicated situations and felt our last meet up was just that – awkward and tricky (because I asked him if he would ever consider being my bf). To me his action and walking the talk are confusing. I don’t think he really knows what he wants…
    5) King of Wands
    He is continually returning to thoughts of us in the past – the nights we had together and reminiscing fondly. His influences are that he is frustrated that he hasn’t moved forward, that he is slightly trapped in his imagination, and that he should be seizing new opportunities with new women that he does find attracted to. He actually asked me if I had seen any other guys since the last time we met – this tells me his imagination and mind is continually playing with him. It is confusing him greatly. I’d also say that he is too independent and is now realising that to lead a bachelor life will equal a bachelor future… if he doesn’t want to open his heart and life to the potential of a woman (wife) then he won’t have one.
    6) Princess of Swords (Rev)
    No idea with this at all in reference to the walking the talk in the next 6-8 weeks – need help with this one!

    For most of my “love” readings, or readings when a romantic guy is coming into the reading – it’s coming in as the 8 Wands – which, from the imagery, completely represents this guy… Yesterday for the first time, I drew 1 card for a “theme for the day” and this card came out – I couldn’t believe it – it’s appearing often… and then last night this guy gets in touch…

    Anyway – I would really appreciate any input you may have.

    I’ve now to decide if I want to return to a FWB relationship with him… which I’ll consider without the use of the cards

    Extra info: I’m Libra sun, he’s Leo sun
    Cards: Wheel of the Year by Maria Caratti (art by Antonella Platano)

    1. Hi Michelle, as a man thinketh, so he is. For this guy it really is only about the sex (Ace of Pentacles, physical potential). Push any other agenda and you’ll have the Page of Swords – another breakdown in communication. Blessings and Happy New Year!

      1. Oh! thank you for the super quick response!! I am really stumped with this guy – not the reading, thank you so much for this, I don’t disagree. That’s what he says so I need to accept that. But I’m stumped as I usually have really good gut instinct and feeling and I just know I didn’t get this wrong – or I hope I didn’t as if I did / have I’m losing my instinct!! Have a fab New Year! Sending you best wishes!

  39. 1.five of cups-could he be sad about something or scared to get hurt?
    2.six of wands-possibly means a budding relationship that can go in a positive direction?
    3.ten of pentacles-he’s really infatuated with me?
    4.page of pentacles-he wants to take action but has to weigh his options first?
    5.king of wands-with him possibly thinking long term that can turn into marriage?
    6.queen of wands-ultimately will he just want to just be friends instead? I’m really stuck on this one here,

  40. 1. Wheel of Fortune- Not sure how to interpret this. His life is currently experiencing a lot of change? Ups and downs?
    2. Ace of Swords- He’s infatuated.
    3. Emperor- Wants to be in the dominant position.
    4. Page of Swords- There’s a newness that is intriguing.
    5. 8 of Pentacles- He is dedicated to his career which might affect whether or not to pursue a relationship.
    6. Hierophant- He wishes to court me traditionally?

    Thank you so much for sharing! I’m new to tarot and wanted to try a concise spread and would love any feedback and your interpretation on this as well please.

  41. Hello, i’m kinda new here and i was looking at this tarot spread however im not really sure where to begin to start the spread. is there some sort of button we’re supposed to click on to do the tarot spread because theres no click to start the tarot spread. plz direct me

  42. Hey Lisa again a lovely spread..
    Moon (rev
    5 of swords
    9 of cups (rev
    4 of pentacles(rev
    Knight of swords
    I know you don’t work with reversals but today I felt them like this..
    Judgement :he is trying to take a decision which will effect our life in big way. We have on n off kind of relationship.N have just decided mutually parting ways.
    Moon(rev): may be he is feeling like I have deciveved him in some way.
    5 of swords: clashes n ego issues
    9 of cups (rev):???
    4 of pentacles (rev): work n money related issues I think
    Knight of swords :????
    What does this knight is telling me about his attitude I am not getting n moreover I m getting this knight again n again even as a jumper card too…

    1. That Knight of Swords is you (outside influences on his path)… Deception could be on his part. The Knight of Swords quests for the Truth and it feels like you can’t get to the bottom of it here. Parting ways seems like a good call.

      1. Thanks for your insights but knight of swords was the final card “how is walking his talk ” or may be I fail to understand what you trying to telling me

        1. OK, sorry about that – for some reason I read Judgement as the final card as I missed the first mention of it – since it keeps falling out of the deck I still think it talks about YOU more than anything. As the outcome, it speaks of harsh final words more than reconciliation.

  43. Hi Lisa,
    I did this spread for the person I love. Not sure how to read this
    1) King of cups
    2) the hermit
    3)King of wands
    4) Three of wands
    5) queen of cups
    6) ace of wands

    Could you please help me?

    1. Hi Anjali, while I’m happy to help with the odd card, I don’t have the capacity to be interpreting full spreads on here. Please provide your own interpretation and I’ll help if you get stuck.

      1. Hi Lisa,
        thanks for your reply
        My interpretation is as follows:
        1) he says he feels for me.
        2) he wants to maintain distance and stay aloof for the time being
        3) there is passion and love for me deep down
        4) he would want to wait before agreeing to his love for me
        5) His parents wont allow us to get married
        6) yes, he will walk his talk.

        what do you say?


          1. It’s not a new beginning in love for you two but it could be a new beginning of lust… It resonates more with what is in his heart (The non-commital King of Wands) than with what he is telling you (The King of Cups). Aces only carry potential, not a fullblown line of events. What happens next is up to you.

  44. Dear All,

    I’d love to share a reading…

    The relationship in question is polyamorous. I asked about how 1 man feels about the 3 women in his life. (All in an open relationship)

    In no particular order the 3 independent readings were as follows :

    Woman 1

    1) Ace Pentacles
    2) 9 cups
    3) Moon
    4) Princess Pentacles
    5) Lovers
    6) 3 swords

    Woman 2

    1) 3 cups
    2) 9 cups
    3) 3 swords
    4) Ace Pentacles
    5) Lovers
    6) Princess Pentacles + 9 swords fell out

    Woman 3

    1) Queen Wands
    2) 3 of swords
    3) Lovers
    4) Princess of Pentacles
    5) 9 cups
    6) Ace Pentacles

    Please note the deck was thoroughly shuffled and cut many times between each reading despite the same 4 cards recurring in each reading in those different positions!

    However, I continue to struggle with court cards… I don’t understand the ‘Princess of Pentacles’ here? which traditionally would be a page, so I’m lead to believe this is could also be a message? But if I follow the imagery this is also a young woman/ or scholar who could also represent woman 2? (Who also appears in all 3 readings)

    The queen of wands could equally very well represent woman 3 in reading 3, Or is this someone else? Or even him? Or another?!

    Lisa I’d really appreciate your advise on these court cards…

    The deck used were the beautiful ‘Tarot Illuminati’.

    1. Thanks for sharing, Karmen. Go with your gut about the court cards and always trust your first impressions when it comes to them, just as you would with people. It’s impossible to say whether or not a court card is a person (or another) or a message after the fact, not having been present at the actual reading.

      1. Its funny… I tend to find The Courts represent people (for me, including the pages) but when I watch other readers I’m amazed at how they can factor so well into actual messages, energies or characteristics etc of the person being read.

        Generally I’m quite intuitive with the cards and their relationships in readings. BUT, I do still struggle with the Court cards, I wonder if I feel there’s just too much room for interpretation here…

        1. Yes, it’s easy to get tied into knots over the court cards when you first start out. It’s OK for it to take time for this skill to develop. Keep reading and keep recording your readings. That way you can go back over them and see what was what. Usually, you will find that your first impression was correct. The images speak for themselves and overthinking things isn’t usually very helpful. However, there is another way… You don’t have to persist with court cards. You can do pretty great relationship readings with the Psychic Tarot Oracle for the Heart too… or any of the many love & relationship oracles out there. Yuletide Blessings, Lisa

  45. Hello,

    I am new to tarot but I would like some outside view on a matter with my long-distance lover. We met in my country through work and we had instant connection. He said he felt so “drawn” to me and wanted to seduce me straight away. We ended up involved at all levels but we knew that, for now, it would be short because he had to go back to his country in one month time. We met 3 months ago. So he did and we kept talking, missing each other, flirting and everything else. We made plans of seeing again, and I ended up offering to visit him because I was more available to leave everything and go, than him. He acted weird and didn’t reply to me about this for weeks and then he slowly progressed to being in touch again (liking my pics on Facebook, sending me messages, etc). Because of this, I feel confused of what he wants from me and I truly feel like we’re not done yet and he just got scared (maybe commitment issues?) or he was just busy with work (saw some pics no Facebook relating to that). Still, he could have answered me straight and he chose to keep quiet, which I thought was immature. But I wanted to move forward and not resent him because I felt there must have been other factors to this that were not because of me.

    I did a spread this morning and I got this (and here are my interpretations):

    1. His story – What he’s telling you
    10 of pentacles. He is a very busy man, successful, family traditions are very important to him and he is focused on money making. He owns two companies so I can see this translated in this card.

    2. What he’s really thinking.
    Nine of Cups. Assuming that this position represents “how he thinks about me”, I feel like he thinks that I was a “dream-come-true” type of girl. He said it to me often while together, and even apart, and that I was amazing in everything. I actually did a spread asking if he sees me as a “marriage-type-of-girl” and I got 4 of wands, the hierophant, 10 of cups, etc. But, if this position represents only “how he thinks” in general, it could also mean he feels content and satisfied with himself. So I am not sure which one applies here.

    3. How he feels about you deep down
    Temperance. I think he doesn’t want to loose me just yet (because of his inconsistent behaviour of reaching out) but now he must have realized that he needs to balance things out to see where he is going with us (if anywhere). He knows he bailed on me coming to visit him. It could also mean that he feels I am very patient and easy on this, always positive of the future. I am in no rush to have another man but I don’t want to hold on to an illusion either, that’s all. But I definitely feel a “slow” vibe from this card and it represents his attitudes lately. Maybe he wants me to wait for him to be ready for a relationship? I also did a spread a few days ago that gave me a feeling that he would want to settle down in a few months time.

    4. How he’s walking his talk
    10 of wands. I feel this is related mainly to our physical distancy. He may feel “burned” by this fact and he’s trying to ease the pain or discomfort for this. Maybe he feels he has to work hard to keep this going. But I’ve shown him I am more than willing to go there (I am a freelancer) and he mentioned he would like to come back here, just not immediately (this was like a month ago). Could this mean he is efforting to change things inside him in order to make room for our relationship?

    5. Outside influences on his walk
    6 of wands. His parents met me while they were in my country (they came too, for work) and everytime I take a spread on how they see me, it’s always very positive. I actually think his father played a role on this! I met him through his father. So maybe this represents them and his whole environment being “ready” and “victorious” to receive me. I see it as positive, isn’t it?

    6. How he will be walking his talk within 6-8 weeks
    The Magician. Usually this card is very positive so it could mean that he will slowly but steadily (because of Temperance) come to his senses and start to work on making this go ahead for us. I think it’s a card of personal power and ability to make things happen, so it could go in either direction. But considering the only negative card I saw was the ten of wands, I am right about it? I know that this could also mean he wants to take the “driver’s seat” and lead the relationship (which is very obvious for the way he has been acting). So I would say that either way this goes, we are both going to be fine and “positive” about our relationship future. But which way do you think it’ll go? Should I ask a clarifier on this one?

    Would you read this whole thing differently? I don’t understand much (yet) of card combinations so I could be missing out positive or negative relations.

    I went to an astrologer one day and she said we were “soul mates”, and that’s actually how I feel when I think of him.

    I don’t see another woman playing here, so… Maybe if I want to invest in this, I should just wait and see what happens? And try to let go of expectations in the mean time to protect myself?

    Thank you very much in advance and sorry for the many questions,

    1. If he wanted to be with you, he wouldn’t have gone all weird when you offered to go over there and see him. You said you did a reading on this situation a few days ago… I wouldn’t trust these cards. Too soon to read on it again.

  46. I am using the wild unknown tarot deck
    1 daughter (page) of cups
    2 2 wands
    3 lovers
    4 10 cups
    5 magician
    6 sun

    This is regarding a long distance relationship. We met two years ago online, had a huge falling out when he decided on someone else. Fast forward to their break up and we meeting for the first time. So, that happens 2 nonths ago. He has barely spoken to me or attenpted to be any sort of friend to me.

    Page of cups. He is being imature, and is treating me like a child would, witholding information.

    2 wands what he is thinking about is something better

    3 the lovers he has chosen someone else

    4 He is spending all his time eith his friends and appears very happy, has all he wants. Clearly I am not part of this,

    5 I take this to mean he wants to keep me a secret from his friends.

    6 sun he will carry on rubbing his happiness in my face but on a much grander scale.

    My interpratation slants heavily to the negative because he has left me for someone in the past, simply vecause it was easier and while I live only a few hours away, it is also in another country.

    I don”t know if this is a positive reading or not.

    1. Quite apart from what the cards tell you, what are you doing with this guy? I don’t believe in replacing common sense with a reading. He’s not giving you the love and happiness you deserve in love… time to call it a day!

      1. I spoke to him today, he has been incredibly busy and wrapped up in his own head. He strughles with depression around this time of yea4s so he remains scarce. We had a good talk via text and we are going to spoeak soon. He cares for me, but his leo side makes him a little unpredictable. I read the cards in a super negative way, but in retrospect they are quite positive. It takes two people to make things work, and when he is well, we are good. He has never let someone back into his life after banishing them, and I am the first. We are in the trust building phase, and I know thst he tries to keep busy in order to keep the demons at bay. I am not the problem, it is how he deals with things that throws me off.

  47. I am not sure if this spread is appropriate for my situation but, I thought I would give it a try. I will give you a little background. I have known this guy casually for a number of years. For some strange reason I started thinking about him differently and found myself attracted to him. I asked him on a date and he accepted immediately. We went on the date and everything went well. We had a number of things in common. We continued to text for a couple of weeks but, could not get together due to work and kids. He suddenly texted me one night and said that he didn’t want to keep sending the wrong signal and that there was nothing there. I was confused. I later found out that he is seeing a woman that he has been on and off with for years. Their families know each other well and his sister is married to this woman’s cousin apparently the families have been friends for many years. Long story short…I keep feeling like it’s not over. I used the Rider Waite deck.. Please give me feedback good or bad. I’m fairly new to reading.


    1- Five of Swords-basically he is telling me there is no interest.

    2- The Moon- He is confused/uncertain

    3- The Sun-I think in another situation this would mean he loves me but, in my situation it could mean he does have “feelings” for me or does like me

    4- Queen of Pentacles-He is a Taurus just like this card. I think it could mean that he is trying to go about his business, working and doing his everyday things..possibly not thinking much about me?

    5- The High Priestess- I’m not sure. Could it mean that he feels that there are too many people/obstacles he would have to go against in order to have something with me. ?

    6- The 8 of Wands- Does this mean that things are already set in motion and there could be a sudden change, a possible reconciliation? or not?

    Thanks Again

    1. The Queen of Pentacles and the HP both represent this other woman here… His communication was pretty clear so the 8 of Wands is hopefully your sudden realisation that this really is going nowhere.

  48. Yes I know that. And it’s very true. I’m trying end it but it’s extremely painful. I was looking for the outcome of this pile of shit that is my life.

  49. Hi,
    I tried this spread recently and got the following
    1. Five of wands – he’s conflicted about loads of things
    2. Devil – he’s probably thinking sexually
    3. Two of cups – not sure if this means he really does love or care as I’m not so good with these interpretations
    4. King of pentacles – he sort of wants stability?
    5. King of cups – as outside influence don’t know what to make of this as this is usually his significator
    6. Ace of cups – maybe an offer in some weeks coming from him?

      1. I did reply – not sure where it went. Here it is again: This reading is not making sense. I believe you have read on the same issue too many times and the cards are ‘confused’ Give it a rest for a while.

  50. Card 1. 8 of cups
    Card 2. Ace of pents
    Card 3. 9 of cups
    Card 4. The devil
    Card 5. Page of swords
    Cars 6. Knight if wands

    Worrying would you say? I’m new to this but I get that right now he’s happy and content but his actions don’t say this to me… Hence the devil card. The knight of wands looks like cheating as the final outcome?

    Anyone care to read this for me?

      1. Thank you for reading. If the first card is what’s he’s telling me… Then shouldn’t he be telling me that? You’re right in a way because he shuts me down when I try to talk but if I end it he will not leave me. So now I’m confused? Does this mean he’s just using me out of conveniene in that case?

        1. 8 of Cups is Saturn in Pisces and not a very chatty card. The fact that you are even entertaining the thought that he could be using you is a big red flag for the type of connection you have with this man.

        2. You ask if the other cards don’t mean anything… The Devil is another sign that this is not a loving relationship. It usually indicates co-dependency and toxicitity in love.

  51. I need a little help, I work with this guy and I think he likes me, I really like him but I want to know how he feels to know if I should just move on and forget about it or just see what time brings

    1. Wheel of Fourtune
    2. 3 of cups
    3. 3 of wands
    4. 2 of cups
    5. Ace of cups
    6. The fool

  52. Hi!
    Can I ask you a little question?, correct me if I’m wrong: he’s my teacher, I’m sure at some point he’s attracted to me as I am (by the way he behaves when I’m near), but as I said, he’s my teacher.

    1- 9 of wands
    2- wheel of fortune
    3- 7 of wands
    4 – the hierophant
    5- 10 of cups
    6 – 5 of cups

    Clearly he won’t do anything, probably I won’t do anything either. Am I right?
    Thank you so much!! 🙂

    1. Well, it depends on what deck you are using to a certain extent but I don’t actually see attraction here… the 10 of Cups in position five, I read either as action advice or as outside circumstances (deciding beforehand, of course) but it has nothing to do with how he feels for you… and that is the strongest card among these six indicating an emotional connection. Blessings

  53. Hi Lisa,

    So a short background story. Him and I have basically been on/off for about a year. We had a lot of ups and downs, and basically because if my insecurities and I felt he never committed a 100%. We broke it off in May, but started talking again in June and basically texting all summer (I was away in my home country for three months). When I got back in September we started seeing each other again, almost broke it off again when I found out he dated another girl too. He cut her out (they had been talking only a few weeks, been on a couple of dates) and said he wanted to be serious about us again. However, I still have my insecurities and haven’t been easy talking about it with him because he is dealing with a lot of personal problems so I have been focusing on supporting him through that. I still feel very insecure and I want to trust him, but it has been hard because of the way he acts sometimes.

    So here is the cards I got:

    1. Page of wands (reversed)
    2. Knight of Swords
    3. Knight of Wands
    4. Six of Swords
    5. Two of Pentacles (reversed)
    6. Ace of Cups

    I tried interpret the meanings of it, but I was a little confused. I know Ace of cups is a good omen in love readings, isn’t it? I was so confused about the knights though.. Should I had reshuffled and spread it again, or is that just the part of me thats desperate for answers that are thinking that since I was a little confused?

    Hope to hear from you,

    1. May I add:

      I am having trouble understanding card 1 – 4. However, card number 5 (two pentacles reversed) about influences may indicate that he has a lot going on such as financial concerns, family etc and he is struggling with making time..can that be it? And Card 6 (ace of cups) indicates he will be more loving and compassionate, towards me right? Have I read these cards right? Does it mean he is committed to me? None of the cards indicates other women?

      Sorry, a lot of questions here… :/

    2. Hi Katharina, have you recently read on the same question before you did this reading? I do not recommend reshuffling in situations like this when the real problem is an inability to detach from the outcome. I will comment further after you tell me honestly if this is the only reading you have done on this situation in the last couple of weeks. TCheers

      1. I have just been trying different spreads the last couple of days, but not specifically this question or this spread. I have looked basically on my love life, I tried a “mirroring spread”, and three and five cards spreads where I have asked about our relationship. :/

        1. It’s still the same basic question and the same basic underlying insecurity/attachment to outcome… Take a break from asking for yourself. You need a detached, third-party reading on this. I can’t trust that the cards aren’t muddled so there is not much point in interpreting them here.

  54. I must be the only man that’s stumbled upon this.
    1. Two of Cups
    2. The Empress
    3. 3 of Wands
    4. 9 of Wands
    5. Ace of Pentacles
    6. Ace of Swords

    She is hard to read but I think her faith is being tested a bit. I have a habit of seeing the face she hides beneath her mask. After a recent period of miscommunication and drama we’ve actually been smiling at each other more.

    Other than that, I’m new to this so of course I would jump in to a romance related question.

  55. Hi Lisa,

    My spread was:

    1. 10 of Wands
    2. The Empress
    3. Knight of Wands
    4. 4 of Cups
    5. 9 of Pentacles
    6. 3 of Wands

    We recently had sort of a downfall and even though we tried to get over past hurts and try to be happy, it seems that for now, we aren’t seeing each other.

    But I’m wondering if 3 of Wands means that we may reconcile and try again? Or is it that he will have moved on and be focused more on himself and what he can do to improve his life?

  56. I absolutely adore this spread and all your work. Thank you for sharing it with us.

    1. Strength
    He’s trying to portray a certain image of someone who had it all together. Maybe he thinks this is what I want to see? Or perhaps he’s attempting to balance everything in his life.

    2. 10 of wands (reversed)
    In relation to position 1, perhaps he feels overwhelmed? What he’s really thinking is something needs to go…maybe it’s me. I feel that maybe he’s grown tired of our back and forth…I also believe his past weighs on his mind.

    3. 9 of wands (reversed)
    He feels defeated. Perhaps I haven’t been supportive enough or didn’t show enough interest. He may not feel equipped enough (time, finances, emotionally) to have a relationship.

    4. 2 of pentacles
    More juggling…time, money, family. He’s indicated these things require a lot of him. He’s trying to do the best he can and make it look easy.

    5. 6 of pentacles
    He takes care of and feels responsibility for a family member. I feel he is represented by the wealthy man giving of his resources to this family member. Is making it tough for him to make his “walk” look effortless.

    6. Queen of wands
    Selfishly I want this card to represent me. I am a Leo, my job as an Events Coordinator requires I be energetic, courageous and determined. And I obviously have a love of the occult if I’m conducting a tarot reading. But am I projecting? If this is me, in what capacity? Is he to learn from me?

    If nothing else, this reading has supplied me with a better understanding of where he might be coming from. I would love to hear anyone’s feedback though, if anyone has time.

    Thank you again and much love.

    1. Sorry for the late reply to this Tiffany. You will know the meaning by now and I would love to hear what you learned from this – especially about the presence of the Queen of Wands, which could also be HIM… a Queen doesn’t always have to be a woman!

  57. I decided to do this reading since he’s extremely hard to read and my gut has been telling me the opposite of what he’s been telling me. Basically he says he doesn’t want to work on things Or have a relationship, yet we’re still physically connected and I’ve seen signs of him not being totally over me.
    I’ve done my best to interpret but I’m a little stumped on one of the cards.

    1. Page of swords. Im not sure if this is what he’s telling me I am or if it’s how he’s telling me he is. Basically logical decisions, stubbornness, lacking emotion, negotiations? Really not sure with this. But he has basically told me he ended the relationship because there were too many things wrong and I drive him nuts.

    2. Page of wands. He sees me as loyal, energetic, passionate, creative, always having new ideas, a student for life ( I’m actually going back to do nursing), fearless and courageous. If this is how he really thinks of me this comes as a very pleasant surprise.

    3. The Lovers.
    This confirms what my gut was telling me. He still loves me, still wants some sort of union with me and feels like I do that we are soul mates.

    4. Knight of cups. Not sure how to interpret this. Is this how he’s acting now towards me? I’m finding it a little hard to believe that he’s trying to court me or sweep me off my feet, because it goes completely against what he’s done before. I also found an interpretation that said the knight of cups can also represent an infatuation with a new way of being. He has been recently really interested in a certain subject and when I ask him about it he tells me it’s fun to pretend to be a certain persona to piss people off. A little childish and wild, like a knight is to me. For a period after the break up he was going out with his friends a LOT trying to relive his younger years when he used to be popular. He’s a cancer rising Aquarius with a moon in Scorpio so I’m not surprised the cups are coming up for him.

    5. The emperor. Well this in my mind can only be his father. He’s ex navy and the head of the family. I’ve been looking to him for advice on how to deal with my ex and how to work on things with him. I’m not sure how he’s influencing my ex however. Not sure if he’s helping me or not here.

    6. The hermit. Not a fan as I associate the hermit with solitude, meditation, withdrawal. But can also mean a desire to teach others what he’s learned from his period of solitude. And compassion. So if deep down he feels like the lovers towards me, why would he decide to go it alone in the future? Could this be a temporary isolation to figure out what he really wants? A little bit of a downer to be honest.

    Any help is appreciated, especially in position 4.

      1. Hi Cecile, sorry for the late reply – did you find your answer to the meaning of the Knight of Cups here? Or did it just not make sense? I get a feeling (because of the presence of the Pages) that it could have represented the most immature traits of this Knight, including some form of addiction and being irresponsible with the feelings he evokes in others.

  58. 1. His story – What he’s telling you
    8 of wands. He’s always on working and staying busy. If I was to call him he would respond quickly.

    2. What he’s really thinking.
    High Priestess. I don’t know hence the high priestess. I believe he is keeping how he truly feel and think of me to himself. I know in my heart he cares but he chooses to keep what he thinks about our relationship to himself. He doesn’t express it through words.

    3. How he feels about you deep down
    10 of pentacles like I said for 2 he doesn’t say what he thinking but he has told me many times he would want to married with a family. I believe he want that with me but he chooses his career.

    4. How he’s walking his talk
    Tempance. He is slow moving. Wants me to wait on him. I wish he would just commit to me now but I guess I have to have patience.

    5. Outside influences on his walk
    2 of pentacles. I think this have to do with his work. I only get this card when he feels he have to work. So he’s juggling having a career and being in a relationship. The career is winning in my eyes

    6. How he will be walking his talk within 6-8 weeks
    Queen of pentacles
    I’m always helping him with financial situations or if he needs something. I guess that’s my life with the man I love.

    Position 5 and 6 is telling me if I do not help him he will probably get caught with work more that sending time with me. In the long run it can work out cause of the 10 of pentacles we can get the marriage but I think I would be miserable if this continues.

    I need help could 8 of wands in the first position mean it’s positive communication. We just had a big fight. Also the high priestess for what he is thinking. I do a lot of spiritual work and read could he be hes just think of me as well and that’s it. I’m a Scorpio btw. Love the site Lisa can’t wait for your response. I have been reading tarot and lenormand for years but it’s good to hear someone else take on readings.

  59. i love your blog and this wonderful spread, thank you!
    1. the star
    maybe he has been giving me the impression that there is hope for a future between us and that what we have is special (we dated five years ago and have been friends/lovers since he moved away).
    2. wheel of fortune
    maybe he thinks we would have to change our lives more than both of us are ready to (I’ve been considering moving out to new york where he lives).
    3. three of pentacles
    maybe he feels like we have laid the groundwork for something real between us and he feels that this is “adult.”
    4. ten of swords
    do you think this is a card suggesting that he is just plain and simple behaving as if to end this or something else? (i had a weekend in new york with him last week that was super romantic and we shared a lot of friendship and secrets, it ended well)
    5. queen of swords
    the queen of swords might be another woman who he finds more intellectually stimulating or an underlying sense of rejection from being a journalist in new york who is about to take a pay cut
    6. the hanged man
    the hanged man feels to me like just a long wait-and-see period or maybe just a no-go altogether.

    i could be totally delusional because i care about him and am not currently dating him, which is why i’m curious if you have any
    wonderful spread, thank you!

  60. Ok, this is what I got for trying to figure out what’s going on with a guy I like.

    1. World: this one confuses me slightly…he stop talking to me in general so I am taking his non verbal as verbal but with the world it throws me off. I know the world could mean anxiety of getting what he wanted and now not knowing what to do with it but yea…this is the only card that I can’t make clear of.

    2. Seven of wands: this card I have always seen as “fighting” imaginary foes. I feel he is fighting his own feelings or thoughts about me because of his recent break up.with his ex that refused to love him after two years. Prehapes he thinks since she couldn’t love him that i nor anyone else will?

    3. Three of pentacles: here I think he feels that I am almost the prefect girl for him…maybe a little too perfect…

    4. Eight of cups: he is dealing with his feelings of everything by walking away right now. Leaving the bad situation from his ex and taking a break from me…

    5. 10 of pentacles: he is still living with his ex and have sort of a “family” set up though there is no family except for their child they have together… I feel this is what is prompting card four.

    6. The Empress: later on after he has taken care of his issues with his ex, he will become more affectionate towards me. I’m relating the Empress and the three of pents together because of the number three they share.

    I think the reading gave pretty good insight (except for the world). Any input would be great if you see differently or could go in further.

    1. I believe he will stick with the mother of his child based on this. Time will tell. Not sure why the 3 of Pentacles would be a great sign to you… but yeah… the 10 of Pentacles + The Empress at the end… family is what he will choose.

      1. Being that his ex has repeatedly told him she did not love him I doubt it.

        From everything I have read, three of pents has been a good card for feelings.

        Just when I look at these cards, he just feels trapped in his situation with his ex.

  61. hi lisa! I love your blog and this spread! I read your blog frequently and often use it as a resource to guide my interpretations.

    I used this spread and the following came out..some things I noticed..lots of eights in the reading, with the final card being strength…lots of wands, which makes me think there is passion and fire about the relationship

    1. 3 of wands – he’s thinking of change..maybe ready for change..maybe moving forward with our relationship
    2. 8 of wands – he has lots of energy around making changes
    3. 8 of pentacles – hes willing to put the work in to making our relationship work
    4. 10 of wands – maybe he feels burdened by how much work this relationship will take to make it work.
    5. 6 of pentacles- ugh I dont know…maybe he gets good advice from someone close about changing our relationship?
    6. strength – another i dont know. maybe he’s ready to set aside the fears of change that burden him and move forward with me…??

    thoughts? Thanks in advance 🙂

  62. Hi I did this reading and got
    1: 2 of wands
    2:queen of pentacles
    3: king of swords
    4 6 of pentacles
    5:2 of swords
    6: 2 of wands


  63. Thank you! Yes, he was very much ugh and it cost him….me. Well, he either will or he won’t change, the choice is his. Sometimes love means letting go. 🙂 Thanks for your insight. Any feedback on 6 of swords as outside influences?

  64. Great spread. My read

    1. 7 of Swords
    2. Empress
    3. 2 of Cups
    4. Lovers
    5. 6 of Swords
    6. Hanged man

    For clarity sake, the individual and I are currently not in touch but other indicators are showing that’s about to change so I did this reading to find out where his head was/is. When I read this, I read in terms of what he told me/what he was really thinking, and then all the rest of the cards present tense.

    No issues with understanding the 1st card -he was hiding a lot from me and couldn’t make up his mind. I’m not clear if the 2nd position card is what he’s thinking he needs (someone to take care of him) or how he thinks of me (he has referred to me as his queen in the past and the empress is the queen of all the tarot queens). 3rd card is consistent I continually get 2 of cups for how he feels about me (or 6 of cups) – no mystery there except why if he’s so besotted he’s so reticent to commit.

    I always struggle with the Lovers and this time is no exception. It could mean he’s make a choice or it could mean he’s playing the field and having a grand time.

    6 of swords in outside influences position – hmmm, that maybe he’ll have to move? or is that he left me (I left him as he couldn’t make up his freaking mind on what we were) for something better?

    I read Hanged Man in the final position as transformation, rather than indecision, especially given the 6 of Swords prior but I am interested in your thoughts.


    1. 7 of Swords with The Lovers is someone who is playing the field. The Hanged Man could mean a new perspective. It also means sacrifice. Hopefully, you putting your foot down and not accepting his non-committal stance will lead to him seeing the light. I’d stay away until he does though. The 7 of Swords is just… ugh…

  65. 1- Page of Wands
    2- Ace of Cups
    3- The Lovers
    4- 3 of Wands
    5- The Fool
    6- Queen of Wands
    With my limited understanding of Tarot
    Fiery/passionate. Short lived perhaps.
    I have no idea what the Queen of Wands in the last position would suggest?
    Nor of The Lovers in the third.
    Any insights would he helpful.

  66. Hello! This is a brief question on interpreting online readings and their phrases. Could you please answer a brief and pressing question so pressing it is driving me nuts! When an online reading says “How he feels about you” and “How he thinks about you”…WTH does this actually mean?? I’ve heard it in two ways I am so confused. Does it mean how he is feeling/thinking as the card is his feelings/thoughts are the card projected on you or is it the card that he is feeling/thinking of you??? I hope that isn’t too confusing like I am confused! I so appreciate if you could clear up this for me as I can’t get an answer online for months now. Ugh. Please and thank you!

    1. A card in a position about what he thinks about you represents his thoughts about you – how he sees you through his mind’s eye. How he feels about you is sometimes different, especially if is very mercurial (ruled by his mind). ‘How he feels about you’ represents what is in his heart for you. At least, that is how those two positions are used in this spread. I can’t really comment on other spreads you find online.

  67. Hello Lisa,

    I had a friend that I liked very, very much. But I never told him how I felt about him. I figured that I would only get hurt since he put me in the “Friend Zone.” So six weeks ago I decided to just, disappear, no explanations. Unfortunately I miss him. Last week I did a spread asking what I should be doing about this “partnership” and what he should do. I got “The Hanged Man,” and his card was the “9 of Wands.” So I get that I’m supposed to do nothing. But I truly am beginning to wonder if I will ever see him again. If only I didn’t miss him… 🙁

    I used the Morgan-Greer Tarot and received the following:

    1. His story – What he’s telling you – Page of Pentacles
    2. What he’s really thinking – King of Swords
    3. How he feels about you deep down – 2 of Swords
    4. How he’s walking his talk – 4 of Cups
    5. Outside influences on his walk – Ace of Swords
    6. How he will be walking his talk within 6-8 weeks – The Chariot

    I’m having a quite bit of difficulty interpreting this spread, because I’m not good with swords cards. He is a Libra and thinks quite a bit about things (obsessively at times) so perhaps this would be why so many would pop up.

    The King of Swords is supposed to know exactly what he wants with ultimate clarity, but the 2 of swords is about not knowing and being unable to make decisions. What in the world?? So, he knows what he wants, but can’t decide what he wants to do about it, or feel about it? But then… outside influence is the Ace of Swords. This too is supposed to be about knowing “something” with clarity. And the final card is The Chariot. To me it says that he’s finally made a decision and is pushing full steam ahead. But uh…. is he running toward me? Or is he running away from me? Since I see swords as emotionally neutral, I can’t tell what direction this chariot is going. What am I missing here?

    1. 2 of Swords is Moon in Libra so that could be his Libra nature shining through in his emotions about you and this situation. Ultimately, the Chariot is rarely positive for relationships as it can signal ‘my way or the highway.’ With this as the outcome, the other person is more concerned with number One than any other people involved. He is someone who lives very much in his head and hence missing opportunities for deeper emotional connections (4 of Cups), so the Ace of Swords showing up as a significant outside influence makes sense. He’s really only interested in things, people and situations that bring new things for him to think about.

      1. Oh dear. Then I was really barking up the wrong tree with this guy. Thanks for your insight! I didn’t see any of this at all. I thought the cards indicated that he was confused and was taking time to figure out what he wanted to do. But that when he decided, he would take action, in whatever direction.

        Random Note: He has Moon, Venus and Mars in Virgo. He acts super passive about a lot of things so I never really saw him as a ‘my way of the highway’ type. I have Sun and Venus in Virgo and Mercury in Libra, so there’s probably some strong conjunctions going on there and may be why I was so stuck on him. 🙁

  68. I did this spread and had great results! The only question I have is I pulled the princess of wands in the third position and I’m not to sure what to make of it. Any help would be appreciated

    1. The Pages/Princess are children and students so if this card describes his feelings for you, they are probably more based in lust than love with the fiery Princess of Wands – lacking in depth and maturity but keen!

  69. Hello Lisa! Love your work by the way!
    Just saw this post and felt really intrigued cause i met a guy recently, we’ve been talking but he isn’t saying enough.. so had to try the spread and this is the outcome and my understanding.. :

    1. His story – What he’s telling you – The Emperor
    2. What he’s really thinking – 6 of Swords
    3. How he feels about you deep down – 7 of Wands
    4. How he’s walking his talk – Death
    5. Outside influences on his walk – 4 of Swords
    6. How he will be walking his talk within 6-8 weeks – 8 of Swords

    1. He is telling me that he is a powerful individual, confident, hard working. Above all else, he teaches – without even trying, perhaps – the benefits of structure and logic ruling over the emotions and lesser desires. He works hard and sees things from a logical point of view. He is attracted to order, logic, and organization. And he is definitely showing me his strong self!

    2. He is going on a trip, starting all over, moving to better times, the only way to escape the turbulent waters of our emotions may be to leave them behind (maybe he is still recovering from a breakup!) most then likely.. He is moving away.. taking a look at where he’s been and where he’s going.. Maybe feeling a bit depressed and sad, but knows that he needs to go.. to better times.. He is going from a negative venue to a more positive one, it’s hard but things can only get better, but with a highly controlled balance of logic and intuition. A change, maybe it’s hard but it’s for the best.

    3. (i got a bit stuck on this one!!) But this is my understanding, hopefully you can enlighten me Lisa!
    Is it that he feels that i am a challenge for him? A battle? Is he facing his fears and trying to turn then to his advantage? So he can grow stronger and face the other challenges ahead of what our relationship might cause? Or in the other hand is he feeling that i have the courage that i need to overcome the obstacles that i might be facing? Or perhaps he is thinking if i am worthwhile fighting for?? The reading seemed fine but then this card came up and i got lost.. Could it maybe be with the fact that we are on a battle (chasing each other to see who eventually gives in??) If it is worth giving in/fighting for?? Does he feel that he is in any sort of competitive situation, that me(or)him will have to come out on top? Deep down i know that he knows that we both should speak our mind.. but it’s been hard (that’s the first reason why i done this spread!!) I also feel that we both need to face our fears and turning them around for our advantage but maybe none of us wants to lose this “battle”.

    4. And once again this guy is going through bad times and massive changes!! Getting rid of old beliefs and acquiring new ones. Transformation time.. He if facing a transition to a next level of life. The day has come, life will still go on, change is beneficial but maybe it’s hard for him to face it and deal with it properly.. (perhaps hence why he hasn’t asked me out yet!! – maybe he is not ready yet!) Maybe he needs to accept the change before he enters a new relationship and maybe he knows it!! The old must die, must go and he needs to heal, he needs to let go of the old and welcome the new. “wake up call” – for his own sake. One door may have closed, but another is opening and that is for sure! I wish he could open himself more.. I do feel that i could help..

    5. He needs peace and mental clarity.. A period of rest and recovery after a time of challenge, with the promise that, once recovered, he will return to the challenge. In the meantime,a tough new challenge – the challenge to stay silent. (that’s why he isn’t communicating as much i wanted him to be!) Time of relaxation, of course still dealing with his daily business (emperor). He is healing from previous breakups/hard situations, deep down i feel that he is still hurting, therefor doesn’t really open up and show me his true feelings, instead he is showing me that he is strong/successful (emperor).

    6. I did not like to see the 8 of swords here! It feels that he will not move forward, that his hurt and pain will not pass that quickly!! It still feels that in 6-8 weeks it will still be time of powerlessness and restriction! He will probably be holding himself back because of fear of moving into the future or because he will be wary of getting hurt by a new situation or new relationship with me! Feels to me that he is not letting go of all that hurt. Maybe he will still not be ready for a new relationship because he is still suffering and not letting go! He needs to let himself free from the bonds of fear and doubt! There is always options and ways to escape but maybe he is his only enemy for not letting go.. He needs to accept the mental clarity and peace..

    So where do i stand in the middle of all this?? I hoped i made sense to all of you and i also hope that you can share your thoughts and try to enlighten me in one way or another 🙂 many blessings and thank you for your time.

      1. Hi Lisa, thanks for the comment, it did make sense, mas all i am really confused is about : 3. How he feels about you deep down – 7 of Wands.. It would be great if you kindly please give me your point of view and once again thank you

  70. Couldn’t resist giving this a try.

    1. His story – What he’s telling you – 10 of pents
    2. What he’s really thinking – Emperor
    3. How he feels about you deep down – Q of Wands
    4. How he’s walking his talk – Hanged Man
    5. Outside influences on his walk – Tower
    6. How he will be walking his talk within 6-8 weeks – Prince (Knight) of Pents

    I’ve recently got to know someone who lives a long way away – I think I want a relationship with him but he’s not ready to commit and to be fair we hardly know each other and both have busy lives in our respective home towns. The logistics would be tricky but not impossible especially in the medium term. We’re both in our 40s and he’s slightly older than me, no kids involved.

    1 It is possible he’s giving me the impression he’d like a relationship to give him more time to think about whether this is what he really wants?

    2 and 3 Maybe he thinks he’s in control of the situation 🙂 He does like women to be ladylike and I’m not especially. I am a natural redhead, fairly alternative and am reasonably assertive (though reserved) in my private life. He brings out my passionate side, which is normally quite well hidden, so probably sees me in a completely different way to my friends. I might actually be too quiet for him IRL.

    4 He seems to be hedging his bets, which is understandable (unless he’s still hung up on an ex). We both tend to be people pleasers and it’s been incredibly instructive for me to watch his behaviour, seeing what I normally do myself reflected back at me and knowing how stressful it is to try to achieve an emotional balance with all the pressure you put yourself under (pressure which comes from inside but which it’s all too easy to blame the other person for). Also for impatient me to learn to wait for things to develop in their own time is extremely hard.

    5 I read with the Thoth deck so don’t think this is necessarily negative, it’s breakthrough or breakdown (eg I once got the Tower as the outcome card for a couple who were going to their final adoption panel meeting – they were approved). Something will happen in the short term to clarify his thinking and he’ll be able to make a decision on what to do.

    6 Any movement forward would be good, but I’m choosing to see this as a hopeful sign. Actually wondering whether the breakthrough will be him taking a risk and showing me his real personality which he might currently feel is not exciting enough for the Q of Wands? And that might move things onto a less stressful and more honest footing.

    Interesting process!

  71. Could you please explain more in depth to me what my results mean?

    1 – 9 of Cups
    2 – 6 of Wands
    3 – 10 of Cups
    4 – 5 of Pentacles
    5 – Page of Swords
    6 – King of Swords

    Please know that the person I did this about is my supervisor at my new job if that has anything to do with the answers. I’m really curious because of how he acts towards me.
    Thanks 🙂

  72. Hello, I am not very sure about my reading. I´m confused.

    2. the fool
    3. the star
    4. the world
    5. the empress
    6. the sun

    This cards isn´t bad, but maybe you can give me little direction, to read this better.

    Thank you!

  73. I met someone about a month ago that I really liked, felt that he really liked me and could be the one but, I kept getting gut feelings that he wasn’t treating me in the most genuine way (like he was trying to manipulate me) and I ended it.

    I did a 3 card (past/present/ immediate future) spread about a week ago and got
    1. 2 of cups
    2. 8 of swords
    3. hanged man

    I did this spread tonight and I got:

    1. 3 of pentacles
    2. Ace of cups
    3. 6 of cups
    4. 10 of swords–no surprises here since I did feel he was trying to manipulate me
    5. Queen of swords- which I think represents me since my rising sign is indeed Gemini and I didn’t tolerate any manipulation
    6. Page of pentacles

    Between the two spreads, I would say my feelings from the beginning were right and we’ll need to reboot but, that we could work. Any insights Lisa?

    1. Your conclusion is one possibility and I believe the Pentacles represent messengers, so a message could be key. In the case of the Pentacles, it should be a message about meeting up face to face. I think the Swords energy just gets in the way here. And that energy includes electronic messages. You need face time. And touch. Reboot not so much with your mind but with your heart, soul and body.

  74. Sorry Lisa, I reported the ace of pentacles and eight of pentacles the wrong war around, so the ace of pentacles will be how he treats me. So does this make more sense? And just to clarify, I see the four of pentacles as being obsessive yet controlled. Does this make sense.

    Thank you for your blog, it’s great!

    1. 1. king of Ps
      2. 5 of cups
      3. Hermit

      4. Eight of Ps
      5.ace of Ps
      6. Four of ps

      Wow, there’s a lot of earth energy here. With the king of ps, I feel this relates to him giving me lots of good advice with my research. 5 of cups, means we both let each other down a long time ago. The Hermit, I see as I mean a lot to him, he’s thinking long and hard about me and he feels lonely if I disappear for a day or two.

      I see the ace of Ps as something manifesting physically soon (hurrah!) but he will be possessive. There will be something uncommonly intense in his feelings for me.

      But I’m a little confused about how to interpret the 8 of Ps here….

      Lisa, what do you think?

      1. Snook, that’s hard for me to say as I wouldn’t read the other cards the way you read them. The Ace of Pentacles is an outside influence and not related to how he will treat you. I’m not sure how you reached those conclusions…?

  75. Sorry you didn’t get the help you felt you needed at the time from the Tarot reader you consulted. Next time, before ordering a reading, perhaps you will email the reader to see if they will be able to help you with your question? As you can see, I do offer this exact reading as one of my email services, so that would have probably addressed your concerns. However, you seem all ‘read out’ on the matter now and I would advice you to take a break from any more readings – for at least another 3 months – unless there is significant development.

    1. Well actually I’m not. Just here, I can’t get an immediate results because of the language barrier. So you’re okay with breaking his “space”. Cause I’m all for it! I’m also curious as to my feelings on the matters and where the relationship would have gone. My first reading said that if I wanted security he would provide it. And now I’ve changed a lot as a person. I’m not as much as a pushover. My other readers have told me that there are new people romantically going to come into my life. I would love a reading!

  76. With his feelings and motivations and intentions. That’s what I want to know. Basically and usually I need to focus on me. ^_^ I’m very sword like though, so my knowledge is important to me. What I know and trusting my instincts and everything.

  77. I’m pretty new and am always worried I will be biased. People have told me to stop worry about this and I’m trying. I’m hoping that someday he will realize my intentions. I never wanted him to think it wasn’t because he wasn’t good enough as I know that can do a number on someone’s self worth.

    He said he’s engaged and getting married and I don’t know if she had always been there or not. If she was, he was just trying to fool around with me. Which is pretty cruel in itself, seeing as to how I’d never been in a relationship before.

    He may have been single up until my letter and then to protect his pride, have this as the rebound.

    Or he could have had her for security reasons, and wanted to start something with me but when that didn’t pan out went back to plan A.

    The thing is I want to know if he was lying, if so, what about? What were his intentions and feelings?

    I don’t plan on starting a relationship with him, but I feel like I can let go of the hope of the “what if’s” and “what could’ve been” if I knew the real feelings and intentions.

    And though I HAVE asked, other than tarot there’s no way to ask.
    What we have as feelings are “High prietess, 5 of cups, 7 of pents, and Judgment,”

    Is it bad to draw too many cards? I know it is, but I don’t have a proper deck. I plan on purchasing one once I go home.

    The reason i don’t plan on starting a relationship is because I have a strong fear of so-dependency here.

    1. Hi Ami, sounds like you could really do with a reading! And I mean by a professional. I’m not saying that to de-value the reading you did for yourself but because I know how difficult can be to detach enough in situations like these… Blessings, Lisa

      1. I had one done and numerous ones done. But it was always focused on what I needed to do in my life and such and where I was headed. Most said they were against do a reading about him because it would be tapping into his life energy or something along those lines.

        And I’m not afraid to ask those tough questions!!! But chances are slim I would get an honest answer from other people. I can’t ask him at all because then it will reaffirm that I look like a stalker which I’m not.

        He’s been represented as Knight of cups and she said I was aligning myself with him. So I’m guessing he did have romantic feelings. Here’s the reading.

        I think there 7-8 Major Arcana cards. That’s pretty insane to me.

        So now I’m in the process of letting it all go, but (there’s always a but) I JUST want to know what the heck was going on.

  78. I had a man whom I was working with sort of stalking me for 8 months. When I was vulnerable though I didn’t outwardly show it, I started thinking I developing feelings for him. I was extremely inexperienced and he was attracted if not obsessed with my “purity”. I sent him a letter detailing how difficult it would be to develop a relationship. I was so distraught over it and still am because I believe he loved/idealized he so much. Then he messaged me that he “never had any feelings” for me and was getting married and engaged. I told him he was my first love and I wanted to see him once for closure. he refused. For him to move on, It’s what I wanted him to do, but something feels wrong. As a woman I trust my instincts and about the feelings (not the fiancee) I feel he is lying. He has made it out to be that I was stalking him… I leave the country in 2 weeks, so i don’t have to come back. As a person who grew up, constantly self-sacrifacing myself for family and friends I didn’t think of myself and my pain, I felt so much pain just for hurting him. I got seriously ill over it.

    1.10 of swords–Magican
    2.Knight of swords–6 of wands
    3.High priestess–This card jumped out. 5 of cups. Then 7 of pentacles. Judgment.
    4.The Empress–3 of pentacles
    5.2 of wands–Sun
    6.7 of cups–Ace of swords

    I’ve been presented often by others as the Magican, so that might possibly be me. I don’t know. Paired with the 10 of swords, perhaps he’s being over dramatic??

    2. He’s thinking about how get out of the situation of having stalked me. (People knew) So I guess trying to get acknowledgement and Victory. His mission that he riding to. Since this is communication, literally doing so by words.

    3. How he feels. High Priestess. Could it be me? I know people often see the High Priestess as the woman that is out of reach for a man. But paired with the 5 of cups, hiding his disappointment and 7 of pentacles, feeling like all that work (stalking) was futile. Judgment as him having made a decision about me and not going back on me or since It was me, making the decision to go home.

    4. Empress-3 of Pentacles… Page of wands. A child is involved. I’m lost on this.

    5. 2 of wands and the Sun. Strength. He has a new job and new opportunities I guess. Strength as other people giving him strength,

    6. 7 of cups could mean somethings about illusions. Ace of swords–extreme thoughts.
    Since this is a reading basically concerning me, I don’t know if the thoughts are negative, just there. I also pulled the page of swords. T_T Isn’t that also the spying card??? With my recent illness, my co-workers whom he was close with are probably keeping tabs on me if the Page of swords do represent that. My boss was particularly close to him and was a major influence in pushing me towards him. She’s been taking care of me since I was sick. She wants to know my plans, what am I going to do about money and has always mentioned security. She mentioned recently after I confessed that I liked him and that my love is like a child, that I only want the people I love to be happy and healthy.

    I got told that I would be “the one that got away”. Although we were never in a relationship, and up until now I still haven’t been in one. I feel that he idealizes this. The girl who had never even held hands..etc. Sometimes I felt like an object to be won and shown off. I have also read that to to others it represents “infatuation”. Idealizing, Infatuation, and spying?? Maybe I’m reading it wrong.

    I been trying to laugh at the situation because it was so similiar to Sense and Sensiblity. Though I’m definately more like Elinor’s charactor, my situation with the illness definately parallelled Marianne. To this day though I still haven’t really fallen in love yet…though I think of this as being pretty close to it.

      1. I always think they add more knowledge expecially if they’re Court cards. In this situation there have been a LOT of people involved which is ironic since neither of us have ever been alone in each other’s company. I just began reading Tarot cards. I have had many readings done. So while I know the best decision for me has been underway. But I feel like if I knew what his feelings or intentions where I could move on.

        If he had a girlfriend/fiancee and just wanted to chase me because of “ego” (I rejected him because my boss was the one who confessed and I thought they were joking because we hadn’t even spoken to one another ever. This was 2 months into him sitting next to me at work. And in the last 7 months we only spoke once and even then not long. He is a difficult person to read and as you wrote before, men just do not talk about their feelings. If he loved me, I am unable to give him a normal relationship because I am asexual. <–Whew that's a secret! ^_^ I gave him a letter detailing the difficulties in the relationship, culture differences, language differences, etc. I wanted to him to be able to have the kind of relationship he wanted by being with a person who could provide for his needs.

        I had a really difficult childhood and adolescene constantly sacrificing myself and in this relationship I would have to do quite a bit of that. My home country, my language, my family, my virginity, and I didn't want to think of it in that way. I didn't want to lord it over him like I had seen in some relationships growing up. And yet I was uncomfortable with the idea that this was possibly what he wanted.

        If lust, well it's lust.

        He sent me passive agressive text messages making me seem like I was stalking him/protecting himself.

        There are so many layers of secrets from other people, I can't get to the truth and if you can't tell yet, if I was a court card, I'd probably be a sword. So the truth is so important to me. I just want to know. It'll clear up so much.

  79. Trish, if the HP is ‘his story’ there could be a lot he’s not telling you. She’s known to be quite secretive. I feel he’ll remain loyal to you with the Knight of Pentacles as the outcome. Lots to think about and analyse here!

  80. I did this and what I got was:
    1) High Priestess
    2) 2 of Wands
    3) Queen of Swords
    4) Ace of Wands
    5) The Star
    6) Knave of Pentacles
    Honestly, I don’t know if this is how he feels, or how I feel since the High Priestess is the first card.
    I would post on FB, but I used the Decameron Tarot, which is the deck I use for my guy and I.

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