Being in a new relationship can be confusing. And let’s not even go there with the ‘talking stage’ relationship status that has become popular in recent years. You could have different communication styles and you could be struggling with how to express your needs. Let’s face it–Not everyone is emotionally available. This is where the ‘How They Really Feel About You Tarot Spread’ comes in handy,
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Quite a few of us struggle with talking about our feelings. I’m thinking of those of us who happen to be neurodivergent in particular. Some people also feel a strong need to maintain control by concealing their true feelings for several psychological and social reasons:
Fear of Vulnerability
Many of us hide our emotions out of a deep-seated fear of appearing vulnerable. Expressing genuine feelings can make us feel exposed and susceptible to judgment or rejection. By maintaining a stoic exterior, we protect ourselves from potential emotional harm or manipulation by others. Or, at least, we think we do.
Desire for Power and Influence
Revealing emotions may be seen as a sign of weakness in certain social or professional contexts. Some individuals, especially those in leadership positions, may feel that concealing their true feelings gives them an edge in negotiations or decision-making processes. They believe that by not showing their emotional cards, they can better control outcomes and maintain authority. Funnily enough, some people treat romantic relationships the same way.
Past Trauma or Negative Experiences
People who have experienced emotional abuse, betrayal, or rejection in the past may develop a habit of hiding their feelings as a defence mechanism. This behaviour stems from a learned belief that expressing emotions leads to negative consequences, making emotional suppression feel safer.
Cultural and Social Conditioning
In some cultures and social environments, there’s a strong emphasis on emotional restraint and stoicism. Individuals raised in such contexts may internalise the belief that openly expressing feelings is inappropriate or a sign of immaturity. This conditioning can lead to a persistent pattern of emotional concealment.
Perfectionism and Fear of Judgment
For perfectionists or those with low self-esteem, revealing true feelings may feel like exposing flaws or weaknesses. These individuals often fear being judged negatively by others and strive to present a flawless image, which includes masking any emotions that might be perceived as negative or undesirable.
Avoidance of Conflict
Some people hide their feelings to avoid potential conflicts or uncomfortable situations. By not expressing dissatisfaction, anger, or hurt, they believe they can maintain harmony in relationships and avoid confrontations. However, this approach often leads to unresolved issues and emotional buildup.
Perceived Lack of Emotional Skills
Individuals who grew up in environments where emotional expression was not modelled or encouraged may lack confidence in their ability to communicate feelings effectively. As a result, they may choose to hide their emotions rather than risk misunderstanding or misinterpretation.
While the desire for control through emotional concealment may seem protective, it often leads to increased stress, relationship problems, and diminished personal growth. Learning to express emotions in healthy ways can lead to more authentic connections and improved mental well-being.
How They Really Feel About You Tarot Spread
1. Their story – What they are telling you
2. What they are really thinking
3. How they feel about you deep down
4. How they are walking their talk
5. Outside influences on their walk
6. How they will be walking their talk within 6-8 weeks
So is there an alternative to ‘psychic spying’ when it comes to understanding persons who are not willing to open up in dialogue? Well, you can try giving the other person some space and ask them to let you know when they are ready to talk. In my own experience, if they have an established pattern of getting angry when asked to clarify something, that time will be ‘never.’ This is a big red flag that you could be dealing with someone with motives other than love.
If that is indeed the case, you are better off finding a more communicative partner. I know I have
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PS. If you feel you ‘have’ to use this spread time and time again, chances are, you are NOT with the right person. There IS a better way. Do the work on yourself until you are ready to not settle for less than the person who would be willing to ‘go there’ in dialogue about their feelings and the relationship dynamic you have.