Nearly 50% of couples reconcile after a break-up. So, will you reconcile with your ex, or is someone new coming into your life? In today’s pick-a-pile readings, we are looking at the possibility of an ex coming back into your life and whether or not reconciliation is the best option.
The third and final card reveals if someone new is about to show up on the horizon. Perhaps they are a better option than reboiling the proverbial kettle? The article below will walk you through the necessary steps for making a relationship work the second time around if reconciliation is indeed on the cards
- Jump to the Reconcile with Your Ex Pick-a-Pile Reading 1
- Jump to the Reconcile with Your Ex Pick-a-Pile Reading 2
- Jump to the Reconcile with Your Ex Pick-a-Pile Reading 3
We are working with the Waite-Smith Tarot deck for each of these three readings. As always with general readings for the collective, take only that which resonates. If you feel you need a more in-depth reading about a situation with an ex, you can book a reading HERE.
How to Make a Relationship Work After Reconciling with an Ex
Rekindling a relationship with an ex can be both exciting and challenging. When given a second chance, it’s crucial to approach the relationship with a fresh perspective and a commitment to growth. The first step is to acknowledge and address the past issues that led to the breakup.
As Gregory Cheney, PhD, a licensed marriage and family therapist, points out, “There is a temptation to sweep it under the rug, move on, and not talk about it. When this happens, past hurts tend to fester and surface again in the relationship”. Open and honest communication about past hurts, including any infidelity, is essential for fostering a closer connection and improving your ability to work through difficult topics.
Rebuilding the Foundation
Once you’ve addressed the past, focus on building a stronger foundation for your renewed relationship. This involves respecting each other’s perspectives and creating a safe space for both partners to express their feelings. As Cheney suggests, “Developing an others-awareness can be just as important as developing self-awareness. Everyone tends to experience the world through different lenses. Healthy relationships work to understand how their partner experiences the world”. Take time to reflect on what you’ve learned during your time apart and discuss how you can apply these lessons to create a healthier, more fulfilling partnership.
Remember, “Love is about giving each other a second chance and understanding that we are imperfect beings”.
How to Ensure the Relationship Thrives
To ensure your relationship thrives the second time around, it’s important to actively work on changing old patterns and habits. Create intentional time to connect with your partner, focusing on quality rather than quantity. A 2015 study found that the quality of time spent together is a main predictor of relationship satisfaction. Additionally, be patient with the process of rebuilding trust and intimacy. By approaching your reconciliation with patience, understanding, and a willingness to grow together, you can create a stronger, more resilient relationship.
Key points for making a relationship work the second time around:
- Acknowledge and address past issues openly
- Respect each other’s perspectives and feelings
- Focus on personal growth and self-reflection
- Create intentional, quality time together
- Change old patterns and habits
- Be patient with the process of rebuilding trust
- Maintain open and honest communication
- Commit to working through challenges together
Pile 1
1. The Possibility of Reconciliation – 8 of Swords
The 8 of Swords suggests that reconciliation with your ex is currently hindered by self-imposed limitations and fears. This card indicates that either you or your ex feels trapped in a mental prison, unable to move forward due to anxiety or negative thought patterns. There’s a sense of being stuck, with both parties possibly feeling unable to take the necessary steps towards reconciliation. However, it’s important to note that these barriers are largely self-created and can be overcome with effort and self-reflection.
2. The Value of Reconciliation (Should You Reconcile?) – 10 of Cups
The 10 of Cups is an extremely positive card in the context of reconciliation. It suggests that if you and your ex can overcome the mental barriers indicated by the 8 of Swords, there’s potential for a deeply fulfilling and harmonious relationship. This card represents emotional contentment, stable family life, and lasting happiness. It indicates that reconciliation could lead to a strong, committed partnership built on mutual understanding and shared values.
3. Chances of New Love Within the Next 12 Months – 9 of Swords
The 9 of Swords in this position suggests that the chances of new love within the next 12 months may be overshadowed by anxiety, worry, and negative thinking. This card often represents nightmares, insomnia, and deep-seated fears. In the context of new love, it indicates that you might be struggling with emotional baggage, past hurts, or fear of repeating past mistakes.
The appearance of the 9 of Swords suggests that before you can fully open yourself to new love, you may need to address these internal struggles.
It’s possible that unresolved issues from your past relationship are still affecting your emotional state and readiness for a new partnership. This card encourages you to confront your fears and anxieties head-on, possibly with the help of therapy or self-reflection exercises. New love is possible, provided you are willing to do the work.
Key Insights:
- Current obstacles to reconciliation are primarily mental and can be overcome.
- There’s significant potential for a fulfilling relationship if reconciliation occurs.
- Anxiety and negative thinking may be hindering your ability to open up to new love.
- Emotional healing and self-work are crucial before pursuing new relationships.
Remember, the Tarot provides guidance but doesn’t predict the future with certainty. Your actions, choices, and personal growth play crucial roles in shaping your relationships and future.
Pile 2
The Possibility of Reconciliation – Knight of Wands
The Knight of Wands in this position suggests that the possibility of reconciliation is marked by enthusiasm, passion, and a desire for action. This card represents a fiery, adventurous energy that could lead to a swift reunion. There’s a sense of excitement and spontaneity surrounding the idea of getting back together. However, the Knight of Wands can also indicate impulsiveness and a tendency to rush into things without careful consideration. While the energy for reconciliation is strong, it’s important to temper this enthusiasm with thoughtful planning and clear communication to ensure any reunion has a solid foundation.
2. The Value of Reconciliation (Should You Reconcile?) – 3 of Cups
The 3 of Cups is a positive card for reconciliation, representing celebration, friendship, and emotional fulfilment. In this position, it suggests that reconciling could bring joy, harmony, and a sense of coming together. This card often symbolises the reunion of people who care deeply for each other, indicating that there’s still a strong emotional connection between you and your ex.
The 3 of Cups also emphasises the importance of social support, suggesting that your reconciliation could be positively influenced by friends or loved ones who support your relationship.
However, it’s worth noting that while the 3 of Cups indicates a joyful reunion, it doesn’t necessarily guarantee long-term stability. Please make sure to see a relationship counsellor if the break-up was caused by cheating.
3. Chances of New Love Within the Next 12 Months – 9 of Pentacles
The 9 of Pentacles in this position can be a positive sign for new love prospects within the next year. This card represents independence, self-sufficiency, and personal accomplishment. In the context of relationships, it suggests that you are in an excellent position to attract new love because you’ve cultivated a strong sense of self-worth and personal stability.
The 9 of Pentacles indicates that you’ve likely done significant work on yourself, creating a life of comfort and self-reliance. This personal growth and independence make you very attractive to potential partners. The card suggests that any new love that enters your life in the coming months is likely to be of high quality, as you’re now in a position to attract someone who appreciates and complements your accomplished nature.
However, the 9 of Pentacles also reminds you not to compromise your independence or personal achievements for a new relationship. Any new love should add to your life without requiring you to sacrifice the personal growth you’ve achieved.
Key Insights:
- There’s passionate energy for reconciliation, but it needs to be balanced with careful consideration.
- Reconciling could bring joy and celebration, but ensure it’s built on a solid foundation.
- Your chances for new love are strong, thanks to your personal growth and independence.
- Any new relationship should complement your life without requiring you to sacrifice your achievements.
- Whether reconciling or seeking new love, maintain your sense of self-worth and independence.
Remember, while the Tarot can offer guidance, it doesn’t determine your future. Your personal choices, actions, and growth will ultimately shape your relationship outcomes.
Pile 3
1. The Possibility of Reconciliation – Page of Swords
The Page of Swords in this position suggests that the possibility of reconciliation is characterised by curiosity, mental energy, and a desire for clear communication. This card often represents new ideas, intellectual pursuits, and a thirst for knowledge. In the context of reconciliation, it indicates that there may be a fresh perspective or a new approach to addressing past issues. There’s a sense of eagerness to understand and analyse the situation, which could lead to productive conversations about reconciling.
However, the Page of Swords can also indicate immaturity or inexperience in handling complex emotional situations. There might be a tendency to approach the reconciliation process with more logic than emotion, which could be both a strength and a weakness. While clear communication is crucial, it’s important to balance intellectual understanding with emotional sensitivity.
2. The Value of Reconciliation (Should You Reconcile?) – 7 of Pentacles
The 7 of Pentacles in this position suggests that reconciliation requires careful evaluation and patience. This card represents a period of assessment, where you’re considering the long-term value and potential of your relationship. It’s a reminder that building a strong, lasting relationship takes time and effort, much like tending to a garden.
The 7 of Pentacles encourages you to reflect on the work you’ve both put into the relationship so far and to consider whether it’s worth continuing to invest your time and energy. It’s a card of pause and reflection, asking you to weigh the pros and cons of reconciliation carefully. While there’s potential for growth and reward, it may take time to see the fruits of your labour.
This card doesn’t give a clear “yes” or “no” to reconciliation, but rather suggests that if you do choose to reconcile, it should be with a long-term perspective and a willingness to put in consistent effort over time.
3. Chances of New Love Within the Next 12 Months – The Empress
The Empress is a very positive card for new love prospects within the next year. This card represents fertility, nurturing, abundance, and the blossoming of new beginnings. In the context of relationships, The Empress suggests that you’re entering a period of emotional richness and growth that could very well attract new love into your life.
The Empress embodies feminine energy, sensuality, and creativity. Her appearance in this position indicates that you may be radiating a warm, nurturing energy that others find attractive. This card suggests that any new love entering your life is likely to be nurturing, supportive, and potentially deeply fulfilling.
Moreover, The Empress often signifies a time of personal growth and self-love. This internal work can make you more open and ready for a healthy, loving relationship. The card encourages you to embrace your own nurturing qualities and to cultivate self-care, as these attributes will not only enhance your own life but also attract positive relationships.
Key Insights:
- There’s potential for reconciliation, but it requires clear communication and a fresh perspective.
- Careful evaluation and patience are needed when considering reconciliation. It’s a long-term investment.
- Your chances for new love are very positive, with potential for a nurturing and fulfilling relationship.
- Focus on personal growth and self-love, as these will attract positive relationships.
- Whether reconciling or seeking new love, embrace your nurturing qualities and maintain emotional openness.
Remember, while the Tarot can provide guidance and insight, it doesn’t predict the future with certainty. Your personal choices, actions, and growth will ultimately shape your relationship outcomes.
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