The Magician as Feelings can be summed up as focused intention, mental clarity, and the power to manifest connection. As the principle of effortless focus described by Valentin Tomberg in his Meditations on the Tarot, The Magician channels willpower into creation. When it comes to love, this card shows up when someone is deliberately aligning their thoughts, emotions, and actions toward a romantic goal—or at the very least, they’re acutely aware of your energy and what they want to do with it.
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Corresponding with Mercury and ruled by Archangel Raphael, The Magician embodies conscious communication, charisma, and a sense of divine timing. In relationships, it suggests the potential for something magical — if we stay present, intentional, and connected to our higher purpose.
The Magician as Feelings of a Love Interest (Upright)
When upright, The Magician as someone’s feelings toward you signals powerful attraction, conscious intent, and focus. This person is not only interested — they’re thinking strategically about how to connect with you. Whether or not they’re taking action yet, their emotions are dialled in and driven by a desire to make something happen.
From the POV of Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love, The Magician can represent a strong foundation of intimacy + passion, even if commitment hasn’t solidified. Looking at Lee’s Styles of Loving, this may align with Eros—a love style focused on beauty, connection, and idealisation.
Key traits when upright:
- Aware of their attraction and willing to act on it
- Likely to initiate communication and physical closeness
- May see you as a key figure in their growth or spiritual journey
They may be calculating the “costs vs benefits” of being with you. It’s not cold-hearted—they’re just aware that timing, values, and personal development matter.
The World as Feelings – Reversed or Ill-dignified
When reversed or poorly aspected (e.g. The Magician + The Devil or the 4 of Pentacles), The Magician’s dazzling charm can turn into manipulation, indecision, or performance. Feelings may still be present, but they’re muddled or misdirected — possibly withheld, distorted, or used to gain control.
This person may be engaging in emotional misdirection or simply not telling the whole truth. They may feel the relationship is unbalanced, but are unwilling or unsure how to address it.
Common reversed traits:
- Playing games or hiding intentions
- Overthinking without taking action
- Insecurity masked by charm or aloofness
Emotionally, this person could feel stuck in a self-serving loop, using their mental powers to protect themselves rather than connect.
The Magician When You Are Single and Looking
If you’re single, The Magician says: your mindset and words are your wand. Love is ready to be conjured — but only if your energy is in alignment with your intentions.
Use this time to:
- Clarify what you really want
- Speak it aloud with conviction
- Take small, bold steps to connect
Rusbult’s Investment Model is helpful here: reflect on what you’re willing to invest emotionally, and whether your current beliefs support long-term satisfaction.
The Magician As Your Attachment Style
With The Magician representing your style, you’re the initiator—communicative, curious, and skilled at reading energy. You may lean toward secure or anxious-preoccupied, depending on whether you feel your intentions are reciprocated.
You’re likely to:
- Be quick to text, suggest meetups, or offer help
- Use humour, wit, or conversation to stay emotionally connected
- Crave honesty and mental chemistry above all
Be mindful of not trying to “fix” the relationship or outthink feelings.
The Magician As the Attachment Style of Your Love Interest
This person likely displays a secure or dismissive-avoidant attachment style. They’re confident when they’re in control, but can pull back if things get too emotional or unpredictable.
They may:
- Rely on logic before opening their heart
- Express affection through action or cleverness
- Struggle with vulnerability if they weren’t taught it was safe
Communication is everything with a Magician-type. They are quick to dazzle their love interest with words, but let them show you how they really feel through what they do.
The Magician As the Energetic Connection
This card often signals a past-life connection or soul contract. There’s a sense of “I’ve known you forever” The connection feels electric, dynamic, and full of potential — but it can also be highly cerebral. There’s mutual fascination, perhaps even a telepathic link. You may both be skilled manifestors or spiritual seekers.
This is the kind of bond that can grow fast—or burn out if not grounded.
Lee’s Style: Ludus (playful love) might surface here in the early stages, especially if there’s flirting or seduction.
The Magician As the Potential Outcome
The Magician as outcome suggests you have all the tools to create a thriving relationship—if you both stay honest, proactive, and aligned.
There is incredible potential for:
- Conscious co-creation
- Healing through shared experiences
- Strong mental, physical, and spiritual chemistry
Archangel Raphael’s influence suggests this connection could also catalyse healing and mutual transformation.
The Magician in a Relationship Breakdown
In the breakdown phase (as per Duck’s Model), The Magician represents the personal reflection stage. One or both partners begin questioning the dynamic, often focusing on communication gaps, unmet expectations, or emotional games.
This card can suggest:
- Someone is trying to control the narrative
- Truths are being distorted
- One party may be thinking of reconciling—but only if mutual respect and clarity are re-established
In some cases, it means the relationship was more illusion than reality. But it always offers the chance to learn and re-empower oneself.
Angelic Love Tarot Ritual: Aligned Action with Archangel Raphael
Purpose: To create harmony and inspired action in a romantic connection
You will need:
- The Magician card
- One green candle (tea light is fine)
- A quiet space for 10–15 minutes
Ritual:
- Place The Magician card before you. Light the candle and sit in silence for a minute.
- Focus on a clear intention (e.g. “I desire open, loving communication with X”).
- Say:
“Archangel Raphael, Divine Healer, help me speak and act from my heart with grace and clarity. Clear away confusion, and inspire truth between us. Make our connection one of spiritually aligned co-creation. So mote it be.”
- Visualise The Magician’s tools glowing in harmony. Imagine this light flowing into your heart and outward toward your love interest.
Let the candle burn down safely, or snuff it while keeping the energy anchored in your heart.
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Karmic Relationship Tarot Spread for Aligned Love
Some relationships carry a gravity that feels destined, as if you’ve known the other person for lifetimes. These deep, soul-level connections can be healing, transformative… and sometimes devastating.
This Tarot spread can help you explore the energetic dynamics of a karmic relationship. You’ll journey through the heart of your connection, identify soul lessons, and discover what must be healed or released. Use this spread to gain clarity, closure, or renewed understanding—whatever your soul needs most.
- What type of soul contract do I have with this person?
- What lesson am I meant to learn through them?
- How can I integrate this lesson?
- What past or past-life experience brought us here?
- What is the next phase of our relationship journey?
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