Looking for ‘The One’ online can be a bit like looking for a needle in a haystack. And I speak from experience when I tell you to expect the unexpected on those nerve-wracking first dates. It’s some of those dates that were filled with less than pleasant surprises that led to the creation of the Internet Dating Vetting Tarot Spread.
Forewarned is forearmed, right? Will he be late or maybe a no-show? Will he turn out to be a couple of inches shorter than stated in the profile? Does he have personal hygiene issues? Is he older than declared? Is he out to get a leg over while the missus watches the kids at home even though he stated he was single on the profile?
Internet Dating sites are shark-infested waters and you need to have your wits about you. The good news is… the cards can help! I have created an Internet Dating Vetting Spread to help you discern their true intentions.
The Spread
1. His/her intentions
Shows you why this person is dating.
It can show if they are ready for a new relationship and if their intentions are honourable.
2.What attracts him/her to me
Shows why the other person feels drawn to you based on your dating website profile.
3. The Date
Indicates how the date will turn out
4. Higher reason/karmic link
Shows the spiritual reason for why you are attracted through the ether, or what you could learn from this. It might also show if there is a karmic/past life link with this person. Look out for the 6 of Cups or Majors in this position as a clue to whether or not you have a past life connection, and what the nature of your connection was.
5. Hopes and fears
Shows possible hopes or fears the other person might have concerning the date.
6. Advice
This card shows you what to be mindful of and/or what the best approach would be on the date.
SAMPLE READING
I used the Tarot of Sexual Magic for the reading below:
1. His/her intentions
Shows you why this person is dating.
The 6 of Pentacles here shows me that he is looking for fairness in a relationship. Essentially he sees himself as a good guy who has been treated unfairly in the past.
2.What attracts him/her to me
Shows why the other person feels drawn to you based on your dating website profile.
The Knight of Pentacles here shows me that it’s purely raw physical attraction. He found my picture, liked it and sent a message. There may or may not be a spark in real life – only going there will tell.
This card shows me that he is not really concerned with the intellectual, emotional or spiritual connection. It doesn’t mean that they won’t be there at all – they’re just not his primary concern. A small but highly visible red flag has appeared in my mind.
3. The Date
Indicates how the date will turn out.
Uh oh. The 5 of Swords here is not a good sign. Should I or shouldn’t I? Definitely not having any expectations whatsoever after seeing this card.
One indication could be that we both spend all night talking about our ex’s as the 5 of Swords deals with cutting losses. Then again, a bit of talk therapy might just be what the doctored ordered in spite of how it’s considered bad dating etiquette to bring up your ex.
So what if there is no second date, right?
4. Higher reason/karmic link
Shows the spiritual reason for why you are attracted through the ether, or what you could learn from this.
With The World in this position, I feel that it might be worth going in spite of the 5 of Swords signifying the actual date. It might be a step in the right direction of finally firmly shutting the door to the past and bringing new energy in.
5. Hopes and fears
Shows possible hopes or fears the other person might have concerning the date.
He’s definitely hoping for a good night kiss at the very least with the 3 of Wands here. He’s also hoping for a good time in general and I suspect he’s pretty good at making lemonade out of life’s lemons.
6. Advice
This card shows you what to be mindful of and/or what the best approach would be on the date.
The 10 of Cups here could be a heads up to be mindful of personal boundaries as the Mars in Pisces energy of this card is pretty good at merging mindlessly with others. On the other hand, it could also mean that it is OK to keep my heart open and show compassion while being mindful of my personal boundaries as Pisces is all about compassion and helping others.
It may not be about what I can get out of it but what I’m prepared to give from a spiritual perspective.
Blessings
Lisa Frideborg
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1. King of cups
2. Four of cups
3. Ten of pentacles
4. Death
5. Five of swords
6. Knight of swords
I would like to know the meaning of my spread please thanks.
Author
Hi Kizzy, please provide your own interpretation first and then ask specific questions on cards you got stuck on. Cheers, Lisa
Thank you, Lisa. My heart was actually telling me ‘no’ which is why I declined it. It was way too soon for me when he asked and I needed to get to know him a little before hand (Take it slow). We actually have things in common, however, he’s dealing with a divorce at the moment. That again was another reason why I declined. Nonetheless, after declining and getting to know the guy, we eventually want to meet in the near future. So I did a reading on in it. You know, you always want to make sure someone’s intentions are pure. And you definitely don’t want to give away your time if their intentions aren’t pure.
Hi Lisa, I did this reading on a guy I met off Tinder who I have not met in person. However, he did make an offer out but I kindly declined it. After declining it, I wanted to know will it be worth us meeting in person and I received these cards. I will appreciate your help, thank you!!
1. His/her intentions – The Star
He’s just looking to make a friend, he doesn’t have any real expectations. I’ll say his intentions are pure.
2.What attracts him/her to me – Ace of Swords
Hmmm, he actually didn’t read my profile until a few messages after. So maybe he glanced at my picture, swiped right and sent a message.
3. The Date – 6 of Pentacles
I’m unsure of how the 6 of pentacles will fit in as the date. Will appreciate help on this one.
4. Higher reason/karmic link – The Hierophant
To be a teacher or give support?
5. Hopes and fears – Knight of Swords
Another one I’m unsure of. Any help will be highly appreciated.
6. Advice – Ace of Cups
To keep an open heart and mind while being mindful of not over sharing?
Author
Next time, maybe read on it before you decline…? The 6 of Pentacles could be an exchange of gifts… You paying for coffee and he picking up some popcorn later… That sort of thing. Pentacles are about matter/the physical realm and the 6 of Pentacles is about giving and receiving. The Hierophant is about your most deeply held values… You will have a chance to get a firmer fix on what they are through this connection. The Knight of Swords… Well, what DO you fear and how does that fit with this highly idealistic but often emotionally aloof guy? He’s a got fit with The Star as he his the Aquarius Knight. Maybe you’re afraid there is no real intimacy on promise here…? Ace of Cups – Hahaha, this is making me smile 🙂 Next time someone asks, say yes if your heart tells you to… Don’t mess them about with a ‘no’ and then go read on it 😛
Wow, most of my favorite cards ( Ace cups, 10 cups and The Star) appeared in this reading.
I’ve high hopes for this date !
Author
Cool. Stay grounded and get to know the guy. The worst thing we can do is go in with the exepectation that it is a done deal and act as if we are not even curious about them 🙂
Thank you. Will do. Have the Hierophant for the actual date. Will drop back here and let you know.
Cool spread, l’ll bookmark this one for the future 🙂
It looks like an interesting spread. I will give it a try and let you know. Thanks for sharing it.
You’re welcome, Anna! I would love to hear how you get on with it 🙂
Lisa, this was very interesting to read, as we have just had a very close friend totally gutted from her first ever internet type date/meetup. The lady has just gotten over a messy/ugly divorce.
She was a couple of years down the track & was talked into giving it a go by her friends at work, she felt she was ready to meet someone as a friend to start with/my wife who is the best psychic I know saw warning bells & warned her,they are friends from childhood. Not about meeting people this way/rather about how she felt about him. She is also a brilliant tarot reader,though she does not own any decks, she just asked me for one of mine/did a reading and said “just what I felt”
anyway they went out twice, said he was single(divorced/finacially secure lalalalala etc)
She felt really good that another man found her interesting & attractive.
He phoned her Monday morning last week and said I’m getting back with my wife who I never left, just thought I’d let you know. He did this early in the morning when she was on the way to work.
This has not got much to do with yor spread you created, so if you don’t post it I will be in no way offended, it’s just so fresh in my mind from some of the things i have been doing in the last week or so…shark infested waters indeed. I am not against it/though lots of people i read for have bought up the very issue you have discussed here.
Hi Jim, Thank you for commenting. I’m so sorry to hear about what your friend went through. I wanted to offer this type of guidance based on my own experience, both with Internet dating and working with the Tarot. Unfortunately, married men (and women) who claim to be single while in a relationship or even married exist offline as well… It’s just easier to tell those initial lies when you don’t see someone face to face. This is why we need a tool like the tarot. Usually, all it does is confirm what our gut is telling us.