3 Reasons We Must Allow Death to be About Death

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It was only when I started doing my research for the talk I’m doing at this years UK Tarot Conference that I realised how brainwashed I had been. Like so many other Tarot readers, I had been guilty of quickly reassuring clients that the Death card never means actual physical death but instead represents change and transformation through various lessons in life.

The reason for my take on the Tarot Death card was, of course, the fact that I bought into society’s repressed collective values which generate such a massive Shadow (in the Jungian sense) when it comes to owning our mortality. It’s very easy to buy into something that we on some level wish to repress as individuals. This is how despots and religious leaders successfully manipulate the masses by pressing the hidden fear button.

In the Death card of any tradition (Thoth, Waite or Marseille), we have a clear visual representation of a grim reaper type being, which screams ‘DEATH’ and which is probably the reason there was no need to name the 13th arcanum in medieval times. Words (what we spell) have power and there was no need to invite more of the same… Death was everywhere thanks to the plague and the high infant mortality rate, so hiding death wouldn’t have been possible.

Now that we are much better able to hide death, what has happened in our modern, superficial, media-driven society is that our refusal to talk about our mortality has generated a Shadow expression of ‘spookiness’ when it comes to the Tarot. Any time the Tarot is featured in a film, you can count on seeing Death, The Tower, The Devil and/or The Hanged Man… but especially Death. Sometimes it is featured in comedy too and then always in the sense of someone actually about to bite the dust.

Because, let’s face it. We may be in denial but we are not stupid.

Death means death.

This weekend, I did my Jikiden Reiki Okuden training. One of my course mates asked me what I do for a living. When I told her I was a Tarot reader, she immediately asked if I contact the spirits of the dead too. I said, ‘No, that doesn’t really interest me, since I like to use the Tarot cards proactively in the now,’ She said, ‘Well, I prefer the Angel Cards – the Tarot crosses over to the dark side, doesn’t it?’ I said, ‘No, that’s bollocks; the Tarot covers all of life’s lessons. Any spookiness associated with the Tarot is only because of how it’s commonly portrayed in media.’ She instantly got the reference and said, ‘Oh, I know the Death card isn’t about Death – it’s about change,’ looking very proud of herself for remembering what she might have been told by a Tarot reader or read in some New Age magazine. I looked at her and said ‘And sometimes it is about death. Should we fear death?’ She had a bit of a light bulb moment…  ‘No, you’re right. And I actually don’t any more,’ she said.

Three Reasons We Need to Reclaim XIII Death for The End of Life

XIII Death Waite Smith Tarot* In an age when spirituality has become almost synonymous with being in denial about any of life’s harsher lessons, we need to allow the Death card to whisper to us about our mortality more than ever. Or we do if we wish to avoid a perpetual state of denial.

* Because thanatos and eros (our two strongest drives) are both represented in the Scorpio energy Death card (there can be no birth without death), we become lopsided and unable to move forward if we embrace one and not the other. Think of these two drives as two propeller blades on the same propeller. If we move forward with only one blade operational, we become like the Priest who speaks to others of the need for salvation but who cannot save himself, so that when Death comes knocking he pleads for more time. Or we become like the King who refuses to part with temporal power and whose last vision as he draws his final breath is of the crown falling to the ground.

Refusing to deal with what is inevitable does not make it go away.

* Embracing our mortality, contemplating it and preparing for our earth life ending frees us from hidden fears ruling our lives and allows us to live life to the full. Wise men and women from many spiritual paths have been aware of this and tried to teach mankind about the importance of being mindful of our mortality. Only when we own our mortality fully, can we die without regret.

The young child who seems nonplussed by Death’s presence is fully in the now. She has no regrets and no expectations. We cannot remain in a state of childlike innocence through life (as the Major Arcana shows us) but must progress and yet, in the Sun card, the fully individuated human has returned to a state of childlike grace and innocence because she is not in denial of any aspect of the self but has chosen to love them all.

If we allow Death to address issues around our mortality we can perhaps hear this arcanum whisper… ‘Do you know how to die well?’ To die well means to do without regret and to die without regret means living life to the full.

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