Learning to trust again after you have suffered deep betrayal or cheating in love can be very tricky. One reason for this is the feeling of confusion after you find out that what you thought was real was a complete and utter sham – counterfeit love… You dreamed of True Love, got too close to the sun… You crashed and now you’re wondering if your wings will ever grow back out again. The fear of experiencing this kind of pain again could make it tempting for you to isolate yourself.
There is a way to start trusting again but the truth is that love will never be a risk-free venture. The best you can do is take your time in getting to know someone new before you go giving your heart away. In fact, make sure you know all of his friends and his family too! Leave no stone unturned to make sure he is worthy of your affection. In the end you will have to take a leap of faith but it’s up to you how big a leap. Do you really need to attempt the Grand Canyon and possibly end up with someone who was after your bank account, your daughter or a Visa from your country of birth?
Other than taking it slow, you need to surround yourself with loving people as well as think only the most positive and loving thoughts you can, both about yourself and about love relationships. This ensures that you grow better and not bitter.
Let’s ask the Angels of Love for a wee bit of help with this. There is this beautiful, positive and gentle Love Oracle called Whispers of Love. The deck itself inspired this spread and you can use the 5 card Oracle Spread on its own or combine it with the Tarot which I have chosen to do below.
The Whispers of Love Cross
1. Central card. New love theme for you to contemplate. This ties in with what awaits around the corner.
2. East/Air (right) Bear this in mind. This is the most important thing for you to be mindful of in relationship choices/problem solving you might face right now. Make a positive affirmation of this card’s theme and repeat it to yourself often.
3. South/Fire (bottom) Be courageous in this way. This will take you outside your comfort zone.
4. West/Water (left) Have faith/rejoice in this. This adds a feel-good factor. Remind yourself often to think/do this!
5. North/Earth (top) You can manifest this. This is something you will soon be able to manifest for yourself in physical reality if you keep visualising it.
LEARNING TO TRUST AGAIN SAMPLE READING
1. Central card: Romance + 2 of Wands. A new relationship with lots of spark is waiting just around the corner. The 2 of Wands carries a warning that there may be a temptation to dive head in first again. Nice and steady does it!
2. East: Like Attracts Like + Knight of Cups. If you truly wish a deep and heartfelt romantic connection, be more like the Knight of Cups!
3. South: Choose Love + 4 of Pentacles. Find a healthy balance between expressing love and keeping your boundaries intact. Don’t let fear hold you back but only push past your comfort zone in the name of self-love.
4. West: Love Endures + 3 of Pentacles. Partners who work together stay together. What would being together with a lover who works toward the same goals as you feel like? Capture the joyful essence of this feeling in your heart and let inspire future choices.
5. North: True Love + 3 of Cups. You will very soon be able to manifest a celebration of true love.
Blessed be!
Lisa
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This reading was what I needed. I’ve been putting off on doing it for months up until now. The cards I pulled were interesting. Anyway, I got stucked numbers 1 and 4 and will appreciate your help. Karma of some sort?
1. Central card. New love theme for you to contemplate. This ties in with what awaits around the corner.
Back to what you Love + Justice
2. East/Air (right) Bear this in mind. This is the most important thing for you to be mindful of in relationship choices/problem solving you might face right now. Make a positive affirmation of this cardβs theme and repeat it to yourself often.
Love Is All Around You + Knight of Swords
I need to put myself out there and drop my guard.
3. South/Fire (bottom) Be courageous in this way. This will take you outside your comfort zone.
Spiritual Connection + Two of Cups
Make an effort to connect.
4. West/Water (left) Have faith/rejoice in this. This adds a feel-good factor. Remind yourself often to think/do this!
The Only Thing That Is Real Is Love + Page of Cups
5. North/Earth (top) You can manifest this. This is something you will soon be able to manifest for yourself in physical reality if you keep visualizing it.
Get to Know Each Other + The Lovers
A new lover, or a re-bonding of an old relationship.
I’d say Justice + Page of Cups is a sign of falling in love with someone you might end up marrying – especially with The Lovers as something you can manifest.
Falling in love and maybe marriage???? Ah, I’ll take that!! βΊοΈ One more question. Is the Knight of Swords telling me to drop my guard, open up and to put myself out there?
In light of the position the Knight of Swords it is in, I would say the challenge lies in speaking only words that help you stay true to yourself, i.e. not adapting what you say to please the other person. Move forward with integrity to attract the right one. All the Knights are on a Quest – This Knight quests for the truth.
I’ll take that as advice. Thank you!!
Loved the article, I’ll try this one day, but I don’t have this cards :(, they are beautiful. Thank you!
Hi Lisa π
I have got king of pentacles for central card and king of Wands for north. I find it kind of conflict between this two card or I should say I don’t quite get it.. would you mind to explain me a little?
Love
Vienne π
Why do you feel these two cards are in conflict, Vienne? What basic meanings are you applying? Do you mainly read the courtiers as people?
Hi Lisa π
Thanks for your reply! Yeah I guess normally I used to read courtiers as people so it’s a little hard for me to understand it as a whole or a situation.. as I know king of pentacles and king of wands are completely two types of person.. since central card is the new love theme and north is what I can manifest, so I find my cards a little conflicting here ><
Love
Vienne
Well, I suggest reading them as qualities within yourself for the purpose of this spread. But this really is a deck-specific spread and you’re meant to interpret the Tarot cards together with the oracle cards. The whole purpose of the spread is to feel supported in the process of learning to trust again and that is why I chose to work with the gentle energy of the Whispers of Love Oracle.
Thanks for your explanation π
Thanks. I only have the Romance Angels Oracle and the Goddess Oracle at the moment; should probably expand.
I do recommend this particular deck if you want one that is completely gentle and supportive.
I tried this one, and everything felt so spot on, and then I got Hanged Man/Unrequited Love as what I can manifest . . . Feel like I’m fighting a losing battle here.
I recommend working with the other insights you gained in the spread and trying again in a week or so. What you think today, you live tomorrow. The Tarot only holds up the mirror. Blessings
PS. Also, this IS a deck-specific spread. There are too many harsh cards in the Romance Angels Oracle if that is the one you chose to use, Manda.