The Emotional Compatibility Tarot Spread

emotional compatibility tarot spread

What is emotional compatibility? The first answer that springs to mind is that it is something very subjective because the truth is that a couple with widely differing interests and personalities can be compatible if they are emotionally intelligent, compassionate and understanding of the needs of the other person.

“I don’t care how intelligent or attractive someone is, if he zaps your energy, he isn’t for you. True chemistry is more than intellectual compatibility. Beyond surfaces, you must be intuitively at ease.”
― Judith Orloff

We all have a set of core needs that have to be met but they don’t necessarily have to be met by our partners. For instance, if you are sensitive and your partner has difficulty understanding this but meets many of your other needs, you may still find enough compatibility provided this need of yours is met by understanding and sensitive friends.

Looking more closely at emotional compatibility we need to consider the general temperament and personality of both people as well as how they react in conflict/under pressure. It is possible to create an emotional connection between two people with contrasting conflict styles. However, having contrasting conflict styles that lead to one or both people feeling lonely or isolated erodes the emotional connection quite quickly.

Assertive, yet willing to compromise

Two people who are both quite argumentative and like to hash it out may be more compatible than a couple consisting of one person who fights passionately Mediterranean style and another person who likes to stick their head in the sand. Two people who go into conflict avoidance mode may also be compatible provided they understand the dynamic they create and find a way of breaking the ice after each round of arguments. The best conflict style is, of course, for both to assert their needs yet at the same time be willing to compromise.

The Emotional Compatibility Tarot Spread

Because I like to use the Tarot in as constructive a way as possible, the Emotional Compatibility Tarot Spread I created focuses on the things you can do to create a stronger emotional connection.

emotional compatibility tarot spread

1. The Current State of Your Emotional Connection
2. The Main Challenge (Cups show that it is mainly emotional, Swords indicate communication and conflict resolution, Wands indicate life goals being an issue and Pentacles show that health/finance influence the emotional connection – Majors indicate that a spiritual lesson needs to be learned)
3. The Most Pressing Need of Person One
4. The Most Pressing Need of Person Two
5. How Person One Can Best Support Person Two (express affection differently, do something recreational together, goal support etc)
6. How Person Two Can Best Support Person One
7. What Person One Needs to Understand about How Their Conflict Resolution Style Affects Person Number Two
8. What Person Two Needs to Understand about How Their Conflict Resolution Style Affects Person Number One

It is best if you do this reading together with your partner. The whole point of this spread is to increase compassion and understanding in both parties.

A word of caution: If you are in an emotionally abusive relationship (i.e. your partner uses words and actions to control, intimidate and belittle you), please understand that throwing cards at it is not what you need. You need to leave and seek help.

Check out the Angelorum Love and Relationship Tarot Spreads!

love raven liora

Comments 2

  1. Good morning lovely Lisa 🙂
    Enjoyed your article and the tarot layout; will definitely try this the next time hubby and I hit a “bump” in our forever after. I just want to say how much I appreciate your wise words pertaining to emotionally abusive relationships…my first relationship was both physically and emotionally abusive and I can state from personal experience how important it is to cut those ties asap and save one’s self (body/heart/soul).
    Many blessings to you and may the weekend be a warm and lovely one ~*~

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