Top 5 Worst and Best Questions to Ask of the Tarot

best and worst questions to ask of the tarot


1. What will my love life bring me in the future?

Your love life cannot exist without your own thoughts and actions, so it will bring what you desire and put into motion. Set the intention to be the best possible match for the type of partner you wish to manifest instead.

2. Will I ever find love?

See comment under question 1. Also, ‘ever’ is a very long time. Better to set a time frame for the reading.

3. When will I meet my soul mate?

Are you sure it’s a soul mate you want to meet or that you are meant to hook up with one for romance? Your grandfather may be the only soul group companion you were meant to cross paths with in this incarnation. Anyway, it might be better to start with a clean slate and zero karmic baggage. When you are soul mates there is a past life connection and that usually means karma.

4. Will I ever feel better?

I get this one quite a lot. Not if you ask this question of the Tarot and hope THAT will make you feel better. Ask ‘How can I start feeling better?’ – The faith that you can actually feel better is something you have to muster from within and that is the first step before you read on it.

5. Will I have problems in the future?

Seriously? This is planet Earth – welcome to Problem Resolution High. The good news is: You can choose to see the problems as growth-promoting challenges instead!


There are literally thousands of questions you can ask that will work really well for a Tarot reading. The main thing to bear in mind is that the question itself has the power to move you forward (or keep you stuck) and you really want to try to harness this power before you lay the cards out for a reading. Any question that helps you make focused and proactive choices to reach your goals is fabulous.

1. FOR SINGLES SEEKING TO MANIFEST A RELATIONSHIPHow am I blocking love in my life right now and what can I do to release this block?

This is SO much better in terms of helping you manifest your desire than asking ‘When will I meet Mr Right?’ which is passive and mainly keeps you stuck in old patterns of relating. Yes, you may still meet someone but it will be another Mr Wrong. Guaranteed.

2. FOR ANY RELATIONSHIP (old or new) – What is my partner mirroring back at me that I’m not wanting to own? (I.e. what am I projecting here?)

This is looking at relationships from the point of learning rather than ‘getting.’ It could be either a Shadow aspect (negative) or Golden Shadow (positive) that you project for fear of owning your own power.

3. FOR A NEW RELATIONSHIPOn this new journey, what is the first relationship lesson we will encounter and how can I best equip myself to deal with it?

What do you think would happen if we all asked this rather than ‘Will he love me forever and be the father of my babies?’

4. FOR AN ONGOING LONG-TERM RELATIONSHIPHow can I help get the fun and excitement back into this relationship?

This immediately shifts the focus away from what we may perceive the other person is doing wrong. (Let’s face it the ‘blame game’ gets old quite quickly!)

5. FOR ENDING A RELATIONSHIPHow can I complete this journey in the most healing and loving way possible?

Again, is there really a need for blame? Relationships end for all sorts of reasons. It’s not the end of love and it need not even be the end of friendship if we allow our Higher Selves to take the driver’s seat rather than the ego.


1. What aspect of self that represents a challenge/brings a lesson is hidden from view right now? (This really is the forte of the Tarot and the deeper your understanding of the cards, the more you will get from asking this)

2. What are my main strengths/weaknesses? (Self-explanatory and obviously followed by ‘How can I harness my strengths?’ and ‘How can I overcome my weaknesses?’)

3. What is the state of my chakras? (Gives an energetic overview of the body and because major life lessons resonate at different chakra levels, this will show you where in life you are struggling /doing well too)

4. What is blocking love from flowing freely (giving/receiving)

5. How can I best use my gifts to serve others?

The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.
~ Mahatma Gandhi


Comments 5

  1. Cringe! have to admit I’m guilty of asking the first question. Reading this article shows clearly how the alternative questions you’ve suggested would ultimately give a much more constructive and empowering message from tarot. Good food for thought, thanks Lisa!

    1. lol Laura, don’t be so hard on yourself… we all do it from time to time. But yes, other ways of asking about love can be so much more empowering and useful in terms of helping us manifest what we desire 🙂

  2. I’m still learning with regards to tarot buy this has been helpful for me to know! I have trouble knowing what and how to ask a question and often get a bit tongue tied. Thanks! <3

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