9 of Wands As Feelings (with a Ritual + Love Tarot Spread) ⋆ Angelorum Tarot

The 9 of Wands (Moon in Sagittarius) symbolises resilience, perseverance, and inner strength in the face of challenges. This card often appears when one has been through difficult times but is still standing strong, ready to face whatever comes next. In relationships, the 9 of Wands has several different meanings, reflecting different aspects of love, commitment, and personal boundaries. The corresponding Archangel for the Suit of Wands (Fire) is Archangel Michael.

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9 of Wands as Feelings of a Love Interest (Upright)

When the 9 of Wands appears upright in a love reading, it suggests that your love interest has been through some tough experiences in the past but remains resilient and cautiously optimistic about love. They may be feeling:

Guarded and protective of their emotions
Determined to see things through despite past hurts
Cautiously hopeful about the potential of a new love relationship
Ready to face challenges together

Your love interest may be weighing their past investments in love relationships against the potential rewards of opening up to you.

9 of Wands as Feelings when Reversed or Ill-dignified

When reversed or ill-dignified, the 9 of Wands can indicate that your love interest is struggling with unresolved issues from past relationships. Because they have not yet integrated past lessons and healed fully, their energy is likely to feel ‘prickly’ like the thistles in the image above. Their communication could be patchy or full of contradictory statements. They might be:

Overwhelmed by past traumas and unable to move forward
Exhausted from emotional battles and considering giving up
Stubbornly holding onto negative beliefs about relationships
Struggling to maintain healthy boundaries

This state reflects the challenges described in Duck’s Phase Model of Relationship Breakdown, where unresolved issues can lead to a deterioration of the relationship if not addressed.

The 9 of Wands When You Are Single and Looking

For those who are single, the 9 of Wands suggests that you may be feeling battle-worn from previous relationships but are still open to love. It encourages you to:

Learn from past experiences without letting them dictate your future
Maintain healthy boundaries while remaining open to new connections
Trust your instincts and inner strength when meeting new potential partners

The 9 of Wands As Your Attachment Style in the Relationship

The 9 of Wands can represent an anxious-preoccupied attachment style. You may:

Be hyper-vigilant about potential threats to the relationship
Have a strong desire for closeness while fearing abandonment
Struggle with trust issues due to past experiences

Understanding your attachment style can help you work towards a more secure attachment.

The 9 of Wands As the Attachment Style of Your Love Interest

If this card represents your partner’s attachment style, they may exhibit:

A tendency to put up emotional walls for self-protection
Difficulty fully opening up due to fear of getting hurt
A need for reassurance and patience in the relationship

The 9 of Wands As the Energetic Connection

In terms of the energetic connection between you and your significant other, the 9 of Wands (when upright or positively aspected) symbolises:

A relationship that has weathered storms and grown stronger
A shared resilience and determination to make things work
Potential challenges that you face together, strengthening your bond

However, reversed or ill-dignified, the connection could be one of mistrust. One or both parties could be ignorant about how to uphold and/or respect sound boundaries.

The 9 of Wands As the Potential Outcome

As an outcome card, the 9 of Wands indicates:

A relationship that will require effort but has the potential for long-term success
The need for both partners to work on trust and openness
A strong foundation built on shared experiences and mutual support

In Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love, this outcome corresponds with the Commitment component where partners decide to maintain their love despite challenges.

The 9 of Wands in a Relationship Breakdown

During a relationship breakdown, the 9 of Wands may signify:

One or both partners feeling defensive and unwilling to compromise
Exhaustion from ongoing conflicts and considering whether to continue
The need to reassess boundaries and personal needs

This stage aligns with the Stagnation phase in Duck’s Model, where partners must decide whether to work on the relationship or move towards termination.

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Angelic Love Tarot Ritual for Sound Boundaries

9 of wands as feelings love tarot ritual for sound boundaries

To perform this ritual, you will need:

The 9 of Wands Tarot card
A red candle
A quiet, comfortable space

Light the red candle and place the 9 of Wands card in front of you.

Take a few deep breaths to centre yourself. Breathe in peace and let go of tension. Be fully present in the now.

Invoke Archangel Michael with this prayer (or use your own words):

“Archangel Michael, you who teach me courage, I call upon your divine presence. Please assist me in establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries in my relationships. Help me dissolve any patterns that no longer serve me and guide me towards love that honours my worth. Amen.”

Meditate on the 9 of Wands card, visualising a golden light surrounding you, representing your personal boundaries. Know that you are worthy of respect and honour. Feel this deeply.

When you feel ready, thank Archangel Michael and extinguish the candle or allow it to burn out safely.

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