
The 9 of Wands (Moon in Sagittarius) can be summed up with, ‘What doesn’t kill us makes us stronger.’
What we realise as we grow older is that our biggest battles often bring the most positive transformation. Understanding this makes it easier to fight on.
Some battles we lose but what matters is what we learn from those battles.
There are days when we feel like throwing in the towel but the light within won’t let us.
Sometimes, there are days when we are so battle-weary that all we can do is cry and keep wiping the tears from our faces. Those are the days when we need to remind ourselves that losing battles doesn’t mean losing the war. What matters is that we keep getting back up.
This being spirit in human form is not easy. But that’s precisely why our souls accepted the challenge. Laughing a lot about the craziness of it all helps, I find. And it beats becoming cynical and defensive. Laughter expands the energy; cynicism shrinks it.

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Gratitude
Gratitude, confidence and grace will always keep us far safer than fear, cynicism and mistrust. Letting past negative experiences dictate our choices today is a big mistake.
We have learned a lot and come a long way already. We know ourselves on a deeper level. But we mustn’t settle for how things are if they are making us unhappy. The power to change still lies within, no matter how old our negative thought patterns are or how traumatic past experiences were.
When we believe in change, we begin to see it. And the best way to speed change along is to give thanks for another day to battle on. Gratitude opens the channels of confidence and grace. That is how all good things begin to flow through us and back to us.
Another important lesson associated with the 9 of Wands is vigilance. The 9 of Wands is the sentinel, primarily of his own soul, but he can also act as a bulwark against evil and oppression in society.
Affirmation: “I remain confident, vigilant and alert.”
9 of Wands Prayer

Dear Mother-Father God, thank you for the lessons that enable me to find sound personal boundaries. Help me stay alert and on guard against all evil. Amen and so it is!
Correspondences for the 9 of Wands
Zodiac Sign: Sagittarius
Planet: The Moon
Archangel: Michael, ruler of the Element of Fire
Gemstone: Lapis lazuli and selenite
Essential oils: Frankincense and jasmine
9 of Wands in Love and Relationships
Like the 4 of Pentacles, the 9 of wands is a card of personal boundaries. Often it indicates a need to draw new boundaries after break-ups and betrayals. Depending on the spirit with which these lessons are greeted, the person represented by this card can either choose to implement sound boundaries or become jaded and cynical. The latter leads to isolation and an unwillingness to share oneself with others.
To the relationship, the 9 of Wands can be a card of great strength if well-dignified. It can mean that you have learned to respect each other’s differences and that you have reached a level of immunity against petty arguments. You are able to see the other person’s true nature and intentions and simply have no need to sweat the small stuff anymore.
On the other hand, if ill-dignified, the 9 of Wands could mean that one or both of you are constantly walking on eggshells around the other. There could be a tendency to take everything personally and lash out.
Intimacy
Sexually, going back to the upright or well-dignified card meaning, this can be a card of great passion and transcendence in the sexual experience. You can see this as the ability to channel the Kundalini life force during the climax. Ill-dignified or reversed pretty much says intimacy is off the table. Remember that the 9s relate to The Hermit.
Single and looking
To a single person, the 9 of Wands can be seen as an indication of a need to take stock of the past and make sure that lessons are integrated without any lingering cynicism and defensive behavioural patterns.
If the Seeker integrates the lessons successfully, there is great strength and visionary ability in the 9 of Wands. It is not likely that the Seeker will settle for anything less than they deserve next time.
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