“What was the lesson?” Break-Up Tarot Spread

break-up tarot spread

The Break-up Tarot Spread

No lengthy introduction is needed for this break-up Tarot spread. We’ve all been there… We thought he was the One and it turned out to be just another lesson. Sometimes it’s worth not looking over your shoulder but certain relationships leave you thinking there’s a lesson you were meant to get. If that’s how you feel then that’s your truth and you need to honour it… Tarot to the rescue!

1. Theme

The overall spiritual/higher reason for why you got together in this incarnation. A Major here can indicate a soul mate connection, as well as lessons carried forward from past lives. Example: The Sun – The higher reason is self-expression, courage and playfulness

2. What he brought 

The individual theme for him (or her if you are in a female same-sex relationship.) This is what he brought to the table to create the dynamic underpinning the main theme. Example: 9 of Disks – He brought issues surrounding money and independence

3. What she brought 

The individual theme for her (or him if you are in a male same-sex relationship.) This is what she brought to the table to create the dynamic underpinning the main theme. Example: The Empress – She brought  issues surrounding nurturing, sexuality and creativity

4. His lesson 

What he was meant to learn. Example: The Moon – For those money-related issues and concerns about independence he was meant to learn to dive deep into his subconscious and face his deepest fears. His lesson probably spans more than one lifetime

5. Her lesson 

What she was meant to learn. Example: 8 of Wands – For those Empress-related issues her lesson was to slow down and pause for contemplation, perspective and spiritual instruction

6. How he did 

A report card from the Cosmos. Example: 6 of Wands – Initially brave and boisterous, pride may have obscured the vision and prevented him from diving deep into the murky waters of The Moon

7. How she did

A report card from the Cosmos. Example: The Lovers – She kept her heart open but may have struggled with making the right choices due to a lack of prudence which depends on deliberation

8. Karma

This indicates if there are cords that need to be cut. Example: The Devil – Yes, a definite sign that cord-cutting would be helpful. There may have been karmic issues coming into this relationship with a Major as the first card and if anything, they are likely to generate more of the same. This doesn’t mean they cannot resolve the karma individually. All it takes is a willingness to forgive and release, both of which are usually easier once a birds-eye perspective of what is going on has been gained.

A whopping 5 out of 8 cards in this sample reading are Majors, a strong indication of a soul mate bond between these two. Even with the karma released and full healing taking place in this incarnation, they may decide to try the lesson again with slightly different parameters in another incarnation. At the level of the soul, we are ever so keen on getting it right and if it is with someone we love we don’t mind so much… 😉

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Comments 9

  1. Hello Lisa,

    Great spread. I got the £ aces for the first three positions with the ace of cups in card position one which I presume means learning about unconditional love! However all it’s done is hurt me and hes been stubborn and withholding.
    The karmic card was the 9 of swords which I have had time after time with readings for him. It rings true because hes caused me no end of sleepless nights and i feel he has had them wrangling over his intimacy issues.
    Ive tried to help him out of his rut as hes been single for 12 years after getting a broken heart. but i feel the last card means nothing has been learned and we ned to cut ties. Do you agree and what as the point of the three aces in the first place if weve made no progress? { they were, ace of cups, ace of swords for him and ace of pents for me.
    Thank you,


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      Hi Mandy, here I am three years after the original comment was made to say a HUGE ‘I’m so sorry!’ – I don’t know how… but your comment was hiding, awaiting approval. Sometimes I miss notifications or simply don’t get them. Anyhoo… What happened with this relationship and what conclusions did you reach in the end? It is possible (likely even, with the 9 of Swords as the outcome) that the Aces refer to new beginnings for you on an individual basis rather than as a couple… and of course, it is entirely possible to love someone unconditionally (Ace of Cups) even though you are not together any more. Angel Blessings, Lisa

  2. Thanks for the great spread Lisa!! I am very happy and the reading I did was very useful.

    My lesson was a change of perspective, he couldn’t make up his mind, control his passions or his fears of being trapped and much of his unhappiness is of his own doing. I tried to offer him a better alternative, but he disappointed me, I over thought things not realizing better was waiting for me, instead I went off the handle with my emotions. Lastly the high priestess says I already know what I need to do for healing. I no longer find “lost souls” to try to save 🙂

  3. I think this could be a great spread for existing relationships too! It could easily be adapted to bring current challenges in a relationship to light. Numbers 4 & 5 could be rephrased as lessons to be learned. 6 & 7 can be changed to the present– how he/she is doing.

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