“It is easy to tell the toiler
How best he can carry his pack
But no one can rate a burden’s weight
Until it has been on his back”
~ Ella Wheeler Wilcox
When was the last time you asked for help or said a prayer?
The 10 of Wands typically shows up when we feel that we are at the end of our tether. Responsibilities have (sometimes imperceptibly) been piled on top of responsibilities until we reach breaking point. Sometimes this card shows up toward the end of a creative project which may have felt enjoyable to start with but now feels only like a chore and all the inspiration has gone out it.
The lesson then that comes with this card is often about learning to ask for help. Being a proud control freak who hates to feel like she is imposing herself on anyone, I know how hard this can be. The trick is to learn to not think of asking for help as impositioning the other person but as offering them the gift of the opportunity to be of service.
It is equally blessed to receive as to give – perhaps not for our personal pride (which really needs no extra encouragement), but for the highest good of All.
“God gave us crying so other folks could see when we needed help, and help us.”
~ Joshilyn Jackson
Affirmation: “I do my best and am not afraid to ask for help.”
10 of Wands Prayer
Dear Mother-Father God (or whichever higher power you acknowledge), thank you that all those who are weary can lay down their burdens at your feet. Remind us often that we are not alone. So mote it be!
Correspondences for 10 of Wands
Zodiac Sign: Sagittarius
Archangel: Cassiel (Ruler of Saturn) and Raguel (angel of Sagittarius)
Gemstone: Black obsidian, azurite
Scent: Bergamot, sandalwood, geranium
The 10 of Wands in Love and Relationships
You or your partner are feeling burdened or even oppressed. For too long now have you been pushing your own needs to one side to accommodate the needs of your partner or other family members, without receiving enough support in return.
Your life force has no way to go and avoiding a confrontation is becoming impossible. It can, of course, be avoided through communication but with the 10 of Wands, the situation most likely arose because the two of you didn’t manage a way of communicating your needs to begin with.
So buckle down and prepare to clear the air with some relationship drama. Just remember: better out than in. Perhaps you’ll come out the other side… or maybe you’ll come to realise that it’s over. Know that you did all you could and don’t feel bad about getting angry. It happens to the best of us.
If you survive as a couple on the other side of a 10 of Wands combustion, you really do need to find a way of communicating and making sure that things are fair and everyone’s needs considered and met – otherwise you’ll just start the build-up for the next blow-out… no matter how good the make-up sex was!
In a reading for a single person, this could mean that you’ve worn yourself out having a bit too much ‘fun.’ Physical exhaustion could be a sign that you need to slow down on the partying. Look for the 7 or 3 of Cups nearby.
It could also be an indication that you are burdening yourself with unrealistic expectations of a prince charming ideal that doesn’t exist. The dreamy Page/Princess of Cups together with the 10 of Wands is an example of this.
Either way it’s always good to remember to let go and leg God when this card shows up. You’ve been pushing just a bit too hard.
Sexually, this card warns you to be very aware of and state your own likes and needs or your energy will get seriously depleted.
A reversal of this card usually means that you are coming out the other side after a tough time. You can let go of your burdens and relax. The next Ace of Wands is waiting just around the corner…