Healing After Loss with Tarot and EFT

EFT and Tarot 3 of Swords Frideborg Tarot

The other day, I was contemplating the sense of communion that accompanies the 3 of Cups. This led me to examine some of my own blocks to being fully in a state of communion with the All that Is and people around me. This may sound like a painful undertaking but I was motivated by an optimistic sense of curiousity of where it would take me, as well as by an inner knowledge that some healing would take place.

I pulled three further cards that helped me hone in on specific blocks: 2 of Cups, Ace of Coins and The Sun – all reversed, which in my case was indicative of blocked energy/emotions.

My card of the day, the 3 of Swords Rx, ’rounds up’ all these blockages by taking me deeper into the process of loss and grief. This process is universal and applies to all emotional blocks. I have posted a video on the five stages of grief below, and I urge you to watch it even if you don’t feel that this applies to you right now, because the truth of the matter is that we all experience all five stages most days. Learning to identify them gives us the ability to get to the resolution more quickly, or to at least be aware of why we are stuck in patterns of irritation or constantly trying to fix things.

As those of you who have been following this blog will know, I have started using EFT to free up emotional blockages. EFT is an energy meridian technique that utilises the same points that are used in acupuncture treatments. Rather than puncturing the skin to stimulate them, EFT teaches a simple technique for tapping on these points. This technique can literally be learned in minutes, and once you know the ‘basic recipe,’ you can tap on pretty much anything. EFT can also be used for programming and affirming positive traits, states and qualities.

I love the synchronicity of pulling the reversed 3 of Swords today, the day after Saturn moved into Libra. Saturn (the planet of limitations, karma, perseverance, discipline etc) in Libra (the Zodiac sign of relationship harmony, poise, peace, charm, diplomacy and friendliness). Saturn is in Libra until some time next year, so we’ll have plenty of time to sift through our relationship issues. Those of us who are willing to do the work will reap massive benefits from transformed, deeper and more meaningful relationships. Saturn is a hard task master but he is known to reward those who show him due respect.

3 of Swords reversed, Legacy of the Divine TarotThe Legacy of the Divine Tarot 3 of Swords shows us half the face of a grieving woman with tears streaming down her face. This is clearly not a person who is in the denial stage of the grieving process. She has reached the stage of despair. The good news is that the next stage is resolution. Somewhere along the line she will already have gone through the initial anxiety/shock stage, the trying-to-fix-it denial stage, as well as the stage of anger and defiance.

Questions to ask: Am I allowing for the process of grief to unfold or have I become stuck in one of the stages? Tuning into my body, what information does my body provide about the stages of grief and loss? Is anger lodged somewhere? Does despair hold my heart capture?

Affirmations: I accept that loss is part of life. I allow myself to feel my emotions fully before releasing them. My emotions give me valuable information. I thank the wisdom of my body for showing me where the grieving process has become stuck.


Addendum: this post dates back to 2009 when I still used reversals. Those of you who have been following my more recent work may already know why I abandoned them in favour if reading with upright cards only. For those who are going ‘WTF, who would do such a thing?!’ I offer this explanation.


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